Total Consecration on Wedding day?

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I read the treatise on marian devotion by Louis G. de Montfort over the past May and I would like to consecrate myself to Jesus through Mary.

Since I am getting married on a Marian day (August 22, Queenship of Mary) I though the preparation could be a beautiful way to live my last month before the wedding day and that it would be great to be able to consacrate myself totally to Jesus through Mary on the same day of my wedding, since I want to serve God through marriage. It may be nice, every year to repeat the consecration before the wedding anniversary and be reminded on my particular vocation through which I serve God.

Do you think this is a good idea or can be rather putting too much together? Also, is it needed to have a spiritual director approval to undergo the consecration or can it be a completely individual and private initiative (I don’t have a spiritual director at the moment)?

Thanks for your advices!
 
What does your fiancé think? I think if the two of you did it together, it would be very nice.
 
I share my intention with him but I don’t know if he would be ready right now.
I though it is nice that he will have an opportunity to join me once per year, and it would certainly be a gift if he does, but I also accept if he never will. Certainly though, he is involved, because my consecration is also to better love him. 🙂

Would it be recommendable to choose another day if I am the only one to do it?
 
I would think it would be nice to do on the Assumption, the week prior.
in many places consecration is done on this holyday.

This is something to be discussed with the Pastor, or the Priest that will marry you.
 
I like the idea of doing it together: that’s a beautiful gesture which I’m sure will bear much fruit.

I can’t think of any idea not to do it by yourself, however, should your future spouse not be interested in joining you. Yes, I suppose the 33 days leading up to a wedding can be rather stress-filled, and this might make certain versions of the consecration more difficult than others. But frankly, I think there are preparations for consecration which are rather light in terms of daily commitment. Fr. Gaitley’s famous version certainly is meant to be used by the busier type of individual.

Technically speaking, however, one has traditionally made the consecration after assisting at a Mass which celebrates a Marian feast. A wedding Mass would be a bit different, even if it happens to fall on a the day of a Marian feast. I hope the distinction is clear.

Likewise, you may or you may not have the time, after receiving Jesus in Holy Communion, to actually make the consecration prayer. I suppose it may also be problematic to focus on such a prayer while also thanking God that you’ve just received the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony. Likewise, you may not find yourself in a position to be able to quietly sit somewhere directly after Mass to consecrate yourself to Our Lady. I’m sure you’ll be surrounded by people who love you and who want to congratulate you, and your attention might be pulled in all sorts of directions.

These arguments might lead a person to conclude that perhaps it would be best to do the consecration on another day.

But the actual consecration is a rather personal thing, and it can be done however you see fit, so long as you are serious about what you’re doing, and so long as you do it from your heart. If you think it’s best to do it one way, then I sincerely wouldn’t advise anyone to try to change your mind, so long as you’re not doing something obviously outrageous or bizarre. 🙂
 
Also, the Consecration takes time…you may want to look into it more. If you’re having a Nuptial Mass, it may make the Mass really long. Keep in mind you’ll have people of all faiths there.
It’s rather personal. Talk to the priest.
 
pianistclare said:
If you’re having a Nuptial Mass, it may make the Mass really long.
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Ugh, I couldn’t for the life of me remember the phrase Nuptial Mass when I was replying previously.

I was thinking, Matrimonial Mass? No. Matrimony Mass? No. What the heck is it called?! 😛
 
pianistclare said:
Also, the Consecration takes time…you may want to look into it more. If you’re having a Nuptial Mass, it may make the Mass really long. Keep in mind you’ll have people of all faiths there.
It’s rather personal. Talk to the priest.
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I was not thinking of doing it publicly and rather to keep it personal.
Indeed, the considerations made in the thread are valid points and perhaps doing it on the 15 could be easier from a logistic point of view. Also, it is true that the Mass I will be attending on that day will have a different focus.

Would I be still on time though to do it for the 15 of August?
 
And I forgot, thanks all for your answers! It’s very helpful for me.
 
Magnificat2014 said:
I was not thinking of doing it publicly and rather to keep it personal.
Indeed, the considerations made in the thread are valid points and perhaps doing it on the 15 could be easier from a logistic point of view. Also, it is true that the Mass I will be attending on that day will have a different focus.

Would I be still on time though to do it for the 15 of August?
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I think if you double up just a few days (maybe each Sunday) that you will have plenty of time. Also… there are apps with the prayers on them, and a series of videos on Youtube by a very nice Bishop. He does all the prayers for the first two periods of time, iirc, then just the prayers which change daily. That was very helpful to me.

**ETA: Oh, oh, oh!!! Today is the first day for it to be on the Feast of the Assumption!!! **
 
Very cool. That when I did for my baby daughter 24 years ago. 😃

It involved the prayers, a Bible, a candle, and an offering besides being at the Mass with the others.
Sounds lovely! Best wishes!
St_Francis said:
I think if you double up just a few days (maybe each Sunday) that you will have plenty of time. Also… there are apps with the prayers on them, and a series of videos on Youtube by a very nice Bishop. He does all the prayers for the first two periods of time, iirc, then just the prayers which change daily. That was very helpful to me.

**ETA: Oh, oh, oh!!! Today is the first day for it to be on the Feast of the Assumption!!! **
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My fiancee today said it could be nice to do it together next year, ending on our wedding anniversary. 🙂

I am thinking that perhaps it is then best to wait one year and do it with him… on the other hand one year seems like a long wait…what’s best?

also, is it mandatory or just advisable to do it each year on the very same Marian feast?

Thanks!
 
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