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I am very discouraged right now. My brother has just been hospitalized due to his bi-polar illness. My sister is critically ill, and in the end stages of her illness. I am her primary care giver and this is not always so easy. My father is in his late 70’s and has to deal with all this. His health is better than all of his children including mine. How hard for him to see all his children so ill they either can’t work or can barely keep a job.

If it was not for his help we would all land up on the street I am sure. We are that financially handicapped due to low wages, no wages or being on disability. My own health puts me at a chronological age near that of my father and I am only in my 50’s.

I am tired of illness, poverty, unemployment, everything. I can’t believe that God has allowed so much misery and loss in my family over the years. Us “kids” never got married, got to have children, build up careers. We have barely survived every year. I feel so done with everything. And unfortunately, I have found little comfort or help from the Church, especially in the last 10 years.

I am just plain done.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death
Amen.
 
The saints have told us those who suffer most are actually closest to Christ, odd as that may sound.

I pray that God may help you and strengthen you, and your faith, give you hope.

Hail Mary, Full of Grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen. :gopray:
 
I could copy-pasta prayers and quotes here but I think you’ve probably heard a lot of those already, and sadly I don’t think I can tell you anything that will recast your faith iron-strong.

A lot of bad stuff goes on in life, some seem to be born into blessed luxurious existences who act like brats (although not all are of course), others who appear more deserving have far less and the unjustice appears profound.

I don’t believe God sends these to torment us, for that would make him malicious no do I belive he sits by indifferent, for that would make him unloving. I have observed one thing though, that those who have the least and have suffered the most are some of the most loving, considerate and good people I have ever met. Much suffering in the world appears to be the work of man, but that in itself seems to help forge some of the greatest good in others. Without knowing suffering, we cannot truly appreciate comfort.

Feeling discouraged is a natural part of faith, a lot of people know those times when everythings tumbling down, they receive awful news and life or the future looks bleak. Despite that, it’s faith and love towards God (and in turn those around us) that carries us through and helps us to endure the hardship, be they minor or extreme. Quite possibly a reason why you’ve endured this long.

There is comfort to be found, quite often from the church but not always (for whatever reasons). There are those who do care Cricket2, and I believe God cares too, even if it can seem sometimes he is indifferent to our plights.

Stay strong hugs
 
Keep fighting. There is always hope!

In nomine Patris, et Filii, et Spiritus Sancti. Amen

Ave Maria, gratia plena, Dominus tecum.
Benedicta tu in mulieribus,
et benedictus fructus ventris tui, Iesus.
Sancta Maria, Mater Dei,
ora pro nobis peccatoribus,
nunc, et in hora mortis nostrae. Amen.

In nomine Patris, et Filii, et Spiritus Sancti. Amen
 
Don’t despair. God is still with us through all of the trials of life. Please talk to a social worker or two about what help may be available to your family.
 
We pray for Cricket and the intentions of her many posts, especially that she might be called to attend daily mass and to escape the Canadian socialism.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen.
 
Loving_disciple said:
Your story sounds similar to Jobs
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Funny you should say that. A year ago August my sister was near death and in a coma. My dad had been sick, as well as my brother. I had to have surgery shortly after she was able to come home after 50 days in the hospital. Believe it or not we also lost one of our cats and a dog.

One day I actually told God that I had had enough, and that I was not Job, and didn’t want to be. I suppose that I was being a bit brash but I was beyond anything but anger and depressed. I really am not Job.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for Cricket2, now and at the hour of her death.

Amen.
 
eschator83 said:
We pray for Cricket and the intentions of her many posts, especially that she might be called to attend daily mass and to escape the Canadian socialism.
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Oh dear. You have made a bit of an error. If I had a chance I would return to Canada (my place of birth), for my medical care. I would bring my whole family if I could. The care there is much better (I know everyone has heard otherwise.) No one loses their homes due to health care needs and the taxes they pay do get used as expected.

During my childhood our mother had some medical issues. Since she was Canadian she, on several occasions received her care there. My dad what was considered good insurance here in the States, but it still cost him less to send her there for care. It was free and cost him nothing but her trip there.

One area that seems to confuse people here is the need to wait for certain treatments. Those long wait lists are generally for elective surgeries like face lifts etc. Several of my mothers family members had urgent care needs and never had to wait excessively for care. She has family in every Province, including the Yukon. Many Canadians, if visiting the US, especially near the border, will buy extra coverage in Canada. It only cost $1 per person. That way if they get sick here they have full coverage. In addition, many will actually insist on being transported back to Canada for care, even from car accidents, sudden injuries or illness. It costs them nothing and the care is better.

No system is perfect, even Canada’s, but my personal experience has been better care there than here. I could go back and have full coverage for anything within three days or less. I only stay because my family, what is left of it, are here in the US.

I have friends from France and England who would tell you the same about the care they get in their home countries. They often ask were all the bad notions come from concerning the level of care they receive at “home.” Our system terrifies them enough, that they continue their coverage in France and England rather than use our systems insurance companies.

I thank everyone for their prayers. They are appreciated.
 
Praying for you to find happiness and good health and for the rest of your family.
 
I bind all evil inside your family and around your family, inside your families friends and around your families friends, inside and outside of your family home/ workplace and all who read this post to the Precious Blood of Our Lord Jesus Christ. Through the Immaculate Heart of Mary with the intercession of all the Holy angels and saints. Amen.
May Almighty God Bless you.
Keep fighting the Good fight!
Your brother in Christ.
Chris.
 
***Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death
Amen.

:crossrc:***
 
Praying for you, that the Lord may strengthen you and guide you during this time. Also praying for your family intentions and for your financial situation.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen
 
Cricket2 said:
Oh dear. You have made a bit of an error. If I had a chance I would return to Canada (my place of birth), for my medical care. I would bring my whole family if I could. The care there is much better (I know everyone has heard otherwise.) No one loses their homes due to health care needs and the taxes they pay do get used as expected.

During my childhood our mother had some medical issues. Since she was Canadian she, on several occasions received her care there. My dad what was considered good insurance here in the States, but it still cost him less to send her there for care. It was free and cost him nothing but her trip there.

One area that seems to confuse people here is the need to wait for certain treatments. Those long wait lists are generally for elective surgeries like face lifts etc. Several of my mothers family members had urgent care needs and never had to wait excessively for care. She has family in every Province, including the Yukon. Many Canadians, if visiting the US, especially near the border, will buy extra coverage in Canada. It only cost $1 per person. That way if they get sick here they have full coverage. In addition, many will actually insist on being transported back to Canada for care, even from car accidents, sudden injuries or illness. It costs them nothing and the care is better.

No system is perfect, even Canada’s, but my personal experience has been better care there than here. I could go back and have full coverage for anything within three days or less. I only stay because my family, what is left of it, are here in the US.

I have friends from France and England who would tell you the same about the care they get in their home countries. They often ask were all the bad notions come from concerning the level of care they receive at “home.” Our system terrifies them enough, that they continue their coverage in France and England rather than use our systems insurance companies.

I thank everyone for their prayers. They are appreciated.
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laurie46:
Hi, just came across this today. I am from Canada and appreciate your comments on our Health Care…it is far from perfect but we are very blessed to have it. I am so sorry for your hardship. I am a caregiver for 2 sisters - who are 75 and 62. One has Multiple Sclerosis and is in a wheelchair or bed only. My younger sister has bi-polar and other behavioural problems. I would take the physical problems anytime over dealing with emotional and mental issues.

I retired after 42 years and my sister living with the above 2 became ill and died of cancer, she had just turned 65. I lost a brother to cancer at age 60, I was with both my parent when they passed. We were originally 8 children, however, of the remaining 6 - I am the primary care giver of the 2 sisters that need 24 hour care. Luckily, in Canada, I have access to home care service for 2 hours morning and evenings 7 days a week. This helps tremendously. I know today, however, it would be more difficult to obtain these services for new requests because like elsewhere there are many cuts in the system.

We all become totally discouraged…but we regain our strength quickly when we accept that this is our calling and try to get a day or two of respite when we can. I wish this for you. God Bless.
 
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