Pondering the question why transsexualism is so dispised [sic], I first referred to the definition of the word despise in order to place into context the question. Definitionally, I learned the word bears the following meanings: to look down on with contempt or aversion or to regard as distasteful.
Throughout my experience trying to grasp the approach to me by those few who know personally my transsexed circumstance, I have on the one hand learned that I was not welcome in the home of my parents, who sought pastoral care regarding my sinful way; I have received written accusations of sin from anther family member who in love endeavoured to turn me to the services of a Christian organization based in Colorado Springs, CO; and my pastor has shouted to me at the top of her voice that I must yield only to Christ and put away from myself the essence of Satan which surrounded me, oh and by the way, I was also told that this individual could no longer be my pastor although my family would certainly be welcome. Such loving-kindness does not speak well for the non-Catholic Christian faith background from which I emerged. Definitionally, it seemed, I learned first hand what it was to be despised i.e. looked down upon with contempt or distaste, and such an experience was dealt at the hands of some of those whom I most trusted. Truly, one cannot in all candor expect ready open armed acceptance throughout society for people situated as are we. I just had held hope discussion might commence allowing growth all around.
Having read much, I had attempted to share printed writings demonstrating the then current belief regarding the etiology of transsexualism so those who were being introduced to me might learn a means to accept me both as they knew me and as I was then revealing myself. I believe each of the above referenced parties reacted out of medical/scientific ignorance, distaste, and fear as they took the material I presented and threw it to the rubbish. Their foundation was and continues to be the Word, as they referred me repeatedly to inexact scriptural passages which did not apply.
That being said it seems as well that the posted question begs another question; namely, whether those who are transsexed, or intersexed for that matter, are despised universally. From my experience both personally and through the privilege of reading all of the posts placed in this thread, I am certain we are not universally despised; thus, on the other hand I know I am loved and supported while not despised by the triune God; by my wife with whom I cherish a mutually loving, supporting, dedicated, chaste, and now celibate relationship; by my children who, being informed, love me nevertheless although with lingering questions; by some who seek knowledge and understanding through threads such as this; and by a mere handful of close friends, extended family, and care givers .
Of course, none of this connotes a dismissal of my continuing, and I imagine perpetual, self examination in view of my moment by moment relationship with Christ, with others, and my desire to learn ever more. Do I fear moving into full time? Certainly, because I am not blinded to the hate which pervades some ranks of society. Am I concerned that some who despise may mistreat me or those near and dear to me? Yes, and it is with care that I have taken small steps in this whole process of self examination, acknowledgment, growth, liberation, and revelation.
My heart aches for all in this corporeal existence whom life circumstance has so challenged and I pray daily that we may all know peace.
Blessings and Hugs to all,
Melissa
