Trouble at work, again

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Please pray for me once more . . .my apologies, I couldn’t find my original thread covering this. My sitter called me partway through Monday saying she had strep and so I took off early to go get my kiddos. DH was gracious enough to take off yesterday, then she called yesterday to say she’d been really sick all day, but I could send the kids today if I wanted. I just couldn’t do that. I called my boss to tell her that I needed to stay home and she sighed and said ok, but that I would need verbal counseling regarding absenteeism.

This stresses me out to no end, plus pressure from DH and some unkind words from 2 other people and I was about to melt down. Thankfully my FIL will come in today and I’m still taking off early to get my big kids from school. I just remembered that I already have 2 write-ups on my record in the last 6mo: 1 for not taking the flu shot and the other for an honest mistake. PLUS we just had layoffs yesterday.

I am so stressed, and we’re not even through the ‘sick’ season yet. Forget about covering for sick sitters and kids, what about DH and me? Thank you, Father, for your Divine Providence and caring for us once more when we so desperately need you. My heart still longs to be able to quit my job and stay at home full time. Please, Dear God, hear my prayers. Mother Mary, pray for us!
 
I realize you are looking at this from your perspective only…but in fairness, think how your absences affect your employer and co-workers. Whenever you are gone others have to take up the slack, and that can cause a lot of problems and hard feelings, too.

You need a back-up plan for when your sitter (your sister?) is sick or can’t watch the children. You and your husband need to sit down together and figure it out. A neighbor, the parents of school friends, someone from your parish…rack your brains and don’t just say “oh that won’t work” until you try. It’s not like it should be more than a couple times a year you have to use them, right?

I know from past posts you want to be a SAHM, but obviously your family situation doesn’t allow that right now. Instead of stressing, letting it make you miserable, etc…find good in things, be grateful you have work and can help take care of your family. Get that backup plan in place, and it will take that problem off your plate.
 
JLCecilia said:
Please pray for me once more . . .my apologies, I couldn’t find my original thread covering this. My sitter called me partway through Monday saying she had strep and so I took off early to go get my kiddos. DH was gracious enough to take off yesterday, then she called yesterday to say she’d been really sick all day, but I could send the kids today if I wanted. I just couldn’t do that. I called my boss to tell her that I needed to stay home and she sighed and said ok, but that I would need verbal counseling regarding absenteeism.

This stresses me out to no end, plus pressure from DH and some unkind words from 2 other people and I was about to melt down. Thankfully my FIL will come in today and I’m still taking off early to get my big kids from school. I just remembered that I already have 2 write-ups on my record in the last 6mo: 1 for not taking the flu shot and the other for an honest mistake. PLUS we just had layoffs yesterday.

I am so stressed, and we’re not even through the ‘sick’ season yet. Forget about covering for sick sitters and kids, what about DH and me? Thank you, Father, for your Divine Providence and caring for us once more when we so desperately need you. My heart still longs to be able to quit my job and stay at home full time. Please, Dear God, hear my prayers. Mother Mary, pray for us!
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Praying to St. Joseph for you to find peace at work.
 
JLCecilia said:
Please pray for me once more . . .my apologies, I couldn’t find my original thread covering this. My sitter called me partway through Monday saying she had strep and so I took off early to go get my kiddos. DH was gracious enough to take off yesterday, then she called yesterday to say she’d been really sick all day, but I could send the kids today if I wanted. I just couldn’t do that. I called my boss to tell her that I needed to stay home and she sighed and said ok, but that I would need verbal counseling regarding absenteeism.

This stresses me out to no end, plus pressure from DH and some unkind words from 2 other people and I was about to melt down. Thankfully my FIL will come in today and I’m still taking off early to get my big kids from school. I just remembered that I already have 2 write-ups on my record in the last 6mo: 1 for not taking the flu shot and the other for an honest mistake. PLUS we just had layoffs yesterday.

I am so stressed, and we’re not even through the ‘sick’ season yet. Forget about covering for sick sitters and kids, what about DH and me? Thank you, Father, for your Divine Providence and caring for us once more when we so desperately need you. My heart still longs to be able to quit my job and stay at home full time. Please, Dear God, hear my prayers. Mother Mary, pray for us!
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Thank you all for the prayers! I am at work sick today and emotionally drained and exhausted. Blessed Mother, St. Joseph, help me be strong.
 
Hail, holy Queen, Mother of mercy, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve. To thee to we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn, then, most gracious advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this, our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus. O clement, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary.

V. Pray for us, O holy Mother of God.
R. That we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ.

Let us pray. Almighty and everlasting God, Who by the working of the Holy Spirit didst prepare both body and soul of the glorious Virgin Mother, Mary, that she might deserve to be made a worthy dwelling for Thy Son, grant that we who rejoice in her memory, may, by her loving intercession, be delivered from present evils and from lasting death, through the same Christ our Lord. Amen.
 
Pax2u, I completely understand what you’re saying about work. I don’t feel too awfully bad about leaving my work b/c nobody does my work when I’m gone. For each of my maternity leaves - a total of 24 weeks - nobody did my work while I was off for 6 weeks at a time. If my managers were so concerned about it, they would have made those arrangements.

We DO have a back-up sitter (our former sitter before our big kids started school), but she doesn’t take babies. I would happily send my 4yo to her and bring my baby w/ me to work - on those rare occasions - but it isn’t allowed. You are right, covering for a sick babysitter really doesn’t occur that often, the problem lies with caring for sick children. I was blessed last year that my friend who’s an RN volunteered her day off to care for 2 of my children who were actively sick, but I would not feel comfortable asking anyone else to expose themselves to getting sick. And it’s inevitable that none of my children will get sick at the same time.

I’m just thankful that DH, so far this year, has been willing to split time off with me. Before, it was just me, b/c he has only been at his job for a year and previously only had 5 days off the whole year. We briefly covered our new attendance policy at our mtg this morning and I’m hoping I can TT my boss and clarify that if I can at least work half of my shift on a kid-sick day that it won’t count against me. If that is so, we can make this work.
 
Hang in there! I remember those days when our kids were small…I also had to work, so just didn’t torment myself wishing for what I couldn’t have, and DH and I used up most of our vacation time dividing it up when someone had to be home with a sick child. Just remember, those years won’t last forever, and it WILL get easier!

Hope you are feeling better soon. I remembered you in my rosary today.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
They wrote you up for not taking a flu shot? Did I read that right?
Is that legal?

I know how hard it is to not be with your children all the time…God bless you family, I will pray for you!
Peace
 
Holy Michael the Archangel defend us in the day of battle.
Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray,
and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host,
by the Power of God,
thrust down to hell satan and all the wicked spirits,
who wander through the world for the ruin of souls.
Amen.

Remember, O most loving Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession and was left forsaken. Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you I come, before you I stand, a sorrowful sinner. Despise not my words, O Mother of the Word, but in your mercy, hear and answer me.
Amen
 
Is it possible to place your little ones in a day care center? Of course, if the child is sick, they would send the child home so you will still need a dependable, responsible person as a substitute if you cannot leave work. Praying for everything to work out for you and your family, especially keeping your job.
 
Praying that the Lord may grant you strength and guidance in this matter. Also praying for relief from stress for you.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen
 
pianistclare, yes, I get written up for not taking the flu shot. From what I’ve read and heard, many healthcare employers are making the flu shot a condition of employment. I sign a piece of paper forfeiting my raise for the year and accept a permanent mark on my record and I have to wear a mask (my scarlet letter) during the flu season. I’ve been fortunate that they’ve accepted my exemption this year and last, but I expect in the very near future they will not. From what I’ve read, this is not legal, but it doesn’t sound like that stops them. It is my understanding that Medicare reimbursement for hospitals is being linked to employee compliance with the flu vaccination.

I never had the flu shot growing up and I can’t recall too many times I got sick with the flu, but I’ve known die-hard co-workers to get their flu shot religiously every year still come down with it, so I’m not sold. Plus I feel it’s a forced medical procedure.
 
JLCecilia said:
pianistclare, yes, I get written up for not taking the flu shot. From what I’ve read and heard, many healthcare employers are making the flu shot a condition of employment. I sign a piece of paper forfeiting my raise for the year and accept a permanent mark on my record and I have to wear a mask (my scarlet letter) during the flu season. I’ve been fortunate that they’ve accepted my exemption this year and last, but I expect in the very near future they will not. From what I’ve read, this is not legal, but it doesn’t sound like that stops them. It is my understanding that Medicare reimbursement for hospitals is being linked to employee compliance with the flu vaccination.

I never had the flu shot growing up and I can’t recall too many times I got sick with the flu, but I’ve known die-hard co-workers to get their flu shot religiously every year still come down with it, so I’m not sold. Plus I feel it’s a forced medical procedure.
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I’m so sorry to hear this. I suppose if you went to the Labor Board, it would jeopardize your job. I’m not a fan of flu shots either, so I understand. I suppose hospitals have their reasons…but still.
Maybe some others here can shed light on this for me. I will continue to pray for you.
So sorry for your situation at present. St. Jude Thaddeus is the patron of Hospital Workers. I will offer prayers through his intercession…
Peace,
pianist
 
pianistclare, thanks for the heads up on St. Jude. I know some fellow co-workers who could use his intercession in dealing w/ added duties as a result of layoffs this week.
 
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