True love?

[BintuluChuchGuy]

Hello everyone,its been a long time since I posted.Entered college last year and i am busy till now.
Other than that,I found myself having a relationship with this girl I met at college.She’s a Catholic.Its been over three months and its been going well.
She has a good heart And for me,that matters most.
I was reading the YOUCAT book,and I read a quote from Mother Teresa about love…I don’t remember the full quote,but it touched on the matter that ‘true love hurts’.
Can anyone explain to me how so?For me,love is wanting the best for someone and for oneself.
So,how does it hurt and how does it apply to my relationship?

Would gladly accept any feedback as I want to improve myself for her and for God.I always relfect on Corinthians 13:4 to remind me of love.

 

[fhansen]

Hello everyone,its been a long time since I posted.Entered college last year and i am busy till now.
Other than that,I found myself having a relationship with this girl I met at college.She’s a Catholic.Its been over three months and its been going well.
She has a good heart And for me,that matters most.
I was reading the YOUCAT book,and I read a quote from Mother Teresa about love…I don’t remember the full quote,but it touched on the matter that ‘true love hurts’.
Can anyone explain to me how so?For me,love is wanting the best for someone and for oneself.
So,how does it hurt and how does it apply to my relationship?

Would gladly accept any feedback as I want to improve myself for her and for God.I always relfect on Corinthians 13:4 to remind me of love.

One who loves may hurt for the victims of hunger, poverty, physical pain, social injustice, all the various sufferings in this world-these cause anguish in the one who has compassion. Similarly a parent suffers for a child who is suffering themselves in some way. This pain, which Jesus felt for His wayward children, motivates one to action.

 

[Aggies08]

Fhansen has a much nicer answer. I’m going to add my 2c too in an example!

For example, DH had surgery. He was supposed to do certain exercises, etc, which hurt him quite badly. I still had to get him to do these things- I don’t like seeing him in pain, but that’s what is best for him.

I don’t like him to go on overnight trips, but sometimes that is necessary.

My kids get their shots- I do not like to hear them cry, or to need to tell the toddler “no” 10 times until she “gets it” and is mad at me, but it’s done out of love, even though I’m not overjoyed to be doing it.

Sometimes, what is best for someone is not what is best for us, or what we want/need. Sometimes I know I’m being selfish- but it still hurts- and sometimes I’m just sad/hurt about a situation that I know is best for him in the long run, even though it’s not fun/good/happy at the moment.

 

[Auntie_A]

Mother Teresa talks of love as a deep Christian love. She held the weak bodies of strange, sick and dying people, and told them of and showed them God’s love. A personal, romantic love has elements of that: long-suffering, forgiving, generous, respectful. In a marriage of true minds these elements will create hurt and growth in both individuals. The less selfish and the more God-centered, of course, the less hurt…but there will be hurt.

Watching your love suffer, struggle, give birth, sacrifice pleasures for the family, give up on always having to be right?..painful.

But many young people make the mistake of seeking pain in order for the relationship to feel real and passionate. Many people choose the wrong person and get seriously hurt by that person and they think it’s true love. Make sure you have chosen someone who puts God before you and themselves, and believes in God’s covenant of marriage. Make sure that person knows how to feel both pain and pleasure and deal with life with strength and courage.

 

[Lady_Love]

True love is of the deepest compassion. Compassion is deep empathy for another, an entering into the experience of the beloved. So if that experience is painful, you experience pain and if it is joyful, you experience joy. Mother Teresa lived among those who were suffering, therefore her compassion led her to experience much heartache. It takes tremendous generosity (self-sacrifice) to fully enter into another’s experience. If you are having a wonderful and elated day and you encounter one who is suffering, you abandon your elation to enter into the suffering of another.