mkipp, I know how you feel. You read so much about increased risks past 35 that it can be scary. We have had 3 children since my wife turned 35. She was 39 when our youngest (number 6) was born. She would likely be 40 or 41 if we are blessed with a 7th child (actually our 8th as we lost one early in her 6th pregnancy).
None of us can give you medical advice. But It would seem to me that 35 is a normal natural and Holy age to have a child. Many do it.
A child can have “issues” regardless of the mother’s age. Even if a child is born perfectly healthy, every healthy person is just one bad car accident away from having serious issues. You shouldn’t worry just because your wife is 36–but you might worry because any child you might have will be human. Humans get sick and die. If your child is born perfectly healthy, and lives a long, happy life, he or she will still*** die*** one day. Does that scare you?
If you can logically p(name removed by moderator)oint that fault with yourself then you should be able to dismiss it.
What she said.
Our last three were born --when my wife was 34, 39 and 43. No issues out of the ordinary–aside from the fact that it was harder for her to carry them and be on her feet all day – harder each time. I will say this–at the age of 36 we would never have thought to apply the words “advanced age” to ourselves. If we had any concerns–it was “are we up for this again”–of course once you get past that first year–it’s hard to imagine life without them. During that first year I have a hard time imagining a life where I can sleep through the night. Oh to be 36 again.