Trying to find confession

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The “turned away” thing baffles me also. I can’t imagine a priest would do this. It must have been the office staff making decisions for them, or maybe it was a case of priests being temporarily unavailable due to some other activity. Anyway, they should not have turned you away. But, I have read about similar ridiculous statements from office staff when people call churches. Don’t let it discourage you from going.

You don’t have a location on your profile, but if you are in USA, I find the website Masstimes.org to be helpful in finding churches that have confessions. However, always verify the info on Masstimes by checking the church website or calling them, as sometimes the info on Masstimes is out of date or the church has different schedules for summer time.
It happened to me. The parish has a regularly schedule time for confessions. I showed up and there was no priest in the church so I waited. Eventually I saw a priest enter and he wanted to know why I was there, so I told him confession. He said they were not having confessions and that the church was closed that day. Apparently he did not lock the door. There was no notice that the confessions had been canceled anywhere I looked and certainly not on the web site.
 
I checked my own parish.

Daily Mass times are wrong.

Confession times are wrong.

I don’t know where or how they get their data or where/how they update it.

The point is: check with the parish itself.
Usually reliable near us. If nothing else, the phone numbers are nearly always correct - unless parishes recently merged.

You can update Masstimes, adopt your own parish, too. Just click the parish name and there is a details link that lets you get to edits. Need to enter an email address, that’s all. Volunteer updating.
 
Other suggestions:

A local Catholic College or University or High School

A Retirement Community of Priests
 
Now that I work for our parish there is no excuse for me. We have confession on Wednesday afternoons and all I have to do is cross the street.
This caught my eye; someone I work with in RCIA is employed by the parish in other capacities also, and has mentioned several times that the rule for staff is that they have to seek a confessor outside the parish. Given we are suburban, that is not particularly difficult; and I have no idea if this is the pastor’s rule, an archdiocese rule, or “universal”; only that it applies to all the staff in my parish.
 
This caught my eye; someone I work with in RCIA is employed by the parish in other capacities also, and has mentioned several times that the rule for staff is that they have to seek a confessor outside the parish. Given we are suburban, that is not particularly difficult; and I have no idea if this is the pastor’s rule, an archdiocese rule, or “universal”; only that it applies to all the staff in my parish.
It applied at my former parish where I was the DRE. No confessions of employees heard. We went to the parish 10 miles away and took advantage of Penance services in Advent and Lent. Fortunately they had confessions several times a week. That parish only had them for 45 minutes on Saturday.

Just started a job at a new parish. Pastor doesn’t mind hearing employee confessions.
 
Don’t explain your situation.

When I travel, I just say I’m traveling and I need reconciliation. More often than not, the priest is accomodating.
 
Don’t explain your situation.

When I travel, I just say I’m traveling and I need reconciliation. More often than not, the priest is accomodating.
I have had the very same priest who is practically bounding with joy whenever he is asked to hear a confession have to apologize and turn me down because he had already had something on his schedule or already had too much to do in a time too short to do it. (Good homilies don’t just spring out of the tops of their heads, for instance.)

Parish priests tend to have very busy schedules and sometimes more deadlines than they can meet. Just because a priest cannot drop everything to hear a particular penitent’s confession does not mean he does not want to do so. It may only mean that he cannot accomodate that request without failing to honor a prior commitment.

Very busy Catholics sometimes find themselves spiritual directors who are priests. They schedule a time for consultation with their spiritual director that includes confession, and they make keeping that regular appointment as much of a priority as if they were seeing a dentist or an attorney or their cardiologist.

I second the motion of asking your pastor about this. If he has no time to talk in an informal way, make a formal appointment and use that to ask him what to do.
 
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