Turning the Other Cheek & High School Bullying

[Neo_Canaan]

That applies when you are being persecuted because of Christ and your belief in Him.
Not because a HS thug wants your lunch money.

Jesus also said that if someone wants your something, give that person your cloak as well.

 

[Neo_Canaan]

“Turn the other cheek” doesn’t mean that we can’t defend ourselves when we’re physically attacked.

Teach him how to defend himself.

Let him jam the heel of his hand up the bully’s nose one time. I guarantee you that will take care of his bully problems for good.

and wind up suspended from school for fightin’.

 

[Lion_of_Narnia]

… Fighting back is what bullies want. Why not punish them with self-respect, instead?

Bullies do NOT want “fighting back”–at least not effective fighting back. Turning the cheeck against an insult, good–it’s commanded. Against physical assault?—Just encourages the bullies to do it more–and perhaps to someone even less capable of defending themselves—and don’t think this attitude of getting away with it wont carry over into adult life…

Bullying is on the rise, and there seems to be a direct corelation, over the past 25 years, to schools also punishing the kids who defend themselves.

 

[Magicsilence]

Bullying comes in a variety of forms.

When I was bullied for a short while, kindness to one of the bullies STARTED to work.

And I just began to emotionally connect with him.

THEN, someone touched my behind one day when I was leaning over to play a shot on the pool tables in the school common room.

Now, when they had done it before (to mock my ‘homophobia’, which was really my dislike of homosexuality) I had just ignored them, tried to laugh it off.

The last time though, I was sooo mad. I went straight up to the person, pushed him back and held him in a headlock. Luckily, I have always been strong, although not physically big.

The guy was actually a long time friend and maintained that he hadn’t actually touched me, but I couldn’t care less who it was at the time. I was just fed up.

Anyway, he came up to me later and sort of apologised, we both ‘made up’ and he remarked that I nearly killed him with the headlock (which was an exaggeration, but still, it hurt him pretty bad).

Word got around I suppose.

The bullying stopped. Just like that.

Whats the moral of the story? I don’t know.

But flexing my muscles got rid of the bullies.

Im honestly unsure as to what I would do NOW if it happened again.

Take what you will from it

Peace and God Bless.

 

[mikew262]

What? Bullying can take severe forms if left unpunished. Can also emotionally impact the bullied child.

No child should have to go to school daily and be subjected to a bully. Would you expect to go to work everyday and encounter the daily bully? You’d march your butt square down to the HR dept and chat it up. My children are entitled to the same respect - though the HR dept happens to be the teacher or principal.

I love the zero tolerance policy.

I have had my son ( grade 3 ) bullied by other 3rd graders. Horrible that this behavior started at such a young age. The teacher handled the situation perfectly.

With all due respect, for the most part, zero tolerance policies (ZTPs) are for mediocre managers and leaders IMO. Its for managers who are afraid to make a decision on their own.

In a limited amount of circumstances, ZTPs are appropriate, but that is the exception.

In this case, bullies are troubled children who need help and correction. Kicking sombody out of school on a first infraction of bullying would be ridiculous. Corrective action should be taken, but there should be a build-up. After 3 or 4 attempts to correct the behavior fails then expulsion should be considered.

Concerning this thread, a bully should be ignored if possible, however there comes a time where you have to stand up for yourself.

 

[RomanCrusader]

When I was in my senior year of HS, I was in fairly good “social standing”. Then I got a job for the Alcohol Control program where I would go into liquor stores as a minor and buy alcohol. I would then inform the authorities about which store sold alcohol to minors.

Once this got leaked out in school, I was harassed and bullied for a period of time, including from “friends”. These “friends” of mine started spreading nasty rumors about me being a “snitch” and a “sneak”.

I basically came up with a conclusion: Screw all these jerks.

Don’t worry what others think of you. I felt I was doing a good thing by going after people selling alcohol to minors, and I wasn’t going to let a bunch of dumb idiots in school stop me.

Look at all these idiot kids in high schools. They value immoral sex, illegal drugs, disrespecting authority, ect. The boys with their drugs and “ghetto” attitude and the girls with their scandelous dress and vicious gossip disgusted me. I took heart in the fact that I was truly a shining beacon in this land of low-lifes. I knew that the people that really mattered (family, true friends, heros, Saints, GOD) cared about me.

Back in the 40s and 50s people and kids actually had values. These days with all the godlessness there is an obvious lack of values, which leads to increased bullying.

 

[Neo_Canaan]

When I was in my senior year of HS, I was in fairly good “social standing”. Then I got a job for the Alcohol Control program where I would go into liquor stores as a minor and buy alcohol. I would then inform the authorities about which store sold alcohol to minors.

Once this got leaked out in school, I was harassed and bullied for a period of time, including from “friends”. These “friends” of mine started spreading nasty rumors about me being a “snitch” and a “sneak”.

I basically came up with a conclusion: Screw all these jerks.

Don’t worry what others think of you. I felt I was doing a good thing by going after people selling alcohol to minors, and I wasn’t going to let a bunch of dumb idiots in school stop me.

Look at all these idiot kids in high schools. They value immoral sex, illegal drugs, disrespecting authority, ect. The boys with their drugs and “ghetto” attitude and the girls with their scandelous dress and vicious gossip disgusted me. I took heart in the fact that I was truly a shining beacon in this land of low-lifes. I knew that the people that really mattered (family, true friends, heros, Saints, GOD) cared about me.

Back in the 40s and 50s people and kids actually had values. These days with all the godlessness there is an obvious lack of values, which leads to increased bullying.

Adults do it too, not just teens.