Tuxedo

[AJL492]

Can the bride wear a tuxedo in a Catholic wedding if she is a tomboy (and heterosexual) and doesn’t like to wear dresses? I presume it must be a white tuxedo, since the bride to supposed to wear white.

And if the bride is allowed to wear a tuxedo, I presume the bridesmaids can too.

The reason I brought this up is because lesbians do not have a monopoly on wearing tuxedos in weddings. In fact, actress Alison Arngrim (from Little House on the Prairie) wore a tuxedo when she got married (to a man), although it was a civil ceremony and she wore a black tuxedo. Here is a photo: hgd.com/alison/photos3/wedding2.jpg

In addition, here is a photo of a heterosexual wedding with the bride wearing a white tux:

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[ShrodingersCat]

Can the bride wear a tuxedo in a Catholic wedding if she is a tomboy (and heterosexual) and doesn’t like to wear dresses? I presume it must be a white tuxedo, since the bride to supposed to wear white.

And if the bride is allowed to wear a tuxedo, I presume the bridesmaids can too.

The reason I brought this up is because lesbians do not have a monopoly on wearing tuxedos in weddings. In fact, actress Alison Arngrim (from Little House on the Prairie) wore a tuxedo when she got married (to a man), although it was a civil ceremony and she wore a black tuxedo. Here is a photo: hgd.com/alison/photos3/wedding2.jpg

In addition, here is a photo of a heterosexual wedding with the bride wearing a white tux:

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No reason why you can’t. Doesn’t have to be white either. That tradition started because of Queen Victoria so is less than 200 years old.

I love that 2nd photo! Slight wedding envy, wish I had thought of a tux…

 

[bitterhope]

I didn’t wear a white wedding dress and I’ve been to multiple Catholic weddings where the bride did not wear white. We got married in Mass–a regular Saturday evening vigil Mass–and wore regular clothes that we would normally wear to Mass. A good friend back home married in the same church a few years later and she and her husband both were in jeans and flannel shirts. I don’t think there is a requirement beyond modesty, and I don’t think even modesty is enforced very strongly everywhere (and some places not at all). I personally find it weird for a lady to wear a tuxedo but I’m not sure it is wrong. I’m a tomboy myself and usually wear jeans and still that seems weird. Not necessarily wrong though I guess.

 

[Andrea_Day]

The bride can wear anything she wants as long as it is modest. Same goes for bridesmaids.

 

[Joe_5859]

Canon law and liturgical rubrics do not dictate matters of dress for the laity. There’s no Church rule that brides must wear fancy white bridal gowns. That’s a custom in many (but not all) cultures, but it is not the law.

If a couple was going to do something different from the cultural norm, I’d probably encourage them to give the priest a heads up, though. Just so he knows what to expect.

 

[1ke]

If a couple was going to do something different from the cultural norm, I’d probably encourage them to give the priest a heads up, though. Just so he knows what to expect.

Agreed. And, one should note that really the pastor has the ultimate say. It’s not that the bride can wear ‘anything she wants’ as someone has stated.

Ultimately, if the pastor felt that such a non-traditional garb would be out of place within the context of the sacrament he could in fact tell the bride no. I have seen my old pastor veto MANY a wedding dress for a variety of reasons, usually modesty. But, if someone were wearing garb the pastor believed to be disrespectful, outlandish, or otherwise lacking in decorum he absolutely has the final say.

 

[EasterJoy]

Agreed. And, one should note that really the pastor has the ultimate say. It’s not that the bride can wear ‘anything she wants’ as someone has stated.

Ultimately, if the pastor felt that such a non-traditional garb would be out of place within the context of the sacrament he could in fact tell the bride no. I have seen my old pastor veto MANY a wedding dress for a variety of reasons, usually modesty. But, if someone were wearing garb the pastor believed to be disrespectful, outlandish, or otherwise lacking in decorum he absolutely has the final say.

This. If your pastor says it is OK, go ahead and don’t worry about it. If he says it is not OK, then find something that he thinks is acceptable and don’t argue with him.