Every family is different, and every family has different dynamics, and I think, given the circumstances, both these families are doing pretty well. I have a 3 year old grandaughter that acts exactly like Maddy, and I watch my daughter interact with her, and I’ve seen her try various things to bring the child under control. It is a fine line to walk to try to discipline a child like this without breaking their spirit. But my daughter has only 2 to worry about, not eight, and not 6 three-year olds. Kate is probably juggling a lot trying to raise these children, and is probably trying to sort out the priorities–what is worth getting upset over and what isn’t, and if sometimes her priorities seem a little out of kilter to some of us, well, I think she is doing the best she can. She probably makes her share of mistakes, but I don’t know any parents who have not made their share, I know I certainly did. And I’ll confess that I yelled at my kids and got impatient, and wasn’t the “model” parent at times, and my kids would act up in public, and fight among themselves, etc., but there was plenty of love, the kids knew it, and my 2 turned out pretty darned well despite my mistakes. These parents love their kids, and the kids know it, and that is going to make all the difference in the world.
And we have to remember that sometimes, when we think we are doing the right things, and are handling our kids in the right way, others might have the completely opposite opinion and might be criticizing us for our parenting methods.
She seems to love him…it shows in her eyes…and I think that if a camera were filming all of our relationships/marriages, it might catch a few bad moments for all of us. 
