Two sins--mortal or not?

[Ravenhawk]

Two questions regarding whether there is sufficient matter for mortal sin:

1. Are deliberate comments of innuendo/double-entedres in the same class as other deliberate sins against the 6th/9th commandments and therefore mortal sins (given the usual conditions, of course)?
2. Stickier situation–there is a person I am often at odds with and have a lot of anger/impatience issues with that I am trying to overcome. I have been looking for ways to be more charitable toward this person to try to end my impatience and anger. This person tells me yesterday that I am expected to do something next week that I don’t want to do. I think it is just a typical manipulation attempt and do not want to do it. I know i could just go as a charitable act-go do something I could do but really don’t want to do but do it for Jesus and not for this person, necessarily–but I am adamant that I still will not go, partly because I have plans and partly because I don’t want to be committed to doing something without being asked. (This person often commits me to things without asking and I hate it and have asked for this to stop many times.) Am I just being too stubborn and, since I seem to be refusing to do it even for Jesus, do you think it is a sufficiently grave refusal to love others so as to be a mortal sin if I refuse to do this thing?
   Thanks in advance for any opinions!

 

[wcknight]

I don’t think either are mortal sins. The first case may become a mortal sin, but only if there is a serious attempt to subvert others. It’s not a good practice to become accustomed to, and I think it would reflect poorly on your upbringing.

As a Catholic I would hope that you would avoid repeating or make up dirty jokes.

On the second, we are not obligated to abide by others whims. We do not have to associate with people we don’t like. We should not wish them harm or injury, but we are not required to accomodate them.

 

[Ravenhawk]

Um, thanks (I think) for the reply. I wouldn’t exactly agree that my bad choices reflect poorly on my upbinging. It isn’t my parents’ fault that I chose to use a phrase of double meaning to amuse my co-workers. It was wrong to do and i knew it was wrong to begin with. Perhaps I should thank my upbringing for teaching me that it was wrong, but I can’t blame it for my sin in choosing to do it anyway…

 

[Ravenhawk]

Well. Now I guess it’s a moot point, because I just found an examination of conscience that says deliberate double-entendres ARE mortal sins like all other deliberate sins against the 6th Commandment. Great… Okay, now I want to blame my parents!