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I have been praying to Lord about something for more than a year and a half and I feel like my phone calls to heaven are not getting answered.

I am not asking God for anything silly or frivolous, like a nice car, nor am I asking him for something sinful. I feel like I am making a very reasonable request for something I believe would make me a better Christian. Keep in mind that this thing causes me a great deal of personal sorrow. Anyway, what really bothers me is not just that God has not answered my prayers, but I feel like he’s just ignoring me. I beg to know why he allows me to suffer this way, but I don’t hear a word, and this makes me angry and frustrated. I was once so frustrated that I went on religious strike although this only lasted a few days.

Anyway, I feel like God will not answer me; I don’t know why, but it makes me feel unloved. 😦

Kendy
 
Rebecca_New said:
No is an answer.
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I don’t want to go into personal details, but God saying no to this request would be like a mom saying no to a request for food by a child although she had plenty.

I want to emphasize that at least from my perspective that my life could end up being a total useless disaster unless God helps me. I am not sure why God would not help with this.

In fact, I don’t think I could continue to love God if He does not answer my prayer. I feel very disillusioned and betrayed. 😦

Kendy
 
Sometimes we don’t understand what God’s will, someday you will know that Jesus Love you very much !!!
 
Kendy said:
I have been praying to Lord about something for more than a year and a half and I feel like my phone calls to heaven are not getting answered.

I am not asking God for anything silly or frivolous, like a nice car, nor am I asking him for something sinful. I feel like I am making a very reasonable request for something I believe would make me a better Christian. Keep in mind that this thing causes me a great deal of personal sorrow. Anyway, what really bothers me is not just that God has not answered my prayers, but I feel like he’s just ignoring me. I beg to know why he allows me to suffer this way, but I don’t hear a word, and this makes me angry and frustrated. I was once so frustrated that I went on religious strike although this only lasted a few days.

Anyway, I feel like God will not answer me; I don’t know why, but it makes me feel unloved. 😦

Kendy
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Kendy apart from “no” itself being an answer, as I was reading your post I kept thinking about St Paul and his request to have the thorn in his flesh removed (2 Cor. 12:7) and the Lord also said “No” to him.
My very humble humble suggestion, would be to begin by saying “thank you Lord for this thorn in my side. I really find it hard and difficult, but if you are with me, I will bear it well.”
If its a thorn which can lead to sin and it is still not removed through prayer and fasting, then perhaps the Lord is asking you to look at the “pride” factor.
These are only suggestions. You are such a good person, He must be so pleased with you.:blessyou:

Grace Angel:angel1:
 
Kendy said:
Couldn’t he at least say, “No, because…” It’s the being ignored feeling that really hurts.😦
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Kendy you are absolutely not ignored, in fact He is so close you cannot see Him because of the closeness.
Someone who desires to be so close to God is not distant and God is not distant, but indeed is indwelling. You are looking too hard perhaps.
God Bless
Grace Angel.:angel1:
 
Kendy said:
I have been praying to Lord about something for more than a year and a half and I feel like my phone calls to heaven are not getting answered.

I am not asking God for anything silly or frivolous, like a nice car, nor am I asking him for something sinful. I feel like I am making a very reasonable request for something I believe would make me a better Christian. Keep in mind that this thing causes me a great deal of personal sorrow. Anyway, what really bothers me is not just that God has not answered my prayers, but I feel like he’s just ignoring me. I beg to know why he allows me to suffer this way, but I don’t hear a word, and this makes me angry and frustrated. I was once so frustrated that I went on religious strike although this only lasted a few days.

Anyway, I feel like God will not answer me; I don’t know why, but it makes me feel unloved. 😦

Kendy
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Kendy of one thing I am sure and that is that “unloved” you are not. If God is Love then He doesnt know how to unlove, so of this we can be sure. He doesnt know how to change His mind and “not love”.
God Bless you
Grace Angel:angel1:
 
Kendy said:
I don’t want to go into personal details, but God saying no to this request would be like a mom saying no to a request for food by a child although she had plenty.

I want to emphasize that at least from my perspective that my life could end up being a total useless disaster unless God helps me. I am not sure why God would not help with this.

In fact, I don’t think I could continue to love God if He does not answer my prayer. I feel very disillusioned and betrayed. :(

Kendy
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Isn’t that pretty selfish? In other words you want God to bend to your will instead of you obeying God’s will and if he doesn’t you will stamp your foot on the ground and scurry away sulking.

God knows what is best for us and when it is best for us. He does not work to any deadlines we impose.
My wife prayed daily for 10 years for me to convert. I’m glad she didn’t feel betrayed by God because there appeared to be no instant response! She had faith and persevered with her prayers and after 10 years of her prayers I became a Catholic.
 
Hi!

Maybe reading some scripture would help in knowing the Lord and His great love for each of us.

Romans 8:38-39

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things, nor future things, nor powers,
nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 5: 5
Not only that, but we even boast of our afflictions, knowing that affliction produces endurance,
and endurance, proven character, and proven character, hope,
and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out into our hearts through the holy Spirit that has been given to us.

Also we do not know how to pray as we ought:

Romans 8:26-27

In the same way, the Spirit too comes to the aid of our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but the Spirit itself intercedes with inexpressible groanings.
And the one who searches hearts knows what is the intention of the Spirit, because it intercedes for the holy ones according to God’s will.

God always desires what is best for us. Sometimes its hard to remember, but this is the truth. Reading scripture helps us grow in our relationship with the Lord.

God Bless
 
Grace_Angel said:
Kendy apart from “no” itself being an answer, as I was reading your post I kept thinking about St Paul and his request to have the thorn in his flesh removed (2 Cor. 12:7) and the Lord also said “No” to him.
My very humble humble suggestion, would be to begin by saying “thank you Lord for this thorn in my side. I really find it hard and difficult, but if you are with me, I will bear it well.”
If its a thorn which can lead to sin and it is still not removed through prayer and fasting, then perhaps the Lord is asking you to look at the “pride” factor.
These are only suggestions. You are such a good person, He must be so pleased with you.:blessyou:

Grace Angel:angel1:
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It’s closer to the second part and I suppose it could help with pride, but would God want me to be self-loathing and ineffective to protect me from pride. It’s seems like switching one posion for another. I am certain that God can do better than that. Plus, I don’t always feel like he’s by my side. I feel like I can’t see him, I don’t know where he is in the situation. That’s more than 50% of the problem.

Kendy
 
thistle said:
Isn’t that pretty selfish? In other words you want God to bend to your will instead of you obeying God’s will and if he doesn’t you will stamp your foot on the ground and scurry away sulking.
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I know, but I am so mad at Him because I don’t think He’s being very loving.😦
thistle said:
God knows what is best for us and when it is best for us. He does not work to any deadlines we impose.
My wife prayed daily for 10 years for me to convert. I’m glad she didn’t feel betrayed by God because there appeared to be no instant response! She had faith and persevered with her prayers and after 10 years of her prayers I became a Catholic.
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Grace_Angel said:
Kendy you are absolutely not ignored, in fact He is so close you cannot see Him because of the closeness.
Someone who desires to be so close to God is not distant and God is not distant, but indeed is indwelling. You are looking too hard perhaps.
God Bless
Grace Angel.:angel1:
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🙂 :o
 
Grace_Angel said:
Kendy of one thing I am sure and that is that “unloved” you are not. If God is Love then He doesnt know how to unlove, so of this we can be sure. He doesnt know how to change His mind and “not love”.
God Bless you
Grace Angel:angel1:
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My family wasn’t the type that went around hugging or saying I love you so growing up although I “knew” that my parents loved me, but I never felt loved. Knowing is important, but feeling is sometimes, necessary.
 
thistle said:
Isn’t that pretty selfish? In other words you want God to bend to your will instead of you obeying God’s will and if he doesn’t you will stamp your foot on the ground and scurry away sulking.

God knows what is best for us and when it is best for us. He does not work to any deadlines we impose.
My wife prayed daily for 10 years for me to convert. I’m glad she didn’t feel betrayed by God because there appeared to be no instant response! She had faith and persevered with her prayers and after 10 years of her prayers I became a Catholic.
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And you thistle are uncharitable!.
I am glad that your wife persevered in her prayer for your conversion, but in that prayer for that conversion you had to give an assent. It was at your assent that the Lord was able to work. Perhaps your wife’s prayers helped to give you a moment of clarity so that you could see and then make a decision for God. Whatever,.
Kendy is feeling the dark night of the soul, and I would have thought that it is a moment of humility in which he asks why his/her prayers are not answered. It is not an unfair question, and I am sure that God does not see it as an unfair question. Try sometime and be in that dark night and maybe you will ask the same question, “my God my God why have you abandoned me?”
Grace Angel
 
Kendy said:
My family wasn’t the type that went around hugging or saying I love you so growing up although I “knew” that my parents loved me, but I never felt loved. Knowing is important, but feeling is sometimes, necessary.
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Kendy I agree with you entirely, it is always important that children are told how much they are loved. They need to hear that they are loved. I am reminded of the Gospel, we need to hear to be able to believe. It needs to be expressed in a tangible and demonstrable way.
Perhaps you might now be beginning to feel that God does not love you because he doesnt answer, so therefore He must not love you. But in your innermost being you KNOW that He loves you and actually showing this to you by your very presence and life.
He hasnt abandoned you by a long mile. Remember that “footprints” poster, “When you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.” Similar to what I was saying in my original post, that He is so close, that He is indwelling,
Cheers from Australia.
God Bless
Grace Angel.
 
Kendy said:
It’s closer to the second part and I suppose it could help with pride, but would God want me to be self-loathing and ineffective to protect me from pride. It’s seems like switching one posion for another. I am certain that God can do better than that. Plus, I don’t always feel like he’s by my side. I feel like I can’t see him, I don’t know where he is in the situation. That’s more than 50% of the problem.

Kendy
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God does not want you to be self loathing. God makes no mistakes with people. Its people who make mistakes. Why would He want you to start loathing Him, because you are created in the image of God are you not?
Also you say that you dont always feel that he is close by your side. Well Kendy, why are you constantly looking for God to be by your side. You are meant to be living the life that He has given to you. Your life is your talent (remember the parable of the talents-and the ones who increased the talents and one who hid it not to lose it) which one are you? are you hiding your talent in order not to make a mistake and have to ask forgiveness of God. Thats why we have confession. and perhaps thats where pride might come in. You seem to be hiding your talent and doing no increase with it.
You give glory to God by living a beautiful life and returning it to Him with increase and not terified.
Don’t always worry about the situation God can see the whole, let Him see to it. You begin and live a life pleasing to him and you.
Grace Angel.
 
Hello Kendy!

Remember the Christmas song that had a phrase like…“and if you’re worried and you can’t sleep, just count your blessings instead of sheep, and you’ll fall asleep, counting your blessings…”

For me, I count so many blessings in my life, including those that I normally take for granted like:

a. Being healthy, having food to eat at least 3X a day.
b. Having the abiity to see, smell, touch, hear, taste, talk,
write…
b. Having a roof over my head, having a comfortable bed to
sleep in.
c. Having a family (though, not very showy in their love for
me) I know are there for me through thick and thin.
d. I count having friends as a blessings…(and so much
more…)

God is everywhere in our lives if we just stop to look.

There are sooooo…many blessing you can count…and you will realize that God hasn’t been ignoring you. 🙂

Kendy, remember that when we pray, the answer can be either :

YES
NO
MAYBE LATER

Try to be open to the possibilty that the answer can be any one of these.

There are times we get what we want, there are time we don’t, there are times we have to wait awhile—but God always has a good reason for it.

Just have faith and keep on praying for what is best for you.

Count your blessings, my friend, and you will know how much blessed you are. 🙂
 
Grace_Angel said:
And you thistle are uncharitable!.
I am glad that your wife persevered in her prayer for your conversion, but in that prayer for that conversion you had to give an assent. It was at your assent that the Lord was able to work. Perhaps your wife’s prayers helped to give you a moment of clarity so that you could see and then make a decision for God. Whatever,.
Kendy is feeling the dark night of the soul, and I would have thought that it is a moment of humility in which he asks why his/her prayers are not answered. It is not an unfair question, and I am sure that God does not see it as an unfair question. Try sometime and be in that dark night and maybe you will ask the same question, “my God my God why have you abandoned me?”
Grace Angel
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Thank You.
 
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