Unbelieving Family Members

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How do you deal with family members who do not believe or who have very different views on things? Where do you draw the line between wanting to get along and be a family vs. remaining true to your principles? I have problems with this, as some of my family members do not believe while others have slightly different views of the Christian faith than I do. But I want to be close to everyone. I am not married–so I am talking about my parents and brother, sister-in-law, etc.
 
Please clarify, because it depends on what you mean. Do you mean is it OK to keep your mouth shut when other people voice opinions that you believe to be immoral? Do you want to know whether or not you ought to stick up for your own way of behaving instead of violating your own standards of behavior in order to avoid criticism or having others take offense? Do you want to know when you are and are not bound to try to convert someone to the Gospel?
 
Please clarify, because it depends on what you mean. Do you mean is it OK to keep your mouth shut when other people voice opinions that you believe to be immoral? Do you want to know whether or not you ought to stick up for your own way of behaving instead of violating your own standards of behavior in order to avoid criticism or having others take offense? Do you want to know when you are and are not bound to try to convert someone to the Gospel?
I need to be off-line for awhile, so at the risk of answering a question that I can’t follow up on, let me say this: You need to live the truth, but you do not have to throw pearls before swine. If no good is likely to come of opening your mouth, then it is OK to keep your mouth shut and mind your own actions. The Lord sent them out to preach, but he didn’t instruct even those with the preaching office to hammer on those who wouldn’t hear the Good News. He instructed them to shake the dust from their feet and keep moving. “Do not give what is holy to dogs, or throw your pearls before swine, lest they trample them underfoot, and turn and tear you to pieces”. Matt. 7:6. That is not being judgmental; it is just common sense. Likewise, you ought not set out to set others straight when you yourself have room for amendment. What you cannot do, however, is to set aside the truth you have been given in order to gain the acceptance of those who don’t see it or don’t accept it. You can, however, wait for the Holy Spirit to present someone to you before you give them a message they have shown they may not be ready to hear:

*Finally, all of you, be of one mind, sympathetic, loving toward one another, compassionate, humble. Do not return evil for evil, or insult for insult; but, on the contrary, a blessing, because to this you were called, that you might inherit a blessing. For: "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep the tongue from evil and the lips from speaking deceit, must turn from evil and do good, seek peace and follow after it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears turned to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against evildoers. Now who is going to harm you if you are enthusiastic for what is good? But even if you should suffer because of righteousness, blessed are you. Do not be afraid or terrified with fear of them, but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts. Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope, but do it with gentleness and reverence, keeping your conscience clear, so that, when you are maligned, those who defame your good conduct in Christ may themselves be put to shame. For it is better to suffer for doing good, if that be the will of God, than for doing evil. For Christ also suffered for sins once, the righteous for the sake of the unrighteous, that he might lead you to God. Put to death in the flesh, he was brought to life in the spirit. In it he also went to preach to the spirits in prison, who had once been disobedient while God patiently waited in the days of Noah during the building of the ark, in which a few persons, eight in all, were saved through water. This prefigured baptism, which saves you now. It is not a removal of dirt from the body but an appeal to God for a clear conscience, through the resurrection of Jesus Christ, who has gone into heaven and is at the right hand of God, with angels, authorities, and powers subject to him. *
1 Peter 3:8-22

Hope that helps.
 
My sister is agnostic/very doubtful of the existence of any sort of higher power at all [long story], my parents haven’t bothered with anything Catholic since the Van Buren administration and we have a bunch of Watchtower Society things from some of my uncles being Jehovah’s Witnesses. It’s tragic sometimes, but I’ve gotten used to being the only practicing Catholic in my family.
 
I am a convert. My family are not Catholic. The best you can do is come to an agreement about how you should respect the beliefs of one another. Overtly trying to convert family members I think is usually disastrous. Just live your life. When people see that you live a very healthy and fruitful life as a devoted Catholic, then they will have reasons to learn more. If they come to you with questions, then you have a chance to explain things to them without it being a debate between opposing beliefs.
 
How do you deal with family members who do not believe or who have very different views on things? Where do you draw the line between wanting to get along and be a family vs. remaining true to your principles? I have problems with this, as some of my family members do not believe while others have slightly different views of the Christian faith than I do. But I want to be close to everyone. I am not married–so I am talking about my parents and brother, sister-in-law, etc.
Some times our beliefs are looked down upon by those we love the most. My adherence to my Catholic faith is not understood by my bride, who has been a Jehovah’s Witness for 7 years of our 20 year marriage. Catholicism is a primary target of the Watchtower Society. Her conversion to JW created a great deal of tension in our home and nearly resulted in divorce on a number of occasions. The conflict has subsided to the point that we simply respect the other’s free will to choose God. If she was to make the demand that I leave the Catholic Church or leave her, then I have no doubt of the result.
Luke 14
25 Great crowds were traveling with him, and he turned and addressed them,
26 “If any one comes to me without hating his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. 27 Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.
(footnote NABRE) [14:25–33] This collection of sayings, most of which are peculiar to Luke, focuses on the total dedication necessary for the disciple of Jesus. No attachment to family (Lk 14:26) or possessions (Lk 14:33) can stand in the way of the total commitment demanded of the disciple. Also, acceptance of the call to be a disciple demands readiness to accept persecution and suffering (Lk 14:27) and a realistic assessment of the hardships and costs (Lk 14:28–32).
I am not saying to abandon your family. You do need to dismiss their criticism of your faith. As stated above, once they show such a resistance, do not continue to cast your pearls before swine. Live your Christian Faith and allow your life to deliver the message of Christ to them. (They will know we are Christians by our Love.)

I do have a niece and her husband who are evangelical atheists (my nice way of saying militant), who criticize everything Christian (except when they bring their children for Christmas and Easter) and I have learned to tolerate their rants and pray for their enlightenment. My sister, her mother, is VERY active in the Church and has learned to manage the situation as well. She is living her faith and allowing her actions to preach the Gospel.

You will be amazed at the response you will get from people who once ridiculed you for your faith.

You are fortunate that you are single. Find someone of the same faith and be certain that you are home. At that point the beliefs of your parents and brother and sister-in-law will no longer matter.
Gen 2
22 The LORD God then built the rib that he had taken from the man into a woman. When he brought her to the man, 23 the man said:
“This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
This one shall be called ‘woman,’ for out of man this one has been taken.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body.
I hope that this has helped.

Peace
 
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