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The church down my street has some masses in Spanish. I attend to have in order to improve my Spanish. I met some people there who invited me to their prayer group. I have been 4 times. At first, they were very welcoming. I really enjoyed their group and was pleased to see such a strong faith.
Well, tonight, a few of my buttons got pushed. I bite my tongue but I really need to let it out here. I bought a Spanish missel. In the front, of the book it has all the regular prayers that come after the homily. However, it has at least 5 different versions and the priest I don’t think reads everything that is printed. I wanted to know which version the priest uses to I brought my missel to the group tonight.
There is this one lady there who I felt always talked down to me like I was a child. I use to think it perhaps was because she thought my Spanish was not that good. I am now starting to think she talks down to me because she is a condescending person. When I asked her which one of the 5 version the priest used, she told me to open my bible to a certain verse and read it. Then she asked another lady to read the same verse from a different version of the bible. She then asked if I understood her point that there are different versions of the bible !!! I felt invalidated. She TOTALLY missed the point to my question. I have a really issue with not being heard and for her to miss the point annoyed me.
Trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, I went and got my missle. I was flipping through the pages to try to show her how the Apostle’s creed appeared in several sections hoping she would then understand I was asking which version the priest uses. She took the book from me (nothing makes me more mad than when people snatch things from me
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She opened the book to February 28. Last night at massed I turned the corner of the page to make a marker. She shook her head at me and told me ‘Next week you cannot read from that section you need to go to March 7’ How stupid does she think I am ??? Can she not realize I was marking the mass from that week !!! She then went on to show me ‘II’ and say it was the Roman numeral for 2 and ‘III’ was the Roman numeral for 3 (I felt like telling her I passed grade 2 !!!) I kept repeating 'After all the readings are done, we go to the beginning of the book and there are 5 different versions of the prayers, which one does the priest use? (In fairness to her, I later looked up some words in my dictionary and I did not use the appropriate word for ‘beginning’)
So I politely kept saying ‘no’ and put out my hand to indicate I wanted the book. It angered me to no end that my hand was out and she could not put MY book back in my hand I not only have an issue with people who snatch my things but I have a worse issue when someone is rude enough to snatch something, I keep my manners and politely ask for it back and they don’t give it back !!! Can anyone sympathize\understand the frustration I went through when she would not give it back???
Anyways, I really would appreciate some kind words and some sympathy for being invalidated
CM
Well, tonight, a few of my buttons got pushed. I bite my tongue but I really need to let it out here. I bought a Spanish missel. In the front, of the book it has all the regular prayers that come after the homily. However, it has at least 5 different versions and the priest I don’t think reads everything that is printed. I wanted to know which version the priest uses to I brought my missel to the group tonight.
There is this one lady there who I felt always talked down to me like I was a child. I use to think it perhaps was because she thought my Spanish was not that good. I am now starting to think she talks down to me because she is a condescending person. When I asked her which one of the 5 version the priest used, she told me to open my bible to a certain verse and read it. Then she asked another lady to read the same verse from a different version of the bible. She then asked if I understood her point that there are different versions of the bible !!! I felt invalidated. She TOTALLY missed the point to my question. I have a really issue with not being heard and for her to miss the point annoyed me.
Trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, I went and got my missle. I was flipping through the pages to try to show her how the Apostle’s creed appeared in several sections hoping she would then understand I was asking which version the priest uses. She took the book from me (nothing makes me more mad than when people snatch things from me
)She opened the book to February 28. Last night at massed I turned the corner of the page to make a marker. She shook her head at me and told me ‘Next week you cannot read from that section you need to go to March 7’ How stupid does she think I am ??? Can she not realize I was marking the mass from that week !!! She then went on to show me ‘II’ and say it was the Roman numeral for 2 and ‘III’ was the Roman numeral for 3 (I felt like telling her I passed grade 2 !!!) I kept repeating 'After all the readings are done, we go to the beginning of the book and there are 5 different versions of the prayers, which one does the priest use? (In fairness to her, I later looked up some words in my dictionary and I did not use the appropriate word for ‘beginning’)
So I politely kept saying ‘no’ and put out my hand to indicate I wanted the book. It angered me to no end that my hand was out and she could not put MY book back in my hand
I not only have an issue with people who snatch my things but I have a worse issue when someone is rude enough to snatch something, I keep my manners and politely ask for it back and they don’t give it back !!! Can anyone sympathize\understand the frustration I went through when she would not give it back???Anyways, I really would appreciate some kind words and some sympathy for being invalidated
CM