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Ormond
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The ignore feature suggestion was excellent, very constructive, well done.
Other than that, it’s perhaps helpful to remind ourselves that there are no victims on Internet forums. Nobody forces us to visit the forum. Nobody forces us to read any particular thread. Nobody forces us to post. Nobody forces us to read posters we find unappealing. And finally, the most important…
Nobody forces us to have any particular emotional reaction to anything we read. If you call me a name and I get upset, that’s me deciding to get upset, and it’s my little mess within my own little mind to clean up, or not, as I choose.
Many of us try to manage our emotional experience by somehow controlling those around us. Often we try to guilt trip others in to doing or being whatever it is we want. This isn’t a huge crime, but it is irrational. Trying to control every inconvenient person we meet in life is a losers game, because there are so many inconvenient people, and we have so little control over them.
It’s far wiser, and vastly more rational, to focus our efforts on controlling the one brain we actually have access to, our own. I’m not talking about morality here, but about finding the peace we’re looking for by the most sensible and efficient method. If we want peace, it’s up to us to find it inside of our own heads. Other people really have little to do with it.
Other than that, it’s perhaps helpful to remind ourselves that there are no victims on Internet forums. Nobody forces us to visit the forum. Nobody forces us to read any particular thread. Nobody forces us to post. Nobody forces us to read posters we find unappealing. And finally, the most important…
Nobody forces us to have any particular emotional reaction to anything we read. If you call me a name and I get upset, that’s me deciding to get upset, and it’s my little mess within my own little mind to clean up, or not, as I choose.
Many of us try to manage our emotional experience by somehow controlling those around us. Often we try to guilt trip others in to doing or being whatever it is we want. This isn’t a huge crime, but it is irrational. Trying to control every inconvenient person we meet in life is a losers game, because there are so many inconvenient people, and we have so little control over them.
It’s far wiser, and vastly more rational, to focus our efforts on controlling the one brain we actually have access to, our own. I’m not talking about morality here, but about finding the peace we’re looking for by the most sensible and efficient method. If we want peace, it’s up to us to find it inside of our own heads. Other people really have little to do with it.
