Unhealthy attachment to CA forum?

[AlanFromWichita]

For me, these forums are intellectually and dramatically stimulating, emotionally therapeutic, and priceless as far as helping me learn to effectively communicate with others on important issues. Therefore I am here for selfish reasons.

Also I get drawn into periods of weak faith in which I think other people actually “need” to hear something I have to say, so I am also here for benevolent reasons.

Controversy also intrigues me intensely. Whenever I see a fight, I think I must watch and learn, or even participate some because my pride is so big that I think I can help others arbitrate their differences.

Plus, I just really enjoy this forum because it’s so much more meaningful, substantive, and unpredictable than any video games I’ve ever played. If there is a game that is more attractive to me than these forums, then I hope the Lord sees fit to keep it hidden from me, because temporal responsibilities do suffer from time to time already because of my addiction to this forum.

Oh yeah, did I mention I actually learn things from this forum, too?

Yes, I’m apparently addicted. Now what is the remedy? Do you think that since there are so many addicts like me, obviously unable to help ourselves, that we need government intervention? Perhaps we need to declare a “war on addictive forums” or at least tax those forums to pay for school lunch programs – because our children can learn “important stuff” in government schools while we parents are wasting our time on our vice.

How many think I can stop any time? Could this be my last post for the rest of the month? Year? Ahhh – sorry I scared myself! I don’t want to bargain with my blankie!

Alan

 

[PJR]

OK, everybody in unison…

“Hi, Gardenswithkids!!”

I’m only on step 2.

 

[gardenswithkids]

Thanks PJR! I don’t even know all the proper steps, but did recognize my problem.

Annunciata:

Key here is, I think this is where God wants me to be right now in my life.

That is the key! I think this form is great and provides many wonderful things that some of you listed. I hope nothing I wrote discourages you who are here because this is where God calls you to be. But I’ve had indications, such as complaints from my husband, that God doesn’t want me here as much as I want to be here. Even my toddler tries to push the keyboard away from me sometimes.

I get frustrated some days, wanting to accomplish great things for God and change the world, and instead I change diapers, (hence my signature serves to remind me as well.) It’s tough to be stay where God wants me. He gives me clear indication that I’m doing what He wants, and yet it doesn’t seem like enough for me even if it’s enough for Him. I grow frustrated when He takes away friends or projects from me, (that’s happened a couple of times this year.) And now it appears that He wants me to lean more on Him and less on this forum too.

I am way beyond the time restriction I gave myself, and my children are seeking my help. I’d love to stay here and chat with you lovely people, but duty calls. Right now, God wants me to care for my children, so I will go where He wants me to be.

 

[PJR]

Well, you ought to see the laundry stacking up around here. My husband tries to use gentle suggestions laced w/humor like "wow, we spent all that money for the big ‘fancy eatin’ table’ and it always has folded clothes on it. Hardy har har

I need detox. But, soon my new business will be open (deli) and the hiatus I have enjoyed while getting new digs ready will be over. I will have to once again immerse myself into elbow deep meatloaf and sourdough bread and gnocchi. Alas.

I have stopped my morning runs too, cause this is more fun. And boy, is my waistline showin it. YIKES when you work with food everyday of your life you need to keep movin’

This is the sickest. I was wondering how I could rig up some portable system so I could keep an eye on everything and still move around. I was actually thinking about buying a laptop just for that purpose. OH MY it’s worse than I thought.

 

[Island_Oak]

gardenswithkids:

I get frustrated some days, wanting to accomplish great things for God and change the world, and instead I change diapers, (hence my signature serves to remind me as well.) It’s tough to be stay where God wants me. He gives me clear indication that I’m doing what He wants, and yet it doesn’t seem like enough for me even if it’s enough for Him. I grow frustrated when He takes away friends or projects from me, (that’s happened a couple of times this year.) And now it appears that He wants me to lean more on Him and less on this forum too.

Right there with ya, sister!! I can’t imagine there is a stay-at-home mom who hasn’t spent some period of time with these emotions. To me it seems only natural. Few of us, if we weren’t mothers, would choose to spend 18 hours a day in the company of toddlers or young children. We would seek out challenges, study, work, hobbies, entertainment, etc. that was mentally challenging and socially engaging and fulfilling–something you don’t always find with the knee-high set.

Fortunately many of us also have the blessing of recognizing the importance of our call to mother the kids we have created and have set aside our own aspirations and desires for a later time when these little ones who are so dependent on us now become independent. Not to suggest that mothering is all drudgery by any means–but the persistent demands, esp. in the early years, can become exhausting and sometimes frustrating. The best cure, truly, is to maintain ties to other moms in the same boat and to deliberately carve out time to pursue on even a limited scale an interest, challenge, hobby etc. that you enjoy. I think it’s good for our kids to see that adults have interests beyond Barbie and Barney and to start piquing their interest in the things their parents enjoy.

 

[Annunciata]

gardenswithkids:
That is the key! I think this form is great and provides many wonderful things that some of you listed. I hope nothing I wrote discourages you who are here because this is where God calls you to be.

I think you may have helped some take a good look at God’s will for them…:yup:

Remember, anything done in excess or calls you to put things and others before God and your vocation in life, (which is to be a wife and mother), is not from Him…

Pray about it…. and when you have put things in their proper perspective… come back and visit with us …