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I have been living with my kids father for 9 years we have 3 children we have not gotten married yet nor do we have a date. I was wondering if I am still able to take the communion on Sundays Mass when I go to church I feel the need to take the sacraments but then I have been told not to because I am livng in sin. This this True or Not?
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May I commend you for stopping here to ask this question. But I am not sure if you will like my answer. But I lived in a situation similar to yours and my mother told me not in the kindest way that I should never receive Communion living in sin. May I advise you to talk to the priest at the parish you are attending. It was a nun in the parish that was kind and helped me out of my mess. I will pray for you. I pray you continue to attend Mass and seek advice from the priest.🙂
 
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BYESCAS:
I have been living with my kids father for 9 years we have 3 children we have not gotten married yet nor do we have a date. I was wondering if I am still able to take the communion on Sundays Mass when I go to church I feel the need to take the sacraments but then I have been told not to because I am livng in sin. This this True or Not?
Need an answer right away.
Thank you
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This can easily be corrected by you talking to a priest, and explaining that you would like to correct the situation. Meanwhile keep going to Mass and pray, but do not receive until you have been to confession and also received the Sacrament of Marriage.

God bless you, and I hope and pray you come home soon!
 
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BYESCAS:
I have been living with my kids father for 9 years we have 3 children we have not gotten married yet nor do we have a date. I was wondering if I am still able to take the communion on Sundays Mass when I go to church I feel the need to take the sacraments but then I have been told not to because I am livng in sin. This this True or Not?
Need an answer right away.
Thank you
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You were told correctly, You shouldn’t recieve communion while you are living with your boyfriend. I second the suggestion to speak with a priest about your current situation. May I also ask a question? Why don’t you just get married? There are many benefits to it, spiritually and financially.
 
Yes, you were told correctly to refrain from receiving communion while you are not married yet living with your children’s father and cohabitating. I pray that you will talk to your priest, make arrangements to marry your children’s father, and be able to participate fully in the sacraments–hopefully with your spouse and children as well. God bless you.
 
One quick question, You stated that you have three children. Are your children baptized? Are they old enough to be enrolled in religious education? If they are at least 7years old, but not baptized then he/she will need religious education prior to them receiving their baptism if unbaptized. Apparently, God is nagging you since you have a great desire to receive the sacraments. Keep praying and don’t delay making that appointment to have a serious discussion with your parish priest. God bless you!
 
I’m in the same situation but I do not any children,we have been living together for 7 years,and I am scared to marry for the simple reason that there is so much divorce these days and i’m scared that I way end up this way again.

i’m in RCIA I have not yet talk to our priest yet about the way i’m living i’m scared of what he might tell me. :confused:
 
Since you are in RCIA it is vital that you bring up the topic ASAP. In fact, your priest will be delighted to talk you.

Some sobering news. The fact that you are living together without the benefit of marriage ups your odds of your partner leaving you. In fact more than 2/3 of cohabitating separate. At least in marriage the ods are slimmer. The pain is still the same whether you are married or not when a partner leaves.
But the good news is that The odds go up tremendously for those who get marriage sacramentally and use Natural family planning. In fact those couples who marry in the church and use NFP have a less than 1% chance of divorce. What are you waiting for?!!!

Run do not walk and bring this up with your priest. You will be so glad that you did. Rejoice and Be glad!
Pray always!
 
The reason I just don’t go ahead and get married after 9 years is that I have been asking my partner for us to get married and he never answers me we are in a stable relationship we love each other, but the way I think is, why force your partner in getting married if everytime I bring up the subject he just says yes hold on maybe later on. My 3 children are baptize and they actually go to a catholic school by the.
 
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BYESCAS:
The reason I just don’t go ahead and get married after 9 years is that I have been asking my partner for us to get married and he never answers me we are in a stable relationship we love each other, but the way I think is, why force your partner in getting married if everytime I bring up the subject he just says yes hold on maybe later on. My 3 children are baptize and they actually go to a catholic school by the.
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Maybe you could read into this answer:

"he just says yes hold on maybe later on, but not right now just in case I need to leave and move on, so that I have no committments to you or the children."
 
BYESCAS if you could plaese send me a private message, because I know how you are feeling.
 
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I’m in the same situation but I do not any children,we have been living together for 7 years,and I am scared to marry for the simple reason that there is so much divorce these days and i’m scared that I way end up this way again.

i’m in RCIA I have not yet talk to our priest yet about the way i’m living i’m scared of what he might tell me. :confused:
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Dear “answers”,

Don’t be afraid of this situation, hear the Lord’s words, He says:

“Be not afraid”.

Also, “Fear is useless, what is needed is trust.”

Go with humility to the priest and speak to him. It isn’t healthy to just sweep this under the rug for now and not confront it.

I will keep you in my prayers.
 
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BYESCAS:
The reason I just don’t go ahead and get married after 9 years is that I have been asking my partner for us to get married and he never answers me we are in a stable relationship we love each other, but the way I think is, why force your partner in getting married if everytime I bring up the subject he just says yes hold on maybe later on. My 3 children are baptize and they actually go to a catholic school by the.
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Pray about this, because obviously you want to get back to your faith, and that is very important. It is great that your children are baptized and go to a Catholic school.

We all need to put Jesus first in our decisions, then everything else will fall into place. He never lets us down and is always there for us and wants the best for us.
 
Be not afraid! God wants you only to love and worship him and ditto His Church.

You may not take Communion while you remain in this state of Sin. However, talk to the Priest. He will not deny you or turn you away. After discussing the situation you must take steps to ‘regularise’ your situation. That is, Marry. That is what the priest will advise you. You must confess and repent of your sin, to demonstrate that you well know what you have been doing but that you seek a clean slate with God. Then, you may receive communion.

I have a friend who went through RCIA and she had children and a partner but was not married. She discussed this with the Parish Priest, was advised to marry. Simple as that. After the wedding she couldn’t understand why she hadn’t married before! Her husband (not a Catholic) couldn’t understand it either!

Before she received FHC she made a confession and received her penance. Clean slate. The love of God is just so awesome!
 
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BYESCAS:
The reason I just don’t go ahead and get married after 9 years is that I have been asking my partner for us to get married and he never answers me we are in a stable relationship we love each other, but the way I think is, why force your partner in getting married if everytime I bring up the subject he just says yes hold on maybe later on. My 3 children are baptize and they actually go to a catholic school by the.
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Ask yourself again how stable your relationship is when your partner won’t talk to you or hear you concerns. I don’t think these are marks of a “stable” relationship. It seems more like it is a convenient relationship more than stable. What happens when it is no longer convenient? 😦
 
I am praying for you both. I know it takes two to actually get married. You can’t force someone to marry you and it’s not easy to just say something like " you don’t love me if you wont marry me". Your common-law spouse probably feels the way they do for many different reasons. I pray for you that if marriage is what was intended for you, that it happens soon and that you can be a happy family.
 
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I am praying for you both. I know it takes two to actually get married. You can’t force someone to marry you and it’s not easy to just say something like " you don’t love me if you wont marry me". Your common-law spouse probably feels the way they do for many different reasons. I pray for you that if marriage is what was intended for you, that it happens soon and that you can be a happy family.
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To the best of my knowledge there is not a single state in the US that still accepts common law marriage as legally binding in any way. A woman and her children just living with a man has very limited if any legal status.
 
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