Unrequited Love in heaven

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I know that heaven Unrequited Love will cease to exist
Does that mean if the person we have Unrequited Love makes it into heaven that they will love us?
I’m not talking about the as a friend that we get on earth
But a genuine return of love we have with all people I heaven.
I know I may have answered my own question but I’m asking this in the hopes to get over someone
 
There won’t be romantic love in heaven, but they will have agape love for us in a non sexual way

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ineedofmercy said:
I’m asking this in the hopes to get over someone
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When you make it to heaven and I hope you do, you won’t feel the same need for love that you have here as a mortal I’m sure. I think that all you will desire and receive is the sublime love of God.
Peace be with you.
 
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ineedofmercy:
I’m asking this in the hopes to get over someone
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When you make it to heaven and I hope you do, you won’t feel the same need for love that you have here as a mortal I’m sure. I think that all you will desire and receive is the sublime love of God.
Peace be with you.
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I agree with you, and with the answers that the other members gave in this thread, too.

I think that this is how it’s going to be too–the way that you answered in your post, Lee.

I believe that we will all be very connected to God, and that we will all feel the love that He has for each of us. 🙂
 
It’s sad situation
Basically the girl I liked for awhile I knew would never like me back so I denied that I liked her for awhile
In the early times of liking her I tried to get her with guy she liked
She was upset from it and used to come to me to feel better (she feels bad about this because it made me fall for her and I feel bad because she was vulnerable and needed a friend)
There was no bad feeling between us
Recently she told me that she finds me attractive and I was very deserving of being loved back but she just doesn’t feel she wants to date anyone (only ever liked one guy)
So obviously trying to get over her is hard because she never did anything to hurt me.(besides maybe distancing ourselves)
I got over her once for a little but that failed and now I’m back here
I know it won’t happen so the only comfort I have is that we might love each other in heaven where it is better
 
Is this true love or lust? If she gained 100 pounds would you still love her? You sound rather young, maybe give it some time?
 
She’s a very short girl with lovely eyes
Her body isn’t why I like her and part of me fell for her because she was struggling emotionally
We tell each other some really deep secrets we have (she literally knows all of mine)
I love her voice,her laugh ,her eyes especially, and the way she acts (most of the time)
Whenever she says something negative about herself I would argue with her for hours

I’ve read a lot of this and I’ve heard people say that maybe she is my “training wheels” that id never forget her but I should imagine how much I would love someone who actually gave the love back.

She’s also a truly good Catholic which will be hard to find these days
I’ve had to get over her a couple times now
My method this time is just hoping I’ll see her in heaven and everything will work out
 
May I ask how old you are? Because it’s possible that you both have many years of figuring out your lives, jobs, education, etc before it’s time to get really serious with love relationships?
 
I’m 17 and I’m aware I’m young but I feel decently awake faith wise
I know maybe we are young but when you’re young I feel there is something cute and special about liking someone that goes away when we get older

Adult People (even Christians) in society today are so lost in jobs and sex (I’m addicted to porn but I try my best to quit and don’t think that way about girls I know)
I don’t see much in life that really suits me
I think of something I like and I either can’t have it or it won’t work out

I don’t know if marriage of my vocation but I have this crazy desire to hold someone that loves me back

All I know is I have to get over her and the only hope I have is maybe in heaven I’ll see her
 
Well, for sure, teenagers can and do fall in love that is real. I think the best thing you can do is give her some time for a while, work on your schoolwork or job prospects, and try not to get in trouble.
I think it is just human (especially for teens) to want to have somebody to love.
Let’s imagine a best-case scenario. Let’s say she takes a break from dating for a few months, then agrees to go out with you, then you guys date and get serious. Would you get married young? Is that the norm in the part of the world you live in (I can’t tell if you are in the US or not)? Would you have a way to support a wife and presumably children?

Or where do you envision the relationship (or any relationship) going when you are 17? Do you have a parent or adult in your life that can give you some good advice? Teacher, uncle, priest, neighbor?
 
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Since none of us have been to heaven, to talk about what it is like is speculation. I think the best way to think of it, though, is that it will be 100% fulfillment. You won’t be wanting for anything, I don’t believe. I hope that is at least some comfort to you.
 
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I don’t want to change the topic but avoid porn like the plague, because that’s what it is. Seriously. It has a negative affect on how you relate to people and society. Try brother.

If you can you might try writing a story about how your relationship would have worked out, you may find it helps and you may learn something in the process, about you, about her, about life. Maybe?
 
ineedofmercy said:
I’m 17 and I’m aware I’m young
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Trust me. It may feel bad now, but you’ll get over it and meet someone ten times better who will love you back.
I know that seems cliched, but it’s true. In five years you won’t be worrying whether this girl loves you or not.
 
I don’t even enjoy porn most of time anymore but it’s like an itch and I have to keep fighting it
And do not like this girl for sexual reasons they don’t come to my head

It’s just frustrating to have to restart and think of what I’m called to do and what my desires are
 
I agree I need to love God more
But I don’t think I’m driven by reproduction at least not for girls I know in real life

But sometimes I just long to hug someone and be close with them
And maybe I just assume since I can’t feel God’s touch I can only have it this way

Maybe it’s something I will grow out of but I’m getting the feeling my life will be one not of my desires. I have to learn to just choose what God wants and hope I don’t suffer to much on earth
I have to hope it will all be worth it and that I won’t miss out on anything I longed for
 
Have you got a mentor at school you could talk to about careers advice?
Maybe pray first, then do some quiet thinking on it. I try to relax, thinking is easier when i relax.

I drifted quite a bit but looking back I can now see that the path I took was for reasons. Things get clearer as you go along.

With big problems I break them down into smaller chunks, chunks which i can deal with.

(I’m offline in a minute, I’ll say a prayer for you. Be hopeful.)
 
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I know you’re not going to believe this, but take it from one who has been there a few times:

One day you are probably going to at most have some fond (or not, depending) faded memory of this girl and you’ll think of her once or twice a year at most and be getting on with your life the rest of the time.

It seems like a big deal now but it’s not. You barely know her.
 
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