Unsure

[hasikelee]

Good luck! I was approached by a coworker who had an abortion a couple weeks ago. Her boyfriend did not want her to kill their child, but she had one without his knowledge.

It has torn them apart and even more than that, he is extremely depressed and she is going through horrible issues right now. She is taking drugs just to survive day to day as she has terrifying nightmares that keep her up all night. She is displaying all the symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder and doesn’t know what to do.

I am the only person other than her boyfriend and counselor who knows what has happened. She is starting to crack. She thinks she hears babies crying at work. Her boyfriend is a complete wreck and left her because she violated his trust so completely.

If you think raising a kid is hard, abortion is a thousand times harder. No parent should outlive their child! You are 21, she is 24, plenty of people have children at that age and it is not the end of the world. I am planning on undertaking parenting at this age myself. It you truly feel that you are not able to love and raise a child right now, you can give that child to a family who will love him or her for you. Be selfish. Abortion is not best for YOU, let alone your poor baby who will die and your girlfriend, who will suffer emotionally, spiritually and even physically.

 

[ReginaNova]

Yes, I know that - I , too, know women who have gotten pregnant while on birth control. However, I tend to be of a suspicious mind whenever I hear of an ex claiming to be pregnant. Too often I’ve seen it as nothing more than a) a ploy to get their ex back b) hose them over financially or c) simply using “pregnancy” as a way to deeply wound their ex.

Cynical? Darn tootin.

Jess

Jess, but as Catholics, we are called to act in love and charity. The motivation of the mother is not a reason to kill an unborn child. We are called to protect life and to love. The loving solution in this situation is to give birth and give the child up for adoption if the birth mother is unable to care for the child. Children should never have to pay for the sins of the parents.

 

[Viki59]

I thank God every day for the wonderful gifts of my two adopted children, whose birthmothers were 21 and 14 when they gave birth.
I have met both of them and seen their tears, and we pray often for them. They know that their children are loved and well cared for; how horrible it would be if they had only regrets over an abortion to think back on.

Ben, I know you and your girlfriend will make the best decision for your child.
Please don’t take this wrong, but if you aren’t ready to be a parent, you probably aren’t ready for sexual relations yet either. The whole point of sex is to bring a married couple closer and to have children. It’s not a recreational activity, despite what the media tells us.
God bless.

 

[kevinsgirl]

…all of your posts have made me feel a lot better about having a child. I was very worried but now I feel I can do this. I can be a father. Having a child is a wonderful beautiful thing…

Unsure,

I’m sure you’ve heard the quote from Mother Teresa, “How can there be too many children? That’s like saying there are too many flowers.” This child truly is a beautiful gift…to you…to your ex…and to an adoptive couple if you choose that route.

Be supportive of your ex right now as she is going through a difficult time both emotionally and physically. And let her know that you love this child…and that you will help her in the coming year. It is a big responsibility, but I know that with God’s grace you’ll both be able to make the right decision, Unsure.

You’ll be in my prayers,

kevinsgirl

P.S. Ask your baby’s guardian angel for guidance…

 

[bjj]

i agree! good luck and gods speed!

I’m sorry, but what is gods speed?

 

[JessicaCeleste]

I’m sorry, but what is gods speed?

Godspeed is from Middle English and means “success”, “best of luck” “good fortune”. It can also mean “safe travels” It’s a way of wishing someone well.