Welcome to the Modern Pagan America given to us by 40 years of movies and TV and novels that have made sex of all kinds perfectly normal in the eyes of many or most Americans.
Yes, if you are attractive and are a women, men are going to hit on you and try to develop a relationship for the purpose of having S * E * X with you!
Lots and lots of married people are having sex with persons who aren’t their spouses.
Just stop being “shocked!” and just keep politely and calmly saying “No thank you, I am too busy.”
Today’s American Pagans have no sense that they are doing anything wrong. To them, Playboy magazine founder Hugh Hefner is their Pope.
Just know that you today’s America is a PAGAN nation, and eve most Catholics mainly follow that Pagan Values, Norms and Customs. Sorry! That’s what I notice!
I know that this post wasn’t so recent, but I really felt that I just couldn’t ignore it.
I came across this thread while looking for some advise I could show to my friend who’s receiving unwanted attention from her brother’s friend, she’s catholic, and quite religious so I thought it best to start on this kinda forum.
But look, Paganism isn’t the reason that people are acting the way they’re acting in society, my religion is not used by (main) society for anything more than scaring themselves !
It’s really hurtful when I see this kind of blame and hate thrown around about my religion ! especially as I would never ever dream of doing the same thing to someone else, no matter what their beliefs of upbringing! and I’ve seen it a lot, and it always seems to be from Catholics or Christians : ( My religion is about treating other living people, and living things, with the respect that they deserve… why can’t other people do the same?
The majority of people acting that way have been brought up in a dominant Christian society(having to pray in school, and sing praise as I had to in school because Paganism wasn’t seen as a serious religion then, and unless you had an official religion, you had to attend those assembly’s before classes started !) that’s the society I was brought up in, and that is the society everyone else my age where I live(England) was brought up in, and I can say that most of the girls and boys in my school and classes, are really very promiscuous ! but not me, no I am a PAGAN! and I don’t believe I should share my body with anyone else but the person I am going to be married to, in this life, and every other. I am a virgin, 22, and engaged to be handfasted to the most wonderful guy in the world !
The sexualisation in society has nothing to do with Paganism(and if you think about it Paganism is older than Christianity, if it were to blame… then it would have been this way from the start because it has always been around in the first place!), I believe every religion has a few nuts latching onto it for the excuse to be crazy, in other’s it’s the excuse to persecute people, to feel superior, in mine? it’s the excuse to get naked and run around telling people that you can levitate ^-^; but honestly, true Pagans do not do this, this is all the bullhoey that Christian society(now not all Christians, but some people have used Christianity/religion in the past to gain power over others, and that’s what I’m referring to) has usually pushed onto people about us… because supposedly we worship the devil. Well in actuality… there’s no such thing as the devil in my religion just beautiful elements, and the names of the entities we’ve named to represent them : ) we’re taught that we shouldn’t harm others, or wish ill upon other people, as it will come back to haunt us in the end, which I find to be quite an amusing rule, you know why?
most other religions have snapped up that little rule and called it their own, while in the same breath saying the kind of bullhoey about us that the quoted person has and I honestly believe that only one other religion other than Paganism even follows that rule!
Also, I’m quite protective of my body, and my relationship, I usually tell guys that I have someone, and make sure that they know where they stand – I’m very strict about it really, but the guy that the lady who originally posted mentions, seems like maybe he just misses his colleague? I miss people that I’ve worked with for a long time at college, and come to view them as friends!
So I also would probably text someone asking to meet for icecream or just to hang out, and calling you his work wife really does seem like a small friendly joke… (because he states ‘work’, a guy who wanted you, or just wanted to use you even, would probably call you his wife and leave it for people to misunderstand – I’ve had weirdos call me their soulmate because they’ve seen me use the term for a select few of my closest friends, and assumed it was a way to get close to me), not every guy is going to be after your… uh
you know:blush:
sometimes that’s just how they make friends, and since you’d worked with him, he probably did see you as a friend already, I’d say that the best thing to do would be turn it into a double date because then there’s really no room for misunderstanding, and you’re also not missing out on a possible good genuine friend ! : )
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