Unwelcoming priest

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Just wondering if anyone has any advice, a friend of mine wanted to join the rcia, the priest told him he had lived too much and wouldn’t let him join… any advice?

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What do you mean by ‘lived too much’?

Your friend should perhaps try another parish.

However, I do agree with EricF – I would assume that there is more to this story.
 
In what way? How has he “lived too much” and how would the priest know?
 
I cannot think of a reason a priest would discourage an inquirer. Sometimes the path into the church can be difficult and full of obstacles. I get that, but for the priest to say “Nah, you have no chance” seems harsh.
 
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Tell your friend to go find another parish.

I have never heard any such ridiculous remark on having “lived too much”.

Christ’s Holy Catholic Church receives people into full communion even at the last hour.
 
Sounds like you’re not hearing all of the story…Have your friend talk to another priest.
 
I would say the priest likely thought your friend was insincere and unwilling to change.
He’s not telling you the whole truth. You are entering the church. This can be very threatening to non-religious friends.
Careful what you hear. When we draw close to the Lord, the prince of lies starts in on us.
 
I’m thinking the priest when saying ‘you lived too much’ meant you did too much living. Unless there is something drastically wrong , the priest had no right to say no. Advise him to do what others said, go to another parish.
 
Maybe he revealed something that would disqualify him from being Catholic. I think a huge problem would be a person that had a valid marriage, divorced, and then remarried though their marriage was valid and their first spouse is still living. Maybe the priest just doesn’t feel comfortable with whatever his situation is.
 
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Thank you all so much

Yes maybe I have not been told the whole truth… x
 
You might advise your friend to call the Director of Catechesis or the chancellor for that diocese to request clarification on what, if anything, disqualifies one from Inquiring via the RCIA. Unjustly denying one the ability to learn about the Catholic Faith, if that is the case here, is a quite serious matter.
 
Let’s not assume that the priest is daft.
There’s likely more to the tale.
 
I’m so curious what i means to have lived “too much” and how on earth that could ever be a bad thing.
 
It would possibly mean he doesn’t want to repent. But again, we can’t know what was actually said.
 
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Just wondering if anyone has any advice, a friend of mine wanted to join the rcia,
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What do you mean by join the rcia? As someone who is wanting to join the Church or someone who would be instructing others?
 
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You might advise your friend to call the Director of Catechesis or the chancellor for that diocese to request clarification on what, if anything, disqualifies one from Inquiring via the RCIA. Unjustly denying one the ability to learn about the Catholic Faith, if that is the case here, is a quite serious matter.
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We have third-hand knowledge at this point. While I’m all for letting people in charge know of rogue factors, I hardly think that this is the conclusion to jump to in this case. Especially since the OP herself is not yet a Catholic and she may be faced with friends who are struggling to come to terms with her decisions. It would be best for her to speak with her friend and perhaps go back to the priest with them to figure out just what happened. Once she has first hand knowlege, then she can act.
 
Hello I would Ask him for the full information of what happened, then if necessary come back here if there is nothing more than he’s telling him to go away then all the advice is reasonable otherwise I would just update the thread and ask for it be deleted there is too much negativity based on hearsay. Unless you already know the full situation/ god bless

Sorry mod can delete this as previous post suggested same/
 
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