Unwilling to pursue a relationship. Is it ok or not

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Someone was telling me that my disinterest in pursuing a relationship and having a family goes against the teaching of the church. But is there any clear biblical evidence for this claim? I know that matrimony is a sacrament, does that mean I must search for a relationship to build a family?
 
If you remain chaste, I don’t think there’s any problem.
 
This someone is wrong.

Matrimony is a Sacrament but not a requirement or an obligation.
 
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You say to whomever is telling you this “please show me your evidence from an official Church document.”
 
There’s no obligation to pursue matrimony and families. The call to single life is just as valid as the call to religious life or married life.
 
Thanks guys. I was beginning to wonder weather this person had a point given matrimony is a sacrament.
 
Matrimony is a sacrament but so are Holy Orders. Very, very few can receive both, so where does that leave the rest of us? We needn’t receive every sacrament the Church offers unless it’s fitting to our state of life - and that’s a call we discern with God. This individual is sorely misinformed.
 
Pai_Nosso said:
Someone was telling me that my disinterest in pursuing a relationship and having a family goes against the teaching of the church.
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It doesn’t.
But why did they say that? We’re you in a relationship and wanted out or something?
 
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No I was hurt in my last relationship and am uninterested in developing another.
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I don’t think that’s a matter of theology; if you were burned it’s a natural psychological reaction for self-protection and indicates you need some “recovery” time. It’s not like you’re telling women “sorry, ladies, marrying you will interfere with my sports leagues”.
 
The Catechism only refers to two states of life as vocations: marriage and “virginity for the sake of the kingdom”, the latter of which is subdivided into “priestly ministry” and consecrated life. Marriage, “priestly ministry”, and consecrated life all involve a “vow” that “locks” one in permanently into that state; simply being single outside of consecrated life has no vow that locks one in “for life”, so, all else being equal, a single person is free to pursue marriage or discern priesthood or religious/consecrated life.
 
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The Catechism only refers to two states of life as vocations
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And yet, we’re under no obligation to pursue any vocation aside from the one the Holy Spirit may call us to…

My apologies if I misunderstood your post.
 
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