Update

[kage_ar]

Prayers.

There are marriages that are strong and happy where the spouses have not had sex for years - due to health, distance, many other issues.

Men, even young men, do become impotent sometimes.

This may be your cross to bear for a while, showing your wife that you love and chreish her even without sex until she is ready?

 

[Jart]

PM a while back I made a thread asking for advice on a serious (to me anyway) issue. I received a lot of advice but I tried to do what you said. It’s helped me tremendously as I am almost free from that specific sin. I just wanted to thank you and congratulate you on your wifes pregnancy!

 

[chevalier]

Praying for you. I dread to think what when I face this issue later in my life when I’m married.

 

[searching06]

PM, God bless you, brother. Good to hear an update, even as tough as it is for you.

All I can say is have your wife definitely get counseling; I would flat out insist after the baby is born. I know you’ve tried, but to cut off all relations with you for the rest of the marriage? There’s a problem, but I don’t have to tell you that.

To whoever asked how old you are and if menopause is around the corner, shame on them. Is that supposed to help somehow?

I’ll keep you in my humble prayers.

 

[Liberanosamalo]

No shame on me. Yes, it does help. There’s a world of difference between “the rest of the marriage” and maybe ten years. If pregnancy is her issue, there comes a point when that is no longer the problem. And PM isn’t really faced with lifelong celibacy.

It helps to know whether one is dealing with a 25 year old woman or a 38 year old woman.
That’s all I was asking.

 

[dwc]

Prayers for you and your wife. I haven’t followed your story before now, but I very much admire the way you are handling this. Forgive me if I’m presumptuous here, well, I probably am, but I’ll say it anyway: I think there’s more than varying libidos here. You say that your wife is only 29 yet this has been an ongoing problem in your marriage and now she seriously wants to live without relations forever. Isn’t denying your spouse sexual relations a sin? A serious sin, if done for no reason other than she doesn’t feel like it?

Again, maybe I’m misstepping here because no one else has mentioned this, but I’ll be blunt: I think your wife needs to see a priest and possibly a Catholic counselor and she needs to understand the marital duties and responsibilities she vowed to undertake when you married. It’s wonderful that you are so forgiving of her and remain loving, but this is just wrong on her part, especially if she thinks she can unilaterally decide that the two of you will live as brother and sister for the remainder of your marriage. If there are physical or emotional problems, then she should address them and get the appropriate help, but this is not acceptable in a Christian marriage. I say all this as a very modern woman, btw.