Upset about ex-family friend now gay

[YinYangMom]

MarilynIN:

I hear what you are saying. But, I am very angry against him for getting married in the first place. I can’t believe that he didn’t know he was gay. Most people know it deep down, even if they vehemently try to deny it. He should have worked out this issue before he involved others. I don’t believe someone who is gay can change themselves merely by taking on a conventional relationship and marriage with the opposite sex. He didn’t say he was bisexual, he said he was gay. The thing that really bothers me, and perhaps it’s the devil putting evil things in my mind, but I can’t help but wonder if he married merely to use the spouse to have children, stuck with it out of guilt for a while, then it started to wear on him and he crumbled. It’s going to be hard, but I will pray for him as well.

Bottom line, you need to let the anger go.
First of all, this has nothing to do with you.
You haven’t been wronged here at all.

Second, anger is not healthy.
By allowing yourself to get caught up in someone else’s issues as if they were your own, you are opening yourself up to unnecessary stress and anxiety (as well as giving the devil opportunity to feed on that)

Honestly, so long as those directly involved with the situation have worked things out for themselves, the matter is resolved. Your ability to understand the situation has no bearing on it.

For you, all you can do is pray for the family and for the man, then count your own blessings for not having been burdened with such a challenge.