URGENT! Prayers are needed for my mother!

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I am so sorry you are going through this - I know the pain this can cause you. I also want you to know, and I hope this will help you, that I too have gone through this…please know you are not alone. Unite your suffering with His. Know that what you are feeling, the pain and the sorrow is not for nothing. There is someone in Modesto, California who has you in her prayers.
 
Thanks again Leslie and Siena (and all the others) for your words of encouragement - and specially for your prayers.

The latest news are not more encouraging - though I still want to keep up hope. This night, between 3 and 6 am (GMT +1, Europe’s time), my mother had a hot alert on her blood pressure. Dopamine and noradrenaline had to be brought back into action to the maximum levels. Her blood pressure was this evening, stable at around 12-5.

For the nursing team, the perspective seems quite bleak, because her kidneys are totally blocked. Her heart is also tiring - pulse is at around 102 beats /minute with powerful drugs to maintain the heart.

In a way, saying the rosary at my mother’s bedside brings also a form of peace: I know that I am doing something for my mother - even so little as it is, and prayer has a value by itself.

Contra spem speravi is a latin saying that means “I hoped against hope itself”. That might be the best description of my state of mind at the time - I continue to hope and to pray for my mother…

Thanks,
Marc
 
Still praying for your family and most especially the Chaplet of Divine Mercy for your mother. God bless you all.
 
Some more calming news after a terrible week. Two days ago, my mother underwent a full scanner, and it appears that she is not bleeding anymore at her stomach or anywhere else. That is at least a good news. She does not present anymore troubles of heart rate - they were due according to the physicians to an insufficient sedation (in short, they were due to my mother stressing when handled because she was not sufficiently unconscious). When it comes to care,

It is an exemple of how a biased presentation and pressure from a caring team may induce relatives to “ask” euthanasia or care interruption for their members. Considering that most people are totally unprepared to resist the pressure put on them, it gives a sad image of what it is to be old and sick in today’s Europe.

The question of our attitude towards the people who suffer is maybe best described by the Indian author Anita Desai, in one of her short stories “Royalty”:

“My dear, true souls do not turn away from humanity or, if they do, it is truly to meditate and pray, then come back, fortified, to embrace it – beggars and thieves, lepers, whoever – their sores, their rags. They do not flinch from them, for they know these are only the covering, the concealing robes of the soul, don’t you know?”

I hope to have more good news to give you next time.

And, again thanks to all of you. Let us keep united in prayer.

Marc
 
I am so glad! May your mother get some much needed and much deserved healing sleep and rest now…and we’ll keep the prayers up over here. You get some good rest too, Marc. You must be exhausted! Your Mom is going to need you, honey, so do not make yourself sick too.

Prayers wafting upward…
 
Praying here, also…Thank you for the update. I pray that all your mother’s caretakers may have true wisdom as they treat her.
God bless.
 
Free Voice:
I hope to have more good news to give you next time.

And, again thanks to all of you. Let us keep united in prayer.

Marc
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Hoping to hear more good news from you, and will stay united in prayer with you, for you and her! (and your father)
 
R.I.P. Mara 1930-2005

It is a sad epilogue that ends Mara’s fight for life.

My mother deceased over the night of Friday to Saturday, at around 2:00 am (Europe’s time). She suffered internal bleeding and had a massive loss of pressure. Despite attempts at ressucitation, the physicians could not revive her.

News have been increasingly gloomy since my last message. The scanner did not find bleeding in the intestines, but instead it revealed the existence of multiple metastases (cancer extensions) to the lungs, the intestine, and the bones. Her kidneys did not function at all. I kept hoping, but despair was gaining the upper hand with the days.

My mother suffered a lot in the past months, but she always showed a great force of caracter and a strong faith.

I would like to thank once more all those who prayed for Mara and for my family. Do not think that your prayers were wasted; they have helped us all to cross through this difficult moment.

I am deeply sad at the moment. I have some difficulties to continue this message, but I’ll come back to you, because there are certainly lessons to be learnt from this - the least not being proclaiming the value of the Catholic teaching on life in a secular hospital.

May God bless all of you_

Marc
 
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