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This friend of mine is saying she wants to kill herself, and she has a very sad background that i dont feel i should share here. please Please help, it seems very true. please help there is also a similer thread that is also very important, click help on my signature
 
Father of goodness and love, hear our prayers for Paul’s friend who is such need of your mercy. Amid mental and physical suffering may she find consolation in your healing presence. Show your mercy as you comfort her and give her a reason to go on. May she find lasting health and deliverance, and so join us in thanking you for all your gifts.
I pray for Paul as he ministers to her, that your Holy Spirit will guide him and strengthen him.
In Jesus Name…Amen
 
Paul, I’ll pray for you both.
Jesus please go to the events of her painful past, healing the damage that she has suffered, and helping her to see herself as a precious child of God.
 
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This friend of mine is saying she wants to kill herself, and she has a very sad background that i dont feel i should share here. please Please help, it seems very true. please help there is also a similer thread that is also very important, click help on my signature
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I am so sorry to hear about this. It is a devastating thing when a loved one wants to take his/her own life.

Is there anybody your friend can speak, too? There is a list of Toll-Free phone #'s here or please check it out in your local phone book for Suicide Prevention Hotline:

helpguide.org/mental/suicide_help.htm

or

ccstcloud.org/LifeTransitions/life6.htm

A Prayer for Suicidial People

Let us pray…

Lord Jesus Christ we ask that you help everyone who is suicidal.
Guide them so they may receive the help that they need.
Protect them.
Prevent them from dying by suicide.
We need them. We love them.
Let them feel our love, and your love, Lord Jesus.
Lord, we ask that you comfort the suicide survivors.
Remind them that they are very special people.
Remind them that they are heroes.
Fill their minds with beautiful memories of their suicide angels.
Provide them with everything that they need Lord.
Ease their pain.
Give them hope.
Give them comfort.
Give them guidance.
Help them heal.
And help them in every way possible.
Let them feel our love, and your love, Lord Jesus.
And let their suicide angels carry them on their wings when they are weary.
Lord, we pray for the suicide angels.
They are with you now, Lord, in Paradise.
These angels are among the highest angels in Heaven.
Their wings are magnificent and their beauty is beyond imagination.
Their love shines bright.
Embrace them, Lord Jesus, with your love.
And let their love continue to shine down upon us. Amen.
Code: 
St. Ignatius of Loyola's Prayer against Depression

O Christ Jesus
When all is darkness
And we feel our weakness and helplessness,
Give us the sense of Your Presence,
Your Love and Your Strength.
Help us to have perfect trust
In Your protecting love
And strengthening power,
So that nothing may frighten or worry us,
For, living close to You,
We shall see Your Hand,
Your Purpose, Your Will through all things.

By St. Ignatius of Loyola


Read more: [ewtn.com/devotionals/prayers/StIgnatiusPrayerAgainstDepression.htm#ixzz1UP5mlaov](http://www.ewtn.com/devotionals/prayers/StIgnatiusPrayerAgainstDepression.htm#ixzz1UP5mlaov)
Oh glorious apostle St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the name of the traitor who delivered thy beloved Master into the hands of His enemies has caused thee to be forgotten by many, but the Church honors and invokes thee universally as the patron of hopeless cases–of things despaired of. Pray for me who am so miserable; make use, I implore thee, of that particular privilege accorded thee of bringing visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need, that I may receive the consolations and succor of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations and sufferings, particularly (mention your request), and that I may bless God with thee and all the elect throughout eternity. I promise thee, O blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, and I will never cease to honor thee as my special and powerful patron, and to do all in my power to encourage devotion to thee. Amen
 
Please Lord help her.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
 
Praying is great, but you should be taking this immediately to someone who can get her counseling and possibly medication. Some people suffer from depression and chemical imbalances that can be easily remedied. Others just need someone to talk with.

Google “suicide prevention” to find resources in your area, or call a suicide hotline and ask for help for your friend. You might worry you are overstepping your role as a friend, but she is telling you for a reason. If you don’t act quickly, you may spend the rest of your life regretting your indecision.

I have been through this and was too busy with work to notice the signals or to patiently speak with my friend when, in retrospect, he was reaching out to me. Now all I have is a deteriorating Polaroid of one of the most generous, and funny, and troubled souls I have ever known. Everybody misses him. Don’t make my mistake.
 
Next time you speak to her (Immediately) get her to make a verbal ‘contract’ with you in that the person will not kill her/hiself until she has talked to you again (while you have someone call 911). If possible keep her/him talking. Also ask if she has a specific ‘plan’ to kill her/hisself. Such as pills or what ever. Call the PET team in your area. PET= Psych. Eval Team. See 911/phonebook . Often people that are suicidal are conflicted. Try to sense if the person is ambivalent. If the person seems “suddenly calmer” 90 % (approx)of the time it means the person is no longer conflicted and has indeed made up his her mind up to do it immediately-- tell all this to the PET team. When Pet team gets there try to have a family member there as well they will listen much more to a family member and slap a 5150 hold on them (3 day hold) Perhaps the person has quit taking their med. Ask if this is so. Do NOT be afraid to use the word suicide around the person. Be** blunt**. Often they see no way out of their problems. Try to help the person to see alternative strategies to resolve the issues. Do not let the person be alone. Even in the bathroom. Get friends and fellow confidants to assist is this. If there ask the person to relinquish shoe laces,belts etc. Check environment for shrps. Check pockets. Get car keys. Get officails involved. I do not *care *if the person yells at you and they will never trust you again. Assume the person is not in their right mind. Remind them that children of suicide parents are 9 x more likely to kill themselves. Try t get them to talk as much as possible. Do not deny their feelings. Ask her to elaborate. However try not to reanimate crisis if she becomes more unstable.

Write down what they say if posssible. Look for ambilvaent content in speech. Note Psychmotor activity.

Be especially aware that when people start giving their posessions away - a clear indicator of serious suicidal ideation. Never take eyes off them. If they are deadly serious they will not *care *how they trick you to get away and killself. Do not believe them when they say they are ok - at least until they are under supervision. Catholics have a low suicide rate. Tell them this world is not hell and indeed they may be at risk for actual hell. Surprising how this may work.
keep us posted. understand this is what **I **would do. I can not state this is ‘medical advice’ legally speaking.

Whenever someone says the magic words like suicide you are obligated IMHO to effect all requisite procedures. It may indeed be just a gesture-a cry for help. Unfortuantely too many people have died accidentally by ‘gesturing’ and crying for help.

If the person gets a 3 day hold and comes out and says " I am better now" -still get therapy for the person. There are deeper issues involved that 3 day s will not address. Also Suicidal clients are great at deceiving the treatment team. Especially if not very well experienced.

Praying-- Nimzovik
 
Dear Lord, please send your daughter immediate assistance! May your Holy Spirit illuminate her conscience and allow her to think clearly. May you lead her to the right resources that will allow her to heal these wounds and get her on a path to healing and peace and friendship with you. Please, Lord Jesus Christ, show her compassion. She needs to be rescued Lord. All things are possible through you, gracious Savior. Please assist immediately, if you will it Lord. In your holy name I pray, Amen!
 
Oh Paul,

I know what you are going through. Two years ago I was in your position and it was agony not knowing if the person I loved was going to be found dead … I prayed soooo much and called them throughout the day. When I got a very strange call (sounded like a final goodbye) I called a Crisis centre and they called immediately. It was such a horrible time in our lives, but the person came through it (thank the merciful Lord!!).

I pray that your loved one will not do anything drastic and that God will surround them with His Holy Angels and His comforting Holy Spirit. May Our Lord send someone to intercede and help this poor tormenting soul.

blessings to you for strength,

CEM
 
Paul,

My heart goes out to you. I hope and pray that I can be a blessing in your life as you have been in mine through my trial. It is no easy thing to have a loved friend contemplating ending their life.

I will pray for you and your friend. Paul my PM box is available should you ever wish to contact me.

If I could give you a piece of counsel, find a priest that you can talk to, because carrying this burden gets to be really heavy at times. I don’t know where I would be without my wonderful Spiritual Director/Confessor. He has helped me in the times when I cannot get on the forum and has talked to me.

It is a blessing to be in communication with a priest.
May Almighty God grant your friend all the graces that she is in most need of during this time. May she be given all the graces that she needs to come to a closer Union with God and His Church. May God heal her in all areas that she is in most need in accordance to His Most Holy and Perfect Divine Will. Please Lord, reach to her and please pull her from the pit of despair.

Please give Paul the graces and strethes that he am in most need of during this time to help his friend. May he grow in closer union to You and Your Church so he too can help my friend.

May the most just, the most lovable, and the Most High Will of God be done, be fulfilled, be priased and exalted in all things forever. Amen.
 
Guys I have started a group that is dedicated to praying for Paul and his friend.

You can find the group here.

forums.catholic-questions.org/group.php?groupid=1128

Group for Paul and His Friend - Prayer group

Thank you for stopping by and offering prayers and support of a really good friend of mine who is going through a very trying situation.

God bless you who have responded to this thread.
 
Another caution. Family members of the suicidal person are just too close to the situation to be objective and therefore therapeutic. Get objective professionl/spiritual help. I can not possibly stress this enough!! family members want/ need to see the suicidal person get/be better and consequently subconciously deny to themselves what may really be going on with the suicidal person. This is a very real and potentially dangerous mechanism of human behavior. :imsorry:
 
A Prayer for Suicidial People

Let us pray…

Lord Jesus Christ we ask that you help everyone who is suicidal.
Guide them so they may receive the help that they need.
Protect them.
Prevent them from dying by suicide.
We need them. We love them.
Let them feel our love, and your love, Lord Jesus.
Lord, we ask that you comfort the suicide survivors.
Remind them that they are very special people.
Remind them that they are heroes.
Fill their minds with beautiful memories of their suicide angels.
Provide them with everything that they need Lord.
Ease their pain.
Give them hope.
Give them comfort.
Give them guidance.
Help them heal.
And help them in every way possible.
Let them feel our love, and your love, Lord Jesus.
And let their suicide angels carry them on their wings when they are weary.
Lord, we pray for the suicide angels.
They are with you now, Lord, in Paradise.
These angels are among the highest angels in Heaven.
Their wings are magnificent and their beauty is beyond imagination.
Their love shines bright.
Embrace them, Lord Jesus, with your love.
And let their love continue to shine down upon us. Amen.
Code: 
St. Ignatius of Loyola's Prayer against Depression

O Christ Jesus
When all is darkness
And we feel our weakness and helplessness,
Give us the sense of Your Presence,
Your Love and Your Strength.
Help us to have perfect trust
In Your protecting love
And strengthening power,
So that nothing may frighten or worry us,
For, living close to You,
We shall see Your Hand,
Your Purpose, Your Will through all things.

By St. Ignatius of Loyola


Read more: [ewtn.com/devotionals/pray...#ixzz1UP5mlaov](http://www.ewtn.com/devotionals/pray...#ixzz1UP5mlaov)

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Oh glorious apostle St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the name of the traitor who delivered thy beloved Master into the hands of His enemies has caused thee to be forgotten by many, but the Church honors and invokes thee universally as the patron of hopeless cases--of things despaired of. Pray for me who am so miserable; make use, I implore thee, of that particular privilege accorded thee of bringing visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need, that I may receive the consolations and succor of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations and sufferings, particularly (mention your request), and that I may bless God with thee and all the elect throughout eternity. I promise thee, O blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, and I will never cease to honor thee as my special and powerful patron, and to do all in my power to encourage devotion to thee. Amen
 
May Almighty God grant your friend all the graces that she is in most need of during this time. May she be given all the graces that she needs to come to a closer Union with God and His Church. May God heal her in all areas that she is in most need in accordance to His Most Holy and Perfect Divine Will. Please Lord, reach to her and please pull her from the pit of despair.

Please give Paul the graces and strethes that he am in most need of during this time to help his friend. May he grow in closer union to You and Your Church so he too can help my friend.

May the most just, the most lovable, and the Most High Will of God be done, be fulfilled, be priased and exalted in all things forever. Amen.
 
thanks guys for all your prayers,
to answer some peoples suggestions to call a specialist or something, i cant she now lives in england and i in the USA. i doubt any phone call here will effect her there, i can only contact her through online services such as chats.email, ect.
I am trying to be a friend to her, but im afraid if i mention any thing about religion it might get her mad or sad or something, so not that i completely aviod Religion in our talk, i do say some things that it seems like it doesnt bug her, but i must avoid any strong debates, or arguements, she doesnt act depressed but she just told me everything about her life and i have got to say i would be suicidle to if i didnt have GOD, and i had that background.
I am just trying to make her laugh or say things to brighten up her day and pray for her as that is all i can do. Please pray for her.

Please keep praying, dont forget to also pray for the Help in my signature, i will provide updates just as Little one does.

GOD Bless you all and yours
and thanks so much for praying.
 
Dear Lord, please let Paul’s friend to remember all of the good that is in Your created world, and that even the worst situations are made better by Your Holy Presence. Please grant her the strength to triumph over this dark time, and please cleanse her of the terrible thoughts of suicide and replace them with the thoughts of her friend Paul’s and Your love. Amen :signofcross:
 
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