Uuum...a hard to explain situation re. impurity

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So I’m 19 years old, and like most guys my age I struggle with impure thoughts. Big surprise. I try to ignore the thoughts when they come or actively distract myself, but what’s weird is that a few times now they have been so…well…intense that they’ve resulted in a you-can-hopefully-guess-what without me deliberately trying to make one happen.
Eeesh, sorry if this is awkward.
Like I said, when these thoughts come to me like this I really do try to distract myself, but I can’t help but wonder if part of me is “allowing” them to come in hopes that they’ll result in a you-know-what and I can actually then get some sleep. Should I be worried; does this sound like, I don’t know, masturbating with my mind or something? Has anyone heard of this sort of thing happening before?
 
Sounds like your pent up biological urges are starting to overflow. If you wish to stick with church teachings, you can either fall in love and get married (fast!) or wait for your body to relieve itself through nocturnal emission. Btw, I don’t think you can be held accountable for the hypothetical “thoughts” of your subconscious.
 
glassofwater said:
So I’m 19 years old, and like most guys my age I struggle with impure thoughts. Big surprise. I try to ignore the thoughts when they come or actively distract myself, but what’s weird is that a few times now they have been so…well…intense that they’ve resulted in a you-can-hopefully-guess-what without me deliberately trying to make one happen.
Eeesh, sorry if this is awkward.
Like I said, when these thoughts come to me like this I really do try to distract myself, but I can’t help but wonder if part of me is “allowing” them to come in hopes that they’ll result in a you-know-what and I can actually then get some sleep. Should I be worried; does this sound like, I don’t know, masturbating with my mind or something? Has anyone heard of this sort of thing happening before?
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Its all perfectly natural & normal, God implanted this in all of us,we are sexual beings & these things have to happen to us, its pretty hard to distract yourself from this because eventually it gets the best of you. Relax, try to be a good Christian , if You fail, start overThat`s all, All God ask of us is that we try, & only he knows each of our struggles
 
Wear your body out with good, hard physical work and exercise and it should not happen so much. Try praying and other thoughts instead of focusing on those thoughts and sensations.
 
Try and say these prayers every day
Come Holy Spirit fill the Hearts of thy faithfull and kindle in them the Spiriy of thy love. Send forth the Spirit, and they shall be created.
And you shall renew the face of the earth.
Let us pray
O GOd who instructed the Hearts of the faithfull by the light of the Holy Spirir grant us that in the same Spirit to savor what is right, and always to rejoice in his consolation. Through Christ Our Lord.
Amen.
O Mary conceived without sin, Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

A Prayer To Our Blessed Mother

Take my hand O Blessed Mother
Hold me firmily lest I fall
I grow nervous while walking and
Humbly on the call.

Guide me over every crossing
Watch me when I"m on the Stairs
Let me know that you"re beside me
Listen to my fervent prayers

Bring me to my destination
Safely along the way
Bless my every undertaking
And my duties for the day.

And when evening creeps upon me
I’ll never fear to be alone
Once again O Blessed Mother
Take my hand and lead me home.

If you say this prayer every day you will not fall.

Antrim
 
It should decrease with age…

Try to remove yourself from the situation. If you’re on the computer get off, or do some exercises if you’re in bed.
 
You have received a lot of very good answers. However, I have a couple of things to add. First, stay out of near occasions of sin. Don’t go to websites that show provocative pictures. Second, say these prayers when you become aroused.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him we humbly pray and do thou oh prince of the heavenly host, by the power of God, cast into hell satan and all the evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.

Now don’t get me wrong, these urges are natural. However, they are temptations and God does not tempt us. Only Satan or the demons can do that.
 
Holly3278 said:
Now don’t get me wrong, these urges are natural. However, they are temptations and God does not tempt us. Only Satan or the demons can do that.
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Wait, wait, wait.

So the things he’s feeling are NATURAL. I assume all NATURAL things come from God, right?

But you said God does not tempt.

What he is feeling is a temptation. And what he is feeling is natural. And natural things are from God. Ergo, his temptation is from God.

The conclusion, therefore, would be that God is tempting him. Which, as you say, is impossible.

I sense a contradiction in your logic.
 
Sex is a good, when in the right context. Sin has distorted us. We want the pleasure of sex w/o being in the proper context. The temptation to go for the good feel of sex w/o the proper context (marriage, procreation, sharing true intimacy w/ our one and only, etc) and focus our attention on others’ bodies and all is from the devil. No contradiction.
 
We can never know for sure if we are maybe a bit complicit when it comes to things like this. Augustine addresses this topic, which apparently worried him at one point. He asks, how can a person know which bite of a meal moves from satisfying the needs of the body to gluttony? Well, clearly none of us can, and this applies to a hundred things we do each day.

On the bright side, God knows, and he won’t hold us accountable when we are not. Say a prayer, ask for whatever forgiveness God thinks you need, and forge on.

It will likely get much better over the next few years.
 
Listen,
I tell you that the sin is not in your thought. The sin comes from the actions your put to that thought, i.e. Masturbation. The thoughts you are feeling are natural to a young man. These thoughts are going to flood your mind because you are at a stage of life that is very active in the hormones. If you have these thoughts try to let them go by thinking of your day and what you did and what you are planning to do the next day. Or turn on the TV to something that is not sexual in nature (hard to do). Just try your best to not allow yourself to masturbate or act out on the sexual inclination. If you do fall, remember that God wants you to get up and try again. The talk of God tempting you is not theologically correct. The talk of the Devil tempting you is a thought. But friend, being that you are a man and are young it is not either, it is your psychological make up as man to have these sexual energies within you. Believe me, I know the talk and have had it with my spiritual director in seminary. You will do fine as you get older these things shall pass.
God Bless!
 
glassofwater said:
So I’m 19 years old, and like most guys my age I struggle with impure thoughts. Big surprise. I try to ignore the thoughts when they come or actively distract myself, but what’s weird is that a few times now they have been so…well…intense that they’ve resulted in a you-can-hopefully-guess-what without me deliberately trying to make one happen.
Eeesh, sorry if this is awkward.
Like I said, when these thoughts come to me like this I really do try to distract myself, but I can’t help but wonder if part of me is “allowing” them to come in hopes that they’ll result in a you-know-what and I can actually then get some sleep. Should I be worried; does this sound like, I don’t know, masturbating with my mind or something? Has anyone heard of this sort of thing happening before?
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Real exercise helps a ton. Like badminton. It’s a serious work out. But silly tennis can work too. Any sport that takes a lot of mind and body cordination should work. Also, you can carry a picture of some very unattractive scenery like the garbage fields or the fish gutting bins in germ infested factories. Trust me, those really can be distracting. Pictures of people work too but I would not suggest it. Nor anything gory. Stick to garbage, guts, and thinking sports =).

Good luck my friend.
 
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