Vacation with a boyfriend

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My best friend and I want to go on vacation and bring our boyfriends with us. Our plan to avoid a scandal or sin was to have all four of is in separate beds but in the same room. Is this considered a sin?
 
You guys are good. You’d all be following the spirit of the law
 
It’s not a sin. But it could be a near occasion of sin if it’s more likely to make you want to sin. But with the other couple in the room, one feels that’s unlikely. So just be prudent and if it’s a near occasion of sin then avoid it.
 
I’d do separate rooms. One, it’ll be almost impossible to find a hotel that actually provides more than two beds to a room. Even if you get a suite, people will still be sleeping on the couch.

There’s also the whole temptation issue, as well as how it looks to others to stay in the same room. Regardless of how strong you think you may be, putting yourself in the position to fail is never a good idea.
 
Kathleen18 said:
2 rooms, females in one and males in another. Just a suggestion.
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This 🙂 it is always good to hold to etiquette.You are being a witness to your faith also ,even if people are not aware who you are.
 
I doubt she’s going to be tempted to have sex with her boyfriend with her best friend right next to her.
 
Agree. Boys in one room, girls in another.

Sharing a hotel room = a near occasion of sin
 
Uhhhhh the OP has “Jude” as their name. Hopeing that is a Patron Saint.
 
If it was just her and her boyfriend, sure. But with another couple there, and the girls in one bed, boys in the other? Not seeing how that’s morally hazardous.
 
You have apparently never been young and in love.

Having sex in a dorm room with a roommate’s bed 3 feet away is not uncommon.
 
I mean, I guess, but there’s always “a way” in theory. Even if they were in separate rooms, one of them could sneak into the other room when everyone is asleep. They could go for a drive and have sex in a car. They could sneak off tomorrow and rent their own room if they so chose. It seems like they’ve already chosen to put an appropriate barrier in place: the other couple. You can’t completely eliminate the possibility.
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You have apparently never been young and in love.

Having sex in a dorm room with a roommate’s bed 3 feet away is not uncommon.
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I mean, I have, I just had the good sense to learn the class schedule of my girlfriend’s roommate so I knew when she’d be gone…😏
 
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I get your point, I just think the presence of her friend sleeping right next to her is probably going to provide that moment to stop and think.

As an aside, I’ve never seen a hotel room with four separate beds…
 
Act of Contrition

O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee, and I detest all my
sins because of Thy just punishments, but most of all because they offend
Thee, my God, Who art all-good and deserving of all my love. I firmly
resolve, with the help of Thy grace, to sin no more and to avoid the near
occasions of sin.
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I’m not even sure the separate rooms is sufficient. Call me old fashioned. ☺️
 
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Dig the keys to rooms in the gardens. Or throw it anywhere on the hotel’s garden, space. Your boy should sleep outside. One should have an eye on the other. Have a ice cold water in a bottle, bucket. If you are tempted, then the other shall throw this water on you. Or just dont on a holiday alone. Or go only after you marry.
 
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If it was just her and her boyfriend, sure. But with another couple there, and the girls in one bed, boys in the other? Not seeing how that’s morally hazardous.
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Um, back in the day it wasn’t unheard of at my college to have one couple in one bed and one in the other in a shared dorm room with two beds.
I’ll refrain from saying whether anything “happened” but let’s just say it was not out of the realm of possibilities.

For this vacation arrangement to work, you’re relying on everybody’s good behavior to keep the boys in one bed and the girls in another bed. That’s kind of a tall order for young people with hormones, possible alcohol, etc.

If you want to be safe, get two rooms.
 
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