Vacation with a boyfriend

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Traveling together is a great way to figure out if you are compatible, and to learn so much about each other. There is nothing wrong with taking a vacation together.
 
The 70s had just ended.
Having said that, I think most of us preferred having our own rooms. Which probably led to even more sinful things going on. Ah well, it was almost 40 years ago.
 
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My best friend and I want to go on vacation and bring our boyfriends with us. Our plan to avoid a scandal or sin was to have all four of is in separate beds but in the same room. Is this considered a sin?
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Take a shorter or cheaper trip, stay in a cheaper hotel, get two rooms or save up longer–some combination of those things, but get two rooms.

I don’t think you are in huge danger of falling into sin, but it offers better optics later if you’re telling the story–especially if any of you have younger siblings and single practicing Catholic friends or have some sort of position of authority.

Plus, four unrelated adults in a hotel room sharing a bathroom is snug and time-inefficient. Imagine the negotiations over shower schedule…We travel (occasionally) as a family of five in a single room and I can’t imagine replicating that bathroom experience on purpose if I didn’t need to.

Also, either couple is going to feel like a third wheel some of the time, so having separate rooms builds in time for friend time. You should also probably do separate dinner dates at least once–don’t ever spend all of a group vacation with each other all the time.

Also, unrelated tip–a morning of structured group sight seeing is a big plenty. If you do that, be more relaxed about your afternoons, and don’t be afraid to do things separately.

Have fun!
 
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On reflection, once you’re on the road, you have to be prepared for the eventuality that two of your travelling companions may have conferred in advance and come up with the brilliant idea of two rooms (one for each girlfriend and boyfriend) or boyfriend-girlfriend bed arrangements.

Even if your boyfriend is pure as the driven snow, it might be very awkward to have to discuss this mid-trip with your friend and her boyfriend.

So, be very sure of who you are travelling with, and make sure that the arrangements are very clear in advance.

All in all, I don’t really like this as a boyfriend-girlfriend situation, because there are too many unknowns in the situation.

You could also do a big day trip together.
 
Or, bring along another girl. Odd numbers help stop the pairing off after an evening of dancing and cocktails.
 
People keep saying this in this thread… but is it really near occasion of sin when there’s another couple right next to you? Unless they’re all total degenerates that would just be weeeeeeeeirrrd.
 
i would personally get too separate rooms. you be more free to get changed and shower and all that sort of more private stuff
 
Maybe that’s why my now wife, then girlfriend, and I were safe when we travelled together… I always detested dancing!!! 😛
 
The girls probably would. I know jock types are used to changing together - but me and my guy friends never could be comfortable undressing in the same room.
 
I can clarify. I’m a girl (Jude short for Judith) and my best friend is a girl. Also, I’m not a teenager just out of the house. My boyfriend and I are in our mid twenties and both live in single bedroom apartments. We have every opportunity to sin and we have not.
 
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I really wanted to thank everyone for all the (name removed by moderator)ut! Two separate rooms would get expensive because we are planning a cruise, but I think my friend would agree that’s the best and safest bet. Thank you!
 
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I really wanted to thank everyone for all the (name removed by moderator)ut! Two separate rooms would get expensive because we are planning a cruise, but I think my friend would agree that’s the best and safest bet. Thank you!
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Oh, for a cruise, definitely get 2 rooms. Four adults in a cruise ship cabin would be incredibly claustrophobic, especially for more than 3 days.

Aside from morals, you want to come back from your trip all still liking each other.
 
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Yes. At least 2 sins. One is of scandal, the other is putting yourselves in the near occasion of sin. I might say that there’s a third sin, that of lust.

Don’t delude yourselves. Sins of lust damn many people.

My two cents.
 
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