Valid Marriage or too immature?

[Layp3rs0n]

My wife and I are both Catholic. We were married in the Church in March. I have long suffered from a porn and sexual addiction (she knows) and I quickly fell back into porn use. Just came home confession, after recomtting myself, during which Father said “Ya know this would easily, given your past immaturity, and addiction, be annulled if you divorced.” He didn’t recommend this, and said I wasnt obligated to seek an annulment or have our union reblessed but I find this disturbing. The concept that I mighy mot really be spiritually united to my spouse fills me with sadness. It makes me wonder if I could have our union reblessed? Am I not actually married? HELP! I sas certainly not being a good husband but am I even actually her husband?

 

[JulianN]

Marriage enjoys the presumption of validity. You are actually married, and there is no need to re-do anything other than in your heart.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

Father said some shocking words. Use that shock to stop yourself the next time you’re tempted to fall into bad habits.

Stop and ask yourself what’s more important - being the husband to your wife, or having the six minutes of squelching noises (as LL Cool J and Johnny Lydon put it) that are going to result from you looking at that porn.

If that doesn’t make you knock it off, seek professional psychological help.

 

[Jen7]

Another way to see this: if your wife gets sick of sharing you with other women, she could easily get an annulment and move right on, per your priest. Please get help to quit now! Save your marriage before it’s too late.

 

[Layp3rs0n]

Thank you. I start SAA next Thursday. And I’ve sat down with my wife and apologized. Thank God both He and she have forgiven me. I am determined to get help.

 

[Layp3rs0n]

Oh I am as of now. I am just now holding her and her I before I go to work. We are attending Mass on Sunday. We are determined to make repairs. I thank God for his Grace in this and for their forgiveness. Where I have failed may I be stronger in Him. Because seriously, I was sick at heart and I have now refused Satan’s grasp. Thank you all!