I didn’t mean for this post to go on so long, but please bear with me.
Evangelicalism is a pretty wide umbrella. Many Evangelical sects do not ascribe to each item in the Deposit of Faith, even regarding Baptism. For example, one local Community Church (Fundamentalist Independent) “sells” Baptism with an OSAS bent, in that Baptism is only a symbol of the conversion of heart and a ritual akin to the Sacrament of Reconciliation.
I’m not saying that your particular Church is that way, but it cannot be any wonder why the Church would need to delve further “just to make sure.”
Let me make a military analogy: if a new soldier was accessed into my unit, I’d still have to check his 201, er, personnel file to make sure he’s been trained in squad weapons (and has kept his training current). I can’t go by his word alone, I need to look at his “official” qualifications. If his old unit didn’t keep adequate records of range training, it’s my job to get him to the range again – no matter how many times he’d been in the last to the range the year before he came to my unit. The soldier can show me a video from within 30 days and of course I’d call his old RNCO, but I’d still need the paperwork.
I’ll speculate that because your old denomination hadn’t been listed “officially” as being “approved” in compatible theology with the Church’s, is why there is an investigation. As I said,“Evangelical” is a very wide umbrella term adopted by those sects who do not share the same tenets of faith (as yours does).
The fact that you were only nine days shy of Reception makes a huge difference in that you wrote you’d decide whether or not to enter based on the reply you received. I’m shocked by this. A Catholic forms his conscience to that of the Church, not rye other way around.
The fact that you weren’t “officially” Catholic yet matters less because within two weeks you’d have promised to try to form your conscience as Catholics do. You believed you were ready to do this, and the Church did, too.
Say that your old denomination isn’t recognized by the Church and it was insisted you’d need a conditional Baptism. Tell me you’d still say “no?” Then if you’re not willing to submit to the Church’s authority, you weren’t ready to enter nine days after you were notified that there was an issue. If you’re willing to be part of it, go whole hog: get the conditional baptism and STILL push the issue why you’d have to have done that.
Take for example a last longish analogy of an cold-footed fiance (bear with me here). Nine days before the wedding, your intended doesn’t “call it off,” but says, “I’m not sure, I didn’t consult with my parents.”
Would you, in your disappointment and hurt, still say, “Take all the time you need, Dear,” or would you stomp around and say, “You promised me! That’s not fair!”
In the meantime, her parents want to talk to your parents, because they’ve already spoken to you. They want to assure themselves that you know what you’re in for, not so much their daughter. They want to know how YOU were raised, and assure themselves that you were raised with the same values as their daughter.
Would you hold it against them for wanting to meet your family and not taking your word for it? Or would you be humble and patient enough to let them fully get to know your family before they allowed you to marry their daughter?
Of course, all analogies fall short. But the Church has been waiting for YOU. Come home ASAP, please!