Vasectomy; should I enjoy sex?

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Last year I had a vasectomy.
This year I gave my life to Christ and began going to Church with my wife.

I feel like, I should worry every time we have sex, because we are missing the important element of procreation, when we have intercourse.

If I look at it from another angle, and don’t worry, then I don’t need to go through with the procreation part?
ie. we can follow through when going orally.
This angle opens up masterbation to being a grey area.

I’m confused, do I need to worry, or not worry about what I have done.
 
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As long as you have confessed your sin, don’t worry about it. Your sexual acts still have to be open to life though. Meaning its still possible for your wife to get pregnant if your vasectomy fails.
 
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f I look at it from another angle, and don’t worry, then I don’t need to ejaculate inside my wife?
ie. I can ejaculate outside of her vagina.
This angle opens up masterbation to being a grey area.
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Ah, the illusive “gray area”…
Sorry, doesn’t exist. You will twist yourself in knots trying to justify behavior you know is wrong, so stop before you even start.
 
Yes. You should enjoy sex with your wife. Stick to keeping all foreplay and intercourse chaste and ordered towards procreation. (meaning follow Church guidelines despite the vasectomy.)

You could also make a personal penance of donating to a local pro-life pregnancy center or some other organization that supports children if your conscience leads you to do so even though, if you already confessed or this happened before you were baptized, you are forgiven.
 
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Aren’t people required to make reparations for certain mortal sins-like stealing? How is this any different? Its a relatively simple procedure and can be undone.
 
Very true. Although a couple who were teaching our marriage preparation class told us that they had completed their family and the husband had a vasectomy. Husband said, “Hurts.” The wife added, “Then he found out what the Church teaches about contraception and had it reversed.” Husband said, “Hurts more.”
 
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I should worry every time we have sex
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If I look at it from another angle, and don’t worry, then I don’t need to ejaculate inside my wife?
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I’m not sure how you got from A to B.

Each act of intercourse must be ordered to procreation.
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do I need to worry, or not worry about what I have done.
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You don’t need to “worry” about what you’ve done or refrain from enjoying sexual relations with your wife. You do need to have properly ordered intercourse. One is not related to the other.

Talk to your pastor about sacramental confession and sexual morality in marriage.
 
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You should enjoy it very much!

And you don’t need to get it reversed…
 
That doesn’t matter. The Church does not require this, and it should not be forwarded as something that should be done.
 
Sexual acts between husband and wife still should be ordered toward procreation, even if procreation is highly unlikely (such as in your case, where you have had a vasectomy). In other words, a married couple should not engage in acts that are sterile by their very nature, even if coitus is extremely unlikely to lead to procreation (e.g., due to sterilization, infertility, or advanced age). To do otherwise would violate not only the procreative aspect of the act, but the unitive aspect as well.

Likewise, a vasectomy doesn’t open up a gray area for masturbation, because this act still violates the unitive nature of sexuality.

However, there is no reason for you not to be intimate with your wife. You cannot undo your past decision, but that decision doesn’t mean that you and your wife must remain celibate. (Then again, maybe you can undo your past decision. It may be a good idea to look into having the procedure reversed, though I don’t think you are obligated to do this. You certainly would have to consider carefully any risks of another surgery.)
 
Would the same be true for a woman who’s had her tubes tied and then converted?
 
Read CAF rules. This is a pg rated site. Your language and descriptions are not pg.
 
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