I hear you.
Interestingly enough, though, out there in the “real world” there isn’t as much of the kind of trench warfare between SSPX and other traditional groups as there is sometimes online. There are a good many people who, while perhaps, having a personal preference, attend all of SSPX, FSSP, and regular diocesan Traditional Masses, as their convenience dictates.
Personally, I only go to an SSPX Masses when I don’t have an alternative Traditional Mass available to me, but there are a lot of people who are more flexible (as well as a certain group who are absolutely inflexible about where they go to Mass
Out here, most of us who are religious and/or priests who have met SSPX priests have a good rapport with them. Whenever I can get together with my SSPX buddy, I ask him about many of the things that people post on TC Forum and 8/10 times, he tells me, “We would never say that.” He has always told me that they have a big problem with the laity.
One day he said that the laity who attend their masses are composed of two groups. He divided them this way. He said 80% are just good Catholics who like to go to a traditional mass, but don’t have an ax to grind with the Church. We support those Catholics. The other 20% will never be happy no matter what the Church says or does, because they belong to the same fringe group that wants women’s ordination, abortion, and same-sex marriage. He said to me once, “They’re the flip side of the coin, but extremists nonetheless.”
On another occasion, talking about what some of their priests tell the laity about the Church, he said something that made me laugh. “The Jesuits are not the only ones who have a few loose cannons.”
They have a real concern that many of these extremists are going to walk right out of the door and become some new version of Protestantism. We both agree that the radical liberal fringe will just wither away as do all fads. However, the conservative extremists are much more dangerous, because heresy has always comes from the right, not the left. Leftwing groups have come and disappeared.
My impression is that they’re thinking about these lay people who will only hang around them as long as they are in conflict with Rome. When they reach an agreement with Rome, it’s not going to please these folks, because these folks are out to convert Rome not to reconcile with Rome. Unfortunately, they have a few priests among their ranks and maybe a bishop.
I met Bishop Fellay through my buddy. I liked him. We was gracious, intelligent and we chatted for a few minutes. We disagreed on some points, but he was not aggressive or rude as are some folks who claim to be supporters of the SSPX. That always baffles me. These men, for the most part, are very ordinary people and are not looking to pick a fight or to find fault in everything. That’s why you will always see me say that the lay people are doing more harm to the image of the SSPX, than they deserve.
In the end, what pastors and religious report to the bishops is what people say to them. Most pastors and religious have never had the opportunity to have a hamburger with a priest from the SSPX. There aren’t that many of them around and they’re not in too many places. In addition, in those dioceses where they have chapels, they’re very low key.
I attended a funeral at one of their chapels. That’s how I met my buddy. The laywoman who gave us the instructions on how to behave and what to do was obnoxious. The priest was delightful. As soon as he saw my habit, he said, “Oh, you belong to that new group of friars that just arrived. Your ministry is really needed.” The woman, on the other hand asked me, “Are you a priest?” I said, “No, I’m a religious.” She said, “Oh, you’re just a brother.” I said, “No, I’m not JUST a brother. I’m a religious, a theologian and the Diocesan Coordinator of Respect Life Ministry to Men.” She just shrugged her shoulders, told me where to sit and walked away. I was like, “OK, whatever makes you happy Lady”. I later realized that she was reserving the front row, but for priests and sisters only. She was a relative of the deceased, but not too welcoming of outsiders. The deceased was the mother of one of nuns. I was not there for this lady, but for her sister ther nun and the decasesd.
My point, don’t trust what people say about these guys on forums. Some will tear them apart and others will canonize them in life. The average person in the pew is much more sensible, as are the few priests that I’ve met from the SSPX.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF
