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SecretaryMonday
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Ha ha.
When I attend the OF Mass, I don’t wear anything distinctly “mantilla-ish”, so it I don’t really stand out. I wear bandanas or simple hats.
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When I attend the OF Mass, I don’t wear anything distinctly “mantilla-ish”, so it I don’t really stand out. I wear bandanas or simple hats.
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maryjk
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Historically, women wore hats or scarves, not veils.I first felt drawn to head-covering while I still attended the OF exclusively. My husband objected to me drawing attention to myself. I found there were other ways to cover without a mantilla that did not stand out. A scarf or beret, if it matches your clothes, is not likely to draw attention. And there are summer hats as well as winter ones that would look normal. It can be done.
My mom, who grew up wearing a covering always said the only veil she ever wore was at her first Communion.
Hats were the name of the game.
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Tigg
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Good for you! I’m of the same opinion regarding other issues such as dressing respectfully for Mass when we see so many wearing sloppy or immodest clothing. I’d make a bet that many older Catholics have forgotten the time when we always made The Sign of the Cross when driving by a Catholic Church to enforce our belief that Jesus, truly is on our altars. I doubt the younger generation has ever heard of such a devotion!
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ReddyFreddy
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Yes, I’m way hard on myself on what I wear to church. I’ve had it ingrained in me to never wear jeans (I did one time and it felt too weird), nothing too tight, low-cut, etc.
I see a lot of ladies wearing skinny jeans and while I do wear them, I don’t see how they are comfortable in them at church b/c I wouldn’t be. I don’t care what other people wear really b/c I don’t think God cares. I’m uptight when it comes to my clothing choices though.
I’ve changed things about my outfits before because I feel like it’s not proper to wear to mass. Case in point, my tights earlier, they were pretty with a design on them but were “holey” if that makes sense. They were cute tights but I switched to solid leggings under my skirt anyways. I’m glad I did as I would have regretted it I think.
I see a lot of ladies wearing skinny jeans and while I do wear them, I don’t see how they are comfortable in them at church b/c I wouldn’t be. I don’t care what other people wear really b/c I don’t think God cares. I’m uptight when it comes to my clothing choices though.
I’ve changed things about my outfits before because I feel like it’s not proper to wear to mass. Case in point, my tights earlier, they were pretty with a design on them but were “holey” if that makes sense. They were cute tights but I switched to solid leggings under my skirt anyways. I’m glad I did as I would have regretted it I think.
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airforcemom
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We lost a lot - 5 1/2 feet of water in the house 8’ in the yard and workshop. Have almost finished rebuilding the house. Glad your friends were able to settled elsewhere. I know many did. St. Bernard probably had close to 70,000 residents then and now we are around 35,000. We have 4.25 acres so it was hard to find that a decent house for what we could afford – bought a house in AR and really liked it there but now my son has transferred to AZ. We sold it in 2010 before I retired and came home. Not so sure it was the right decision but for now it is - my parents are 85 and 90 and I feel I need to be close by.
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carmichael2359
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I have two veils that I’ve had since Vatican II went into effect. We called them chaplets back then. One was no more than a lace doily, that we wore until Grade 4, when we got the full mantilla. I still have both. I’m rather ashamed and disappointed that the a magisterium never cleared up, officially, the misunderstanding that led to the faithful believing women no longer had to cover in church.I really thought that eventually they’d clear that up, officially. I know in other countries, covering is mandatory yet.
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paperwight66
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Which countries?
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Elisabeth51
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No, historically western women have worn veils, similar in style to what Muslim women now wear, check out some Anglo-Saxon or other early medieval textile or artwork depictions, pictures of saints from the period. Hats are modern as are the little scarf thing. Veils are the more traditional—not as in wedding veil, but as in large piece draped material that covers all of your hair, not just a little of it.Historically, women wore hats or scarves, not veils.
My mom, who grew up wearing a covering always said the only veil she ever wore was at her first Communion.
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floresco
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“Historically” depends on what period of history one is talking about. I`m not sure that longer ago means more traditional. Covering our heads is a wonderful custom but we do not need to say that one kind is better than another.
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Tigg
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Regarding the bolded, me, too! I had often wondered if this interior conviction was coming from Our Lady - not to compromise on our attire because we just want to be comfortable, or because it is the fashion.
Wow! This is a confirmation of what I wrote in the first comment of this post. I LOVE dangly earrings and one day when I was getting dressed and had a pair in my hand, I had such a momentary qualm about them, it distressed me. I believed then, it was just something I was supposed to give up to Our Blessed Mother (permanently.) Not that there is anything wrong with them, or with others wearing them…they just are not for me. I don’t feel completely dressed without earrings and still wear small hoops or another type - just nothing that would call attention to my face.
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maryjk
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Yes, veils of material that they wore everywhere.
Not lacy triangles that they only put on for Mass.
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SecretaryMonday
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It makes sense - and it would certainly give a different meaning to “Holey, Holey, Holey…”
Glad you’re okay.I had mentioned wearing a veil in the sacristy because I thought that’s where I would be meeting a priest after Mass to be enrolled in the brown scapluar. I assumed that I would need to remove a headcovering for that, but I didn’t.
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LittleHannah
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I wear a veil to Holy Mass.
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thewanderer
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Perhaps you could wear a wide headband in the summer? I know its not exactly the same, but I have heard of others who veil sometimes wearing one instead of some other headcovering when they did not want to stand out.Thank you for veiling during the OF Mass. I have been wanting to do this for a while. My pastor (and ultimate boss) encourages it, but the church secretary (and my immediate supervisor) is adamant that I do nothing during Mass that would set me apart from the rest of the congregation and were I to veil I would be the only one doing so. Even the pastor hesitates to cross herMaybe I should wear a hat instead, although I’d never get away with that in the summertime.
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RedSoxWife
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I usually put on whatever headcovering I’m wearing, whether it’s a veil or a snood or a scarf or a hat, in the car on the way to Mass. I’m wrangling little ones on the way into Mass and don’t have hands free to put one in place once I’m outside. These days the biggest requirement for whatever I’m wearing is that it stay solidly in place if the two year old goes for it and yanks hard.
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MommaElspeth
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I and my daughters cover every time we enter the church. Our OF mass usually has 4-5 ladies who cover at the time we go. One morning, due to a visiting family and another family that usually attends the EF mass we had 14. 12 under the age of 50.
We have a nice collection of mantillas, scarves, and hats. Each of the girls chooses what they feel like that morning. I cover full time, so I usually just go as is. I’m also the “mean” mom who will put a nice thick shawl on top of their clothes if they should choose something sleeveless or with too little coverage.
12 under the age of 50.We have a nice collection of mantillas, scarves, and hats. Each of the girls chooses what they feel like that morning. I cover full time, so I usually just go as is. I’m also the “mean” mom who will put a nice thick shawl on top of their clothes if they should choose something sleeveless or with too little coverage.
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