Veils & Hats: Is one preferable to the other?

[Margaret_Ann]

At SSPX chapels, even baby girls have their heads covered.

 

[babochka]

As an adult, I’ve been thinking about returning to covering my head. Hats aren’t popular in my parish. I’m considering a chapel cap or a wide headband. I’m not really into the full lacy veils.

I wear a wide headband and I find it a perfect solution. I don’t stand out if I’m among women who don’t wear a headcovering and it does the job nicely. As an added bonus, the kids aren’t as likely to pull it off my head.

 

[Margaret_Ann]

If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me: “Are you a nun/sister?” I’d be a rich woman (materially speaking).

 

[Margaret_Ann]

I have some polyester ones but do have at least 3 which are lace.

 

[Margaret_Ann]

If I remember right, the wife of Aeneas makes sure that she is veiled. (Virgil or Ovid)

 

[Margaret_Ann]

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Like this?

 

[Loud-living-dogma]

I like what some of Amish / Mennonite ladies wear. It looks like a cloth napkin, pinned at the sides with clips. I think it’s called a Mennonite charity veil.

 

[alice24]

It’s a relic of the eastern european custom. I sometimes see older women from the same russian areas where many Mennonites came from in the past centuries and they wear similar head coverings, the only difference is sometimes little embroidery.

 

[SnowRose]

Technically, if I wear a partyhat to church my head is covered but it is neither reverential nor respectful

Whatever the original, historical or religious reasons why women covered their heads while attending religious services and the kind of covering used, the only message that was passed down from adults to children was to make sure something was on top of your head

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Isn’t this losing sight of why you want to cover your head?

 

[LisaB]

Practical question for those who wear veils or scarves: how do you keep them from sliding off your head? I always pin mine with a bobby-pin but most people don’t, and I can’t figure out how they stay on their heads? When I tried it, the veil would slowly make its way off my head and it was very distracting.

 

[alice24]

They don’t slip when the fabric isn’t super silky. In the summer, I tie a triangular scarf behind my neck like the farmer women used to do.

 

[pensmama87]

I have a small comb clip sewn into mine, and those work great. They’re also basically invisible. Before I started using those I had loops sewn on them and would use two bobby pins in each loop to form an X, which was also very discreet. But the comb is way easier.

 

[Phemie]

Isn’t this losing sight of why you want to cover your head?

But that’s just my point, if you’d asked any woman why she wore a hat/kerchief to church back in the day the reply you would have received from probably 99% of those asked would have been “Because the Church says I have to.” And that’s why head coverings disappeared as soon as we were told we “didn’t have to” any longer. Particularly since by that time women didn’t wear hats anywhere else.

 

[SnowRose]

Ah, I was talking about putting a kleenex on your head.

 

[mrsdizzyd]

Ah, I was talking about putting a kleenex on your head.

If you have to be covered, then you have to be covered. If a Kleenex is what is available, then that’s what gets put on your head.

 

[SnowRose]

And that is a prime example of the thinking that means I’m perfectly happy where I am denomination-wise.

 

[mrsdizzyd]

It’s not as though Catholics were the only ones who required things of their members (and this is not a current requirement anyway).

Baptists had a fair number of rules as well. Most organizations (religious or secular) have rules regarding conduct and dress. I’m sure Lutherans do as well…

 

[somecanadian]

The reason the mantillas cause the reaction they do is because they stand out like a sore thumb in many communities.

They are beautiful, stunning in fact, but they are also extremely rare (in my community).

When my sister came to my confirmation she wore a mantilla veil and sat in the back and DESPITE that everyone noticed her. In fact, during the celebration dinner afterwards I caught a man joking about the ‘Spanish’ lady in the back of the church.

His mockery was not right, obviously, but I do wonder at wearing a thing that is bond to attract so much attention. (Just my own PERSONAL hangup, I do NOT judge any women who choose to wear a mantilla… I just don’t personally understand because I like to avoid attention).

Those little lace head scarf type things are quite lovely and would be far less attention grabbing. I like those little head scarves that women wear too (kind of like the Jewish snood). Personally the hats are for me though. They blend in, they serve their purpose and they make me feel like nobody is staring.

 

[bassmansteiny]

CAF rule #4
Links are only permitted as references for the topic of discussion. Links for promotional purposes, personal blogs, or to anti-Catholic websites are not permitted. Exceptions

I learned something new today, lol. I posted some links in past post to some blogs as references only, non Catholic though, hope I did not break any rules. Probably total of 3 times or so since joing.

 

[DarkLight]

That is the OTHER reason why I wear elastic headwraps. And good luck figuring out how to put a bobby pin in my hair.