Virginity and marriage.

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I’m probably a quasi-feminist. I don’t accept abortion. And I think when it comes to sexual mores, feminism has rather aped the worse parts of societal masculinity when it ought to have been challenging it.

**That said, I think a lot of feminist ideas still have a place. So for example, one thing I learned from feminists (after an abusive relationship) was a lot of the psychology of sexual assault, including the commonality of the freeze response. I know even in modern times I got a lot of “boys will be boys” or “well you must have tempted him somehow” response from a lot of people around me.

Incidentally I think that freeze response may be critical knowledge for male victims as well, who are much more socially expected to fight back. There’s a lot of psychology that we don’t respond in traumatic situations in the way we think we would respond in our calmer moments.**
Right.

Another issue, come to think of it–parents who use heavy-handed discipline methods on children are setting them up to be abused later by romantic partners. They’re basically instilling the idea that 1) people that love you will hurt you and that’s OK and 2) when people that love you hurt you, you aren’t allowed to escape.

Would it make sense to call that “learned helplessness”? (That’s another one of those new-fangled psychological terms.)
 
Apparently this thread ballooned during my absence. I will answer some of the earlier questions on this thread and take a few potshots. If there is anything else people want me address, just repost it please.
As somebody else has asked, what is that bill of goods?

And who sold it to you?
Simple, I was continually told to just be myself and be a nice guy and eventually you will find your soulmate/nice girl/unicorn. There is no need to be a tryhard manly man because women are less shallow than men and care about your personality and how respectful you are. :rotfl: Shockingly, the captain of the chess team gets little action. :rolleyes: The real motive behind this is to separate the actual alphas from the rest of us.

As for who sold it, that was society and my parents unwittingly.
What is your ideal marriage? From what I’ve seen of Red Pill guys, it means some version of the following:
–wife as sexbot
–wife does everything she’s told to do, even when the things are logically contradictory and/or physically impossible
–wife has no needs
–wife has no legal rights
–kids have no needs
–kids have no legal rights
–husband never has to answer to any higher outside authority–he can do as he pleases with his wife and children
So, a very porn-y, selfish vision of marriage and family.
That has never existed as a functional system really anywhere that I can think of (if you look at the Old Testament, you’ll notice that even the slave wife has legal rights).
Never seen anybody advocate that. Assuming drastic changes in the current misandrist laws or a woman who actually appreciates just how unfair family law is towards men combined with an ironclad prenup, my marriage would look something similar to the following.

Mrs. Starshiptrooper would be 6 to 7 years younger than me. (I will be in my early 30’s/ or late 20’s) Preferably she has at least a bachelor’s degree (I do not really care about the subject, but gender studies is a huge red flag).

The sex life is 2-5 times week (yes, I am aware that periods, sickness, and exhaustion are things this is just an average), none of this affirmative consent malarkey since it is an unrealistic standard as we already discussed.

I would want Mrs. Starshiptrooper to be a SAHW, which means I will definitely have some excellent provider game. This is part of the reason I want to be 6-7 years older, that way I have more time to stabilize my finances. I am indifferent on private schools or home education, but public schools are not an option.

As for decision making, I subscribe to a model that could best be described as captain and first mate. Someone has to ultimately make decisions, but good captains take the (name removed by moderator)ut from their first mate very seriously because they trust and respect their judgment.

I will keep Mrs. Starshiptrooper financially secure, physically safe and be a very attentive father to our children. Throw in some excellent ballroom dancing, a goofy sense of humor, some mutual interests and willingness to keep my commitments or die trying, and I figure it might work.
 
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