Virginity and Vocation

[TruthSeeker92]

Dear CredoUnumDeo,

Hi, I’m TruthSeeker92. I read your post and I also read that everything has worked out for the best!

God will always bring good out of EVERYTHING!

If you or anyone still struggle with worrying about past sins, you should look up chastity.com/

Read about the couple who started this website/movement and I am sure you will be encouraged.

Also, you should look up “Women of Grace” ewtn.com/series/shows/womenOfGrace/womenOfGrace.htm

May God Bless You! Never forget you are a daughter of the King. He wants the very best for you.

 

[ATeutonicKnight]

Hi,

I lost my virginity when I was 17. Over the past six years, I not only committed that sin with the guy who took my virginity, but also with one other guy that I dated. The occasions were infrequent and I always felt horrible afterward, but they did occur more than once with each person. I went to confession and received absolution, and truly did resolve to stay pure, etc etc. I am currently single and living a chaste life.

However, what I did tears me apart. My mother knows what happened, and she has confirmed my current opinion of myself: damaged goods. I know that I need to ‘forgive myself’ because God has forgiven me, and I do believe He has, but what makes me so ashamed and scared is that if I find a good Catholic guy, and eventually we get to a point where he wants to marry me…and I tell him about this, or he finds out…that I will suddenly become disgusting, which is how I see myself right now.

Is it true that there are guys out there who can forgive this? Isn’t it also true that there are just as many (if not more) guys who can’t? And when is the right time to let a guy know something like that? I don’t like the idea of concealing it, even if its not deception, just, ‘you don’t need to know this so I wont bring it up’, but I don’t want to ‘lead’ a good man on and then find that he is, understandbly, not willing to settle for damaged goods.

Please let me know what some of you think!

I am a young Catholic man of fifteen, and I have been almost certain that I am called to Religious Life for almost a year now. However, if for some reason this changed, and I met a woman like you (Or you specifically), I would not find you disgusting in the least bit. You are sorry, you confessed it, and Jesus forgives you. You are a great gift God has given to humanity. No great gift will be seen as “damaged goods” by a good young Catholic man.

For help in forgiving yourself, Chastity.com has a few answers for it here chastity.com/chastity-qa/starting-over/forgiving-yourself/ive-gone-confes and here chastity.com/chastity-qa/starting-over/forgiving-yourself/what-if-i-dont-

Don’t look at yourself like you are worthless. Jesus looks at you in such high regard that he would die for you, and he would forgive you of your sins against him in the Sacrament of Confession. Don’t look at yourself the way you see yourself. Look at yourself the way Jesus sees you. You’re not a lost cause. You have Jesus. What more does anyone else need?