Virginity?

[stonier]

hello
I have never had sexual intercourse but unfortunately before i dedicated myself to complete purity i did engage in oral sex. although i will not do this again before marriage, am i still considered a virgin? can i tell my friends or future wife that i’m a virgin?

 

[zemi]

Hi Stonier,

Virginity is a term used to describe the state of never having engaged in copulation. So you can guess what the answer is

Very happy that you want to lead a pure life!

 

[gell]

You technically can’t be a virgin again once you lose your virginity. You can however, be a renewed virgin, whereby you have secondary virginity.

IMHO (generally speaking) it’s not the business of your friends to know whether you are virgin or not. Why should they care?

 

[Liberanosamalo]

I think it’s referred to in some circles as VINO… Virgin in name only. The bigger picture is not what you have done, but what you resolve to do in your future.

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

Hi Stonier,

Virginity is a term used to describe the state of never having engaged in copulation. So you can guess what the answer is

Very happy that you want to lead a pure life!

I second the cheers for a pure life. I also agree that you are still considered a virgin. Virginity, IMHO, relates to have sexual intercourse. Oral sex is sex and is a sin outside of marriage, but I believe that your virginity is still there for you to give to your future husband. What a blessed man he will be!

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

I second the cheers for a pure life. I also agree that you are still considered a virgin. Virginity, IMHO, relates to have sexual intercourse. Oral sex is sex and is a sin outside of marriage, but I believe that your virginity is still there for you to give to your future husband. What a blessed man he will be!

(open mouth insert foot)

Meant woman, sorry stonier!!

 

[christcnection1]

hello
I have never had sexual intercourse but unfortunately before i dedicated myself to complete purity i did engage in oral sex. although i will not do this again before marriage, am i still considered a virgin? can i tell my friends or future wife that i’m a virgin?

I could be wrong, but doesn’t real sex require the possibility of pregnancy? (…taking contraception out of the equation)

Sexual intercourse is clearly something far more than anything oral!

I absolutely consider myself a virgin. I’m in the same category as you.

 

[ElizabethAnne]

I could be wrong, but doesn’t real sex require the possibility of pregnancy? (…taking contraception out of the equation)

Sexual intercourse is clearly something far more than anything oral!

I absolutely consider myself a virgin. I’m in the same category as you.

Oral sex is sex.

 

[ltbpoe43]

Let’s go to confession first and help us with your journey to stay pure, chaste, and true. Good luck.

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

I could be wrong, but doesn’t real sex require the possibility of pregnancy? (…taking contraception out of the equation)

Sexual intercourse is clearly something far more than anything oral!

I absolutely consider myself a virgin. I’m in the same category as you.

Oral sex is just as much sex as sexual intercourse. It is all fornication.

 

[LovedForever]

Oral sex is a type of sexual activity - but it is NOT “sexual intercourse.” It is an impure act outside of marriage - but it is NOT “fornication” and does not render someone a “non-virgin.”

Virginity has to do with sexual intercourse and whether one has engaged in this activity or not.

Let’s not confuse “purity” which has broader implications, with “virginity” which is very specific to a particular and singular act: Sexual intercourse

 

[LovedForever]

Oral sex is just as much sex as sexual intercourse. It is all fornication.

**for·ni·ca·tion ** /ˌfɔrnɪˈkeɪʃən/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[fawr-ni-key-shuhn] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons or two persons not married to each other.

 

[Verbum_Caro]

Let’s not confuse “purity” which has broader implications, with “virginity” which is very specific to a particular and singular act: Sexual intercourse

LF,

Do you think the definition of sexual intercourse as commonly understood eliminates any ambiguity in your definitiion of virginity?

VC

 

[Liberanosamalo]

Does that mean homosexuals are still virgins?

 

[deb1]

if oral sex was not sex then the word sex would not be included in the phrase.

 

[deb1]

**for·ni·ca·tion **/ˌfɔrnɪˈkeɪʃən/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[fawr-ni-key-shuhn] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons or two persons not married to each other.

please provide a link to the online dictionary that you used. you only sited the first definition and i would like to see the others.

i knew a girl-this was many years ago- who would have oral sex but would not have intercourse. she did this to preserve, so she said, her virginity. I used to get frustrated because I could not get her to understand why she was wrong.

yes, her hyman was still in place but she was misunderstanding the whole reason for being a virgin in the first place.

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

Oral sex is a type of sexual activity - but it is NOT “sexual intercourse.” It is an impure act outside of marriage - but it is NOT “fornication” and does not render someone a “non-virgin.”

Virginity has to do with sexual intercourse and whether one has engaged in this activity or not.

Let’s not confuse “purity” which has broader implications, with “virginity” which is very specific to a particular and singular act: Sexual intercourse

I did not say that oral sex is sexual intercourse and did not say that it "renders someone a ‘non-virgin’ but I did say that oral sex is fornication. Oral sex is sex. Sex outside of marriage is fornication. Henceforth, oral sex is fornication.

 

[a_priori]

When you are having oral sex, at least a part of you thinks you are having sex…

 

[Dale_M]

MHO (generally speaking) it’s not the business of your friends to know whether you are virgin or not.

Indeed. People are entitled to some secrets.

But your point has even more bearing on a tangent related to question asked by the OP.
Question:Who is entitled to know whether you are a virgin?
Answer: Your spouse on the wedding night, so he or she can be extra considerate.

With that in mind, I think it makes a difference whether one engaged in oral sex or if one engaged in intercourse.

 

[DrPiano]

I want to commend you for endeavoring to live a pure and chaste life. As for who/what you should tell… Honestly, as far as your friends go, it isn’t really their business, so unless you feel that disclosing that information will help them in some way, I’d say don’t worry about saying either way. With your future wife, I’d suggest that when it is appropriate you tell her what you’ve done. After all, once you are married you will be sharing all of who you are with her. In my opinion, it would be good to not have secrets from her.