Vivid dream about a man (and sin) I thought I'd got over

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I have mentioned in the past that I was once infatuated with a man who was married, and had a friendship with him that I know was emotionally inappropriate though nothing physical happened. I finally cut all ties with this man and moved away, and this was more than 5 years ago. I hadn’t even thought about him for a while. I thought I’d put this behind me.

But I had a very vivid dream about him last night, nothing graphic but in the dream I still recall seeing him and being attracted to him and all.

I know dreams are not sinful but I am shaken by this. I just want to forget I was ever involved in anything so against my beliefs.
 
ToeInTheWater said:
I have mentioned in the past that I was once infatuated with a man who was married, and had a friendship with him that I know was emotionally inappropriate though nothing physical happened. I finally cut all ties with this man and moved away, and this was more than 5 years ago. I hadn’t even thought about him for a while. I thought I’d put this behind me.

But I had a very vivid dream about him last night, nothing graphic but in the dream I still recall seeing him and being attracted to him and all.

I know dreams are not sinful but I am shaken by this. I just want to forget I was ever involved in anything so against my beliefs.
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Just a dream. Forget it.

It doesn’t sound like you sinned at all.
 
What Adam said. Remember too, that when growing closer to God the prince of lies loves to shake us up and entice us to return to previous ways.
Pray the St Michael prayer and put your mind and heart at ease.
 
Mary_Gail_36 said:
Dreams are things you can’t control. It’s your brain’s way of recharging. Don’t worry.
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This is it right here, ToeInTheWater. 🙂

I’ll have dreams about people from my past, too.

If I remember the dream and I think about it, it was probably triggered off by a song or something that I happened to see on the internet or on TV, etc., that was popular back at the time when I also knew that person.
 
Thanks for the support, I was pleasantly surprised that so far, no one has told me to pray an Act of Contrition to confess my violating the 10th Commandment. (Can’t go to Confession as I am not Catholic.)

I’ve also had dreams about guys I had crushes on in junior high that make me go “wha-? I didn’t even remember what that guy looked like until this dream reminded me” but none of those dreams touch on anything sinful.

Of course in real life I realize it would be dead wrong to pursue anything with this man.

I guess that’s what counts.
 
ToeInTheWater said:
I have mentioned in the past that I was once infatuated with a man who was married, and had a friendship with him that I know was emotionally inappropriate though nothing physical happened. I finally cut all ties with this man and moved away, and this was more than 5 years ago. I hadn’t even thought about him for a while. I thought I’d put this behind me.

But I had a very vivid dream about him last night, nothing graphic but in the dream I still recall seeing him and being attracted to him and all.

I know dreams are not sinful but I am shaken by this. I just want to forget I was ever involved in anything so against my beliefs.
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I find that the things that I am trying to forget seem to come back to me in dreams … I just ignore them … best to just forget about it and not let it worry you … you can’t control what you dream.
 
ToeInTheWater said:
I have mentioned in the past that I was once infatuated with a man who was married, and had a friendship with him that I know was emotionally inappropriate though nothing physical happened. I finally cut all ties with this man and moved away, and this was more than 5 years ago. I hadn’t even thought about him for a while. I thought I’d put this behind me.

But I had a very vivid dream about him last night, nothing graphic but in the dream I still recall seeing him and being attracted to him and all.

I know dreams are not sinful but I am shaken by this. I just want to forget I was ever involved in anything so against my beliefs.
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If you really want to forget then DONT POST about it.
It was a dream, let it go, and after you read this unsubscribe from the thread.
 
I dreamt of the destruction of the world. Lets see if there is any truth to that today 😇 I blame reading 😉

We both post in 24hrs!
 
Your forgetting details that I need to interpret the dream such as location, what side was he on, color or greyscale, emotions, etc.
 
ToeInTheWater said:
I have mentioned in the past that I was once infatuated with a man who was married, and had a friendship with him that I know was emotionally inappropriate though nothing physical happened. I finally cut all ties with this man and moved away, and this was more than 5 years ago. I hadn’t even thought about him for a while. I thought I’d put this behind me.

But I had a very vivid dream about him last night, nothing graphic but in the dream I still recall seeing him and being attracted to him and all.

I know dreams are not sinful but I am shaken by this. I just want to forget I was ever involved in anything so against my beliefs.
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You can’t control your brain when you sleep, no matter how vivid or realistic the dreams are or how well you end up remembering them.f

There may be some mental connection between your recent preoccupations and the content of your dreams but there may not. And the passage of time can be more than 5 years, the longer you live. It just happens, stuff just flashes back at ya, except it’s exaggerated and speculated on by your brain in wild ways you can’t control. It’s something new when you’re 30-ish, but I suppose many people in their sixties must be familiar enough with that kind of random flashbacks to have stopped paying them much attention any more. Heck, in my mid thirties and don’t care any more. Or so I say now. I’m probably just as shaken as you are after waking it, but then it just passes after a day or two.
 
I was searching for something similar about dreams, which is why I am responding over a month later than the original posting.

My grandmother taught me, that if you think of someone ‘out of the blue’ or dream of someone, especially someone who you haven’t seen in a long time, that you should pray for them.

Don’t dwell on it, but pray for them in God’s perfect Will.

You may never know why you were privileged to pray for them. Perhaps they were in danger physically or spiritually. Maybe they were discouraged, or maybe your prayer is because their Guardian Angel knew you would join with them to pray for this person.

I’ve had to pray for people I simply do not like this year because of this ‘habit’. It was a good exercise. At the very least it helped me get over myself a little bit. 😉

BTW, maybe it was a pizza you had late at night that produced that dream, praying for that person is still a good thing to do. It doesn’t have to come from an angel’s prompting to do good for our neighbor.

If you are a catholic and went to confession don’t worry. Even if you are not you still did the right thing to remove yourself away from this married person over this experience 5 years ago. You have no reason to think anything negative about this dream. Consider it an invitation to pray for this person. And don’t fret about it. Have confidence that the Lord will use your prayer to help this person or his family and loved ones.

God Bless you, you sweet soul!
 
Mary_Gail_36 said:
Dreams are things you can’t control. It’s your brain’s way of recharging. Don’t worry.
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It is recharging by mental auto-regurgitation. There isn’t any self-analysis necessarily going on at all. That’s why dreams usually mean nothing and very often are something you can trace back to only the most slight connection to the “subject.” For instance, any thoughts that you’d like a romance could kick up dreams regurgitating any strong feelings you’ve had before. Or maybe just seeing a car just like this guy drove; something you didn’t even register at the time, but it kicked open a mental filing cabinet for tonight’s “thought smoothie.”

What your dreams churn up isn’t something you choose. Don’t worry about it. Whenever I have a lot on my plate I have these dreams about signing up for a class and then forgetting to go to it and realizing it when it is too late and I’m sure to get an “F”. Nothing remotely like that has ever happened in my life. It’s my “I have this terrible feeling I’m forgetting something” dream.
 
ToeInTheWater said:
Thanks for the support, I was pleasantly surprised that so far, no one has told me to pray an Act of Contrition to confess my violating the 10th Commandment. (Can’t go to Confession as I am not Catholic.)

I’ve also had dreams about guys I had crushes on in junior high that make me go “wha-? I didn’t even remember what that guy looked like until this dream reminded me” but none of those dreams touch on anything sinful.

Of course in real life I realize it would be dead wrong to pursue anything with this man.

I guess that’s what counts.
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I have sexual dreams about female friends from my past that are now married sometimes. It makes me go “What?” I have dream’t that I am dating co-workers who are married with children (back when I worked with females) I have had dreams about actresses on tv who I know are married… bottom line is we cannot control our dreams and they are just dreams. We are not culpable for them if we did not purposely try to trigger them somehow (Which I cant even think of a way of doing) God bless.
 
I once dreamed I was an owl. I rather enjoyed it, flying silently through the forest and being able to see in very low light conditions. Night vision is the bomb.

It’s just a dream and not a symbol of whether I harbored any species dysphoria. A dream may be just a dream.
 
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