Vocation and getting closer to God

[Yogi89]

I’ve been having a rough time lately; I am single and in my late twenties. I am not even so worried so much about getting married so soon, but I just am worried that I might never get married because I haven’t met anyone. It just seems like the time I do meet someone, it just does not work out. Could this mean that I am called to the single life? I really don’t want to be single forever, and that scares me that I could very well be. I desire to have a husband and children, so I don’t know if this means that maybe I am still called to marriage but it just is not my time right now. Also, I felt bad, because I hae been thinking about it so much lately and today I just was not in a good mood. I thought for a second that I should get close to God in order to get what I want. And, I feel bad thinking that, because I should be close to God no matter. But, it’s just been so hard for me. Is this a sin if I thought that? Please pray for me that if there is someone for me that I could meet him soon, or at least one day. Thank you, and God Bless you all

 

[englishredrose]

Im a single female in my 40’s and it don’t bother me. In fact am happier single I think though never having a relationship doesn’t really prove that am happy single. But am okay with it. It does mean I tend to feel I am quite selfish because there is only me to think of. But when I have listened to mothers go on about their children. Initially I thought it to be not selfish, but in actualness it is another form of selfishness in that the children are of them and that is what they are really talking about. They are only looking for praise for their children, for them. They aren’t really listening to what ‘you’ might have to say if it nothing to do with their children etc, so just as selfish down the line.

I am quite close to God these days but my priest showed me how just this last year although been going for 25 year. Whether being single has made any difference I haven’t a clue. Just guidence from a priest who knew how to listen and teach me in the way I could be shown. I think being single has no bearing on that. Being free as in my life style has more bearing but that is what you make of your own lifestyle. You could be busy 24/7 and have time for God if you know how.

Just celebrate each day and try not to worry about a husband and children. If it happens, it happens and you are happy. Just think of the rows etc you’re not having. I look at partners in the street and actually do feel relieved when I see the battles that happen outside the home. I am not in that situation. I am not fighting a divorce or family debt. I am just me and in this day and age it is easier than ever so be free and single. It allows you to do the things you want to without seeking permission from one’s partner all the time. No one to nag that you spend too much time doing what you want to do.

 

[mikeeh]

Oh my, I hope being single and in your late twenties is not a bad thing. At 28 I’m still single and I don’t mind it. I wouldn’t want to force a relationship. My brother is 33 and has been dating his girlfriend for 10 years. My sister is single at 36, although I can tell she’s not always happy about it. Four of my older female cousins are not married. And I have many friends who are around my age or somewhat older who are also unmarried. Anyway, wanting to get closer to God so he can show you the way is good, but wanting to get closer to God so you can get what you want sounds more like you’re testing God which is bad.

 

[bolinstephen]

I’m single as well, and I don’t mind.

But you clearly do mind. I don’t think it is a sin for longing for a husband and children. But God is calling you to love him as an end to God’s self. God wants you to long for him, and him first.

I understand the longing for a significant other. I have felt that pain before many times. But think about this- that longing you have for a husband is how God feels about you. God longs for you far deeper than you know.

I know it is hard to just stop worrying when ever you want, but that is what Jesus is calling you to do now. Read the Sermon on the Mount (Mat 5-7). Understand that God takes care of the birds in the trees, and God will take care of you and give you exactly what you need- more so even than the birds of the air.

St. Augustine said in his *Confessions *that your soul will only find rest when it finds rest in God. Seek your rest in God. Reading the *Confessions *might not be a bad idea either.

I wish you well, and I wish you peace.

 

[bolinstephen]

I’m single as well, and I don’t mind.

But you clearly do mind. I don’t think it is a sin for longing for a husband and children. But God is calling you to love him as an end to God’s self. God wants you to long for him, and him first.

I understand the longing for a significant other. I have felt that pain before many times. But think about this- that longing you have for a husband is how God feels about you. God longs for you far deeper than you know.

I know it is hard to just stop worrying when ever you want, but that is what Jesus is calling you to do now. Read the Sermon on the Mount (Mat 5-7). Understand that God takes care of the birds in the trees, and God will take care of you and give you exactly what you need- more so even than the birds of the air.

St. Augustine said in his *Confessions *that your soul will only find rest when it finds rest in God. Seek your rest in God. Reading the *Confessions *might not be a bad idea either.

I wish you well, and I wish you peace.