Vocations a little frightening?

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The important thing is to trust that God knows what is best for you. If the vocation that you are discerning is not the right one then God will tell you so.
I have the same problem, I know exactly what you all mean. I have always known nuns and priests personally, our family is very involved in the parish and we have lots of relatives & family friends who are nuns and priests, and i just love every bit if it.
But then I think how nice it would be to have a family…especiallly a big one because I come from a large family and love having all the people around. Then I think how the other sisters in the convent would be like that family- and how they are never alone and have such wonderful relationships with people.

Like agoukass said, I have full trust in God that He will make everything okay…but I am too impatient to know what is best for me. But patience is a virtue and I must try my best:shrug:

Love Rachael
 
Dear All,

Wow, when I read all your messages make me realize that many people are struggle with it. **
For me, now I’m struggling with myself and try to discern it. But to tell you the truth, it’s very difficult and it seems that I’m in the place in between marriage life or religious life because I’m enggaged but I think that God calls me.
I went to retreat place which it’s a place for OCD order. I met and talked with one sister who have known me quite well and all the problems that I faced before until now. (she knows about the story between me and my fiance too)
She listened to me and said the seed of vocation is already in me but it’s very small and it depends on me whether I want to make it grow or not. But if I do want to make it grow that means I should fall in love with God 100% and crazy about HIM.
Listened to her make me think about what I have. I love God ofcourse but I love my fiance too. So I wonder whether God will allow me to love Him and my fiance in the same time??or will He allow me to choose my fiance more than Him??
I talked to one priest and his words really discouraged me although I understand that he doesn’t really know what I’ve been struggling. But the way he talked even make me couldn’t speak openly…so I think that it’s very difficult to get one good spiritual director because words can discourage or encourage you…

Anyone have the same experience??? **
Let me tell you that the nun you talk with is absolutely all right. However, the priest that you found sharp isn’t made for you.
I mean he can’t be your spiritual father.
I thought for a very long time that I was wrong inside me and my desires weren’t from God but from myself. I was wrong, but there were nobody I could talk about it with.

Finally, I found a Spiritual Father, a sweet priest, as sweet as honey. I’m really glad, because he freed me from many chains, from frights I had. You shall find a Spiritual Father if you pray fervently God to find one.

Your place is forcedly somewhere. Of course not where you don’t want to go!

Marriage is loving the other part as God Himself. Through God. Meaning that you love your partner as if he was God Himself, and you keep a close relationship with God. You must keep it because if you don’t, your marriage breaks up. 😦 Unfortunately, many people try to build up their lives without God’s help. In a marriage union, you need God’s strengh to forgive, to apologize, to become humble, to serve your partner like Jesus did with the Disciples.

Keep on praying. It’s normal that you struggle! I do as well, and It’s almost unbearable! But God’s with you. He struggled too during Getsemane, don’t forget it. He had the choice not to go… He did. You’ll have the strengh too. Don’t hesitate to ask for help! God’ll hear you!

He Bless You!
 
Let me tell you that the nun you talk with is absolutely all right. However, the priest that you found sharp isn’t made for you.
I mean he can’t be your spiritual father.
I thought for a very long time that I was wrong inside me and my desires weren’t from God but from myself. I was wrong, but there were nobody I could talk about it with.

Finally, I found a Spiritual Father, a sweet priest, as sweet as honey. I’m really glad, because he freed me from many chains, from frights I had. You shall find a Spiritual Father if you pray fervently God to find one.

Your place is forcedly somewhere. Of course not where you don’t want to go!

Marriage is loving the other part as God Himself. Through God. Meaning that you love your partner as if he was God Himself, and you keep a close relationship with God. You must keep it because if you don’t, your marriage breaks up. 😦 Unfortunately, many people try to build up their lives without God’s help. In a marriage union, you need God’s strengh to forgive, to apologize, to become humble, to serve your partner like Jesus did with the Disciples.

Keep on praying. It’s normal that you struggle! I do as well, and It’s almost unbearable! But God’s with you. He struggled too during Getsemane, don’t forget it. He had the choice not to go… He did. You’ll have the strengh too. Don’t hesitate to ask for help! God’ll hear you!

He Bless You!
Hi…Thanks a lot…God bless
 
What we are called to is a daunting task of discernment and living out our vocation. We are bound to fail in some ways and just knowing this causes us to hesitate. It is through mistakes and failings that we gain strength and cherish our talents. I am not saying go sin because it is inevitable, I am just saying that God is forgiving and we have to trust him to lead us down the right path. When we make a mistake he will be there for us and pick us up all over again. Thankfully our God is a personal and forgiving God (I don’t know what I would do without his mercy). “Adult” life or maturity calls us to go beyond our selfish desires and be self-giving in our vocation and life. This is a scary thing because we have a survival instinct of what about me? Self-care is important but also do not forget that through giving yourself to God and to others you are probably nourishing your heart in much greater ways than selfish desires. I am not saying you are selfish, I am just saying the fear comes from the call to give. How much do you want of me God? Are you going to leave me with nothing left for me? Will I be able to survive with only that? The answer is if that is God’s will for you then YES!!! YES! YES! He loves us and we are His children, we need to trust that he will care for us like a parent and teach us how to give of ourselves in an ordered manner. God Bless and my prayers are with you!
 
very scary, but you get used to it and it even turns into happiness. keep frequenting the Sacraments and growing in spirit as much as you can, everyday. don’t worry, time will reveal His plan for you and it’ll all be fine. prayers!
 
I confess that sometimes… i’ve got the temptation to flee this call by doing other things… forgetting prayer, forgetting the Mighty Being… Because I’m less afraid…😊

But it’s not good, and just to fight against this, I go to a monastery every month. Even if I don’t feel the desire. Of course, I never regret it.😃
 
I confess that sometimes… i’ve got the temptation to flee this call by doing other things… forgetting prayer, forgetting the Mighty Being… Because I’m less afraid…😊

But it’s not good, and just to fight against this, I go to a monastery every month. Even if I don’t feel the desire. Of course, I never regret it.😃
lately i realized how important community is. especially peers. the monastery is definitely great. Christian radio and music. Catholic TV… seeing these things helps me to remember that it is all real and worth fighting for on those days that i wonder…
 
Yes, using God’s stuff in concrete life: I love listening to Christian musics as a teen, not to feel too different from my lay mates. 😃
Belonging to a community like Catholic Answers is also good, because sharing it helps us very much to realize that it’s the truth! Especially with people who have the same convictions as us. If we don’t, we finish to give up everything, unfortunately. We are week…

I decided with hardships to go back to the place I met God. I had some spiritual struggles before I took this decision, and now I feel a great peace in my heart. I’ve no doubt that some graces are waiting for me in this place! 👍

An advise for young people: they need to meet some other young people sometimes! I say that because in France, churches are filled with old people, and we lack young people. That’s why I love going to young catholics’ gatherings. 😛
 
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