Waiting on annulment to enter Church

[DKIN]

A bit of background. My wife, daughter and I are in RCIA/RCIC with intentions of joining the Church. My wife and I were both baptized in the Baptist faith and our daughter has not been baptized. I have an annulment in process that probably won’t be complete until late summer or fall. I am aware that I am not going to be able to be confirmed and receive first communion at Easter Vigil due to my ongoing annulment case, My question is this. It has recently been brought to my attention that there may be some question as to whether or not my wife will be able to enter the church. Furthermore, that seems to call into question if my daughter would then be able to join since she wouldn’t have a Catholic parent if my wife and I had to wait for the completion of my annulment.

I hope all of the above made sense…if not, feel free to ask questions. I will be speaking to our priest about this, but am finding it difficult to have patience. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Thank you and God Bless!

DKIN

 

[Phemie]

A bit of background. My wife, daughter and I are in RCIA/RCIC with intentions of joining the Church. My wife and I were both baptized in the Baptist faith and our daughter has not been baptized. I have an annulment in process that probably won’t be complete until late summer or fall. I am aware that I am not going to be able to be confirmed and receive first communion at Easter Vigil due to my ongoing annulment case, My question is this. It has recently been brought to my attention that there may be some question as to whether or not my wife will be able to enter the church. Furthermore, that seems to call into question if my daughter would then be able to join since she wouldn’t have a Catholic parent if my wife and I had to wait for the completion of my annulment.

I hope all of the above made sense…if not, feel free to ask questions. I will be speaking to our priest about this, but am finding it difficult to have patience. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Thank you and God Bless!

DKIN

Yes, it would affect your wife since your present marriage will not be valid in the Church unless your first marriage is found invalid. What happens if you are not granted a decree of nullity? Do you keep coming to Mass even if you can’t be received into full communion? Do you still want your daughter to be Catholic if that happens? I think these are things you need to take to the Pastor.

 

[Gorgias]

Yes, it would affect your wife since your present marriage will not be valid in the Church unless your first marriage is found invalid. What happens if you are not granted a decree of nullity?

Hmm… but if the OP and his wife agreed to “live as brother and sister”, then there wouldn’t necessarily be an impediment to entry into the Church, should there?

You should definitely talk to your pastor about this, just to set your mind at ease…

 

[joanofarc2008]

Your daughter could still be Catholic but there would have to be some pastoral counseling with your priest as you would have to be able to ensure that she would be raised Catholic after receiving her Sacraments. If you would like to join us in our group you are welcome - feel free to use the link in my signature block. There is are a couple of people in there that are already remarried that are waiting who are all dealing with the situation differently. God bless,

 

[BettyBoop416]

Hmm… but if the OP and his wife agreed to “live as brother and sister”, then there wouldn’t necessarily be an impediment to entry into the Church, should there?

I often read about “living as brother and sister” on this forum, but seriously - who is REALLY going to agree to live this way? Very, very few, I’ll wager.

 

[joanofarc2008]

I often read about “living as brother and sister” on this forum, but seriously - who is REALLY going to agree to live this way? Very, very few, I’ll wager.

I know of a few who do it. Some are even on this forum. It is tough from what I hear. The point is that some will out of love for Christ in the Eucharist. Marriage is not all about sex.