I have been involved in Waldorf education for many years, incorporating as many elements as feasible into my 25 years of homeschooling, and never heard of cross dressing days or any of that nonsense. They are actually very traditional, celebrating the catholic feast days, but with a new age twist. Research Rudolph Steiner and Anthroposophy if you want to know what they actually teach. Their educational methods are sound, if unconventional, and it is a very gentle and nurturing environment, where school is more homelike. They do not allow television or electronic games and toys, which is also sound developmentally.
There is a lot to admire, and Steiner was way ahead of his time in his development of schools and homes for the mentally and physically disabled - see Camphill movement. He was responding to the overly strict German educational model and founded his first school for the children of factory workers. He was at odds with Hitler, but died before it became an issue.
I have a large selection of books from Waldorf sources and all assume a traditional family structure with father, mother, siblings, etc. usually the assumption is that mother is home to do all the bread baking, knitting and sewing that contribute to the ideal Waldorf home. Just like you can find Catholics who will swear that the rules have changed and mortal sin no longer exists you will find people who have corrupted Steiner’s ideas, it is the spirit of the times.
Feminists and witches may be attracted to Waldorf schools, and individual schools may be off the wall, but that is not the essence of Waldorf education. Love, rhythm, tranquility and security is.