WANTED: Prayers as well as Advice

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Im having troubles with my girlfriend. We have been dating for almost a year. This is the first serious relationship we have both ever been in. Seeing as this is a new thing for both of us, we have had our ups and downs. Unfortunately, we are currently just coming off of a big down. In fact almost the entire month of October. I believe it is directly related to me being away at college and her being at home. It has made everything so much harder.

We are currently on the second day of a break that she decided we should take. We both still love each other but she said she needs to figure out for herself if she loves me more then just a friend. At one point, I know she did but Im afraid the past couple weeks may have changed that. I know I truly do love her as more then just a friend, and this is why I need you’re prayers. We arnt even 48 hours into our break and Its all I can think about. Ive been miserable. I just want to make everything better. As of now, Im just putting my trust in her that she will remember the love she once had for me and not the hard times we faced with each other seeing as that is all i can do. Im hoping that she remembers the fun times we spent together and the laughter and smiles that we shared during the course of the next two weeks.

But in the end, all I truly want is for her to be happy and I want her to take the path that will end the end make her the happiest. So please, pray that our relationship takes the path that God has intended for it and the path that will make my girlfriend happiest, because in the end thats all I want for her.
 
Unrequited love is very hard to bear. God bless you.

I believe that, if it’s meant to be in the Heart of God, it will be mutual and not so hard
to keep going. Anytime, in my experience, that a woman says she sees you “as a friend”,
romance and love are NOT to be realized.
 
bsroufek said:
Unrequited love is very hard to bear. God bless you.

I believe that, if it’s meant to be in the Heart of God, it will be mutual and not so hard
to keep going. Anytime, in my experience, that a woman says she sees you “as a friend”,
romance and love are NOT to be realized.
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I agree, although I know she did indeed once love me as more then a friend. There is not a doubt in my mind. She never said “I love you as just a friend” she said she needed time to figure out how she loves me. So until she comes to me and tells me she does truly love me, or she just loves me as a friend, Im not giving up. I just think the love she did have for me at one point has dwindled due to the problems we were facing. I just want her to see that we need to work on correcting those problem and that her love for me will then grow again.

My worst fear is that she is just going to give up on us without at least trying to fix everything first and then seeing if her love once again grows for me. But All I can do is put my trust in her and in God that she will be guided to make the correct decision.

Thank you all for your prayers. I will be praying for you as well.
 
bsroufek said:
Unrequited love is very hard to bear. God bless you.

I believe that, if it’s meant to be in the Heart of God, it will be mutual and not so hard
to keep going. Anytime, in my experience, that a woman says she sees you “as a friend”,
romance and love are NOT to be realized.
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I hate to say it but I’m going to have to agree with Brian on this one. I’ll pray for you that you can accept whatever the future holds for you but I wouldn’t count on her being in it. God may have someone better in mind. From my own experiences and those of some of my friends when relationships start getting messy and complicated, it usually means it’s coming to an end. The worse thing you can do is keep trying to resuscitate a relationship that just isn’t going to breath on it’s own anymore. It’s degrading, you end up feeling used, and pathetic. It’s better to just deal with the pain straight on, let yourself grieve a little and move on. Unrequited love makes a good topic for music lyrics, poetry, stories, but it’s no way to live. Take care and God bless you. Sending hugs…
 
Olimar said:
Im having troubles with my girlfriend. We have been dating for almost a year. This is the first serious relationship we have both ever been in. Seeing as this is a new thing for both of us, we have had our ups and downs. Unfortunately, we are currently just coming off of a big down. In fact almost the entire month of October. I believe it is directly related to me being away at college and her being at home. It has made everything so much harder.

We are currently on the second day of a break that she decided we should take. We both still love each other but she said she needs to figure out for herself if she loves me more then just a friend. At one point, I know she did but Im afraid the past couple weeks may have changed that. I know I truly do love her as more then just a friend, and this is why I need you’re prayers. We arnt even 48 hours into our break and Its all I can think about. Ive been miserable. I just want to make everything better. As of now, Im just putting my trust in her that she will remember the love she once had for me and not the hard times we faced with each other seeing as that is all i can do. Im hoping that she remembers the fun times we spent together and the laughter and smiles that we shared during the course of the next two weeks.

But in the end, all I truly want is for her to be happy and I want her to take the path that will end the end make her the happiest. So please, pray that our relationship takes the path that God has intended for it and the path that will make my girlfriend happiest, because in the end thats all I want for her.
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I will pray for you.

But do you suspect any problems on your part? Are you smothering her too much? Do you compliment her, flirt with her, tease her?
 
Deana83 is wise. I would give her space to think, and I would not ring, E-mail, call around etc,
sometimes absense can make the heart grow fonder, or it can throw up the truth of I like the person as a friend but not as a potential husband.

I would try now to harden your heart for bad news, God has different plans, and who knows what he has around the corner for you, I know this is not the news you would like- sorry, But for your own sake, be prepared, and just to give you a bit of a laugh a few years ago my boyfriend at the time broke it off and was very upset by it, and I said to him so much for telling me that you loved me over and over again, he replied by telling yes I did tell you I loved you but not 100%, so I said back, goodness I never knew that love came in %.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
Thank you everyone so so much. I just joined this site today and Im honestly shocked at the amount of support I have gotten. Its truly amazing. Im definitely preparing my self for the worst at this point because as others have said, I fear it is coming. But at the same time I dont want to give up until she tells me its over. I Just need to give her space and time. With the amount of prayers from the community, I think she will be able to make the correct decision and thats all I can ask for.

Again, thank you so much. I will be praying for all of you as well.
 
Sounds like you need a prayer for happiness. Prayin’ for ya buddy.
 
Praying that the Lord may guide and strengthen both of you and lead you to the happiness He has in mind for you.

O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
 
Memorare

REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou among women
And Blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God
Pray for us sinners now
and at the hour of our death.
Amen
 
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