Wanting marriage but no children and struggling with faith

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Let’s say you do get married. Now you’ll be having sex and the stress of ‘will I get pregnant?’
How are you going to reconcile that sex means the risk of pregnancy?
 
That’s seems easy enough. I tend to over think a lot. I definitely don’t expect to get married anytime soon but I’m always worried since it seems like no one is showing interest in me. I love my hobbies and going out with my friends. Most of my friends are guys I get along with guys better than girls most of the time. I spend most of my time working on music and acting and doing acting and theatre unfortunately in that there’s a lot of gay guys lol. Thank you for your answer. It calms me down a bit. I’m just hoping I find a guy who also doesn’t want kids
 
Lol well duh sex isn’t a cure for loneliness. I know I’ll be able to date without fornicating. That’s not going to be hard for me. Especially if I date another catholic or at least another Christian
 
I’m on birth control for heath reasons so I’m not too worried about it. It’s not bothering me. Before I was catholic I had always wanted my tubes tied and now I’m kinda upset learning that Catholics can’t do that but oh well
 
I’m on birth control for heath reasons so I’m not too worried about it. It’s not bothering me. Before I was catholic I had always wanted my tubes tied and now I’m kinda upset learning that Catholics can’t do that but oh well
What particularly about Catholicism drew you to the Church?
 
Hello @LoveAndSparkles

I can’t contribute with how to square wanting a childless marriage with your faith, but I do want to give you my 2 cents. One, it’s not rare to want to be married and not have kids. Marriage and parenthood often go hand-in-hand, but they are different types of relationships. Whatever you do, don’t have children you don’t want. Don’t assume the desire to be a parent will kick in afterward. Two, by itself I don’t think this desire to settle down is so strange. Nor is it strange to have that lack of fulfillment feel like a partial emptiness. You’re going to have to determine whether that desire springs from wanting to engage in the natural next stage of your life or merely as a means to have sex or make up for a deficiency you see in yourself.

I know what you discern from this is going to be fraught with conflict. Don’t let anyone tell you the choices that shape your life are easy, But I hope you take it slow and find what works best for every part of you. Best of luck!
 
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If you don’t wish to be a mother, I do not think you should get married. But I think your views on parenthood may change when you meet the right guy.

And motherhood doesn’t have to be 24/7. You may end up being able to afford a nanny for some respite. Your husband might do a great deal of the work. Your own parents might come and help out. Also, within five years, your child will attend school a lot of the time; you can do your music and such for one or two hours per day.

I would let the lizards go to a friend for a while and try babysitting one child regularly. Or join an organization like Big Brothers and Sisters in which you spend time with an underprivileged child once or twice per week.
 
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