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Hello everyone,
If I can ask for your prayers for something that has been very difficult for me (and I’m sure my friend involved as well)…
Long story short, there’s this guy I’ve been friends with for a while. Recently, he expressed his feelings for me and said he’s felt them for a while but didn’t want to get in my way because at one point I was discerning (which is a whole other story - I have since discerned out of religious life). Obviously, I made it known to him that his feelings are reciprocated and I really like him. He is someone I can see myself marrying. However, the night he expressed his feelings for me he also said that, although he wishes he could give me his heart, for some reason he feels God is holding him back and calling him to sacrifice himself in a different way, and his thoughts are that God’s calling him back to religious life to discern with an order (few years earlier, he had been in seminary but discerned out of diocesan priesthood). He asked that, as long as I’m willing, he would like to continue to develop our friendship by hanging out. We have and obviously I want to always hang out with him, but clearly get emotionally invested whenever I do. I’ve told him this and he is very understanding.
This week, he goes to visit an order for a few days. If you could please, please keep him in your prayers. I really want him to have clarity as to what his vocation truly is by the end of this retreat/visit at the latest. This has been something that has been eating at me emotionally because I obviously would like for this to work out in our favor and that we can both willingly be together, but also don’t want to pray for something if it isn’t God’s Will. I know I need to abandon myself to God’s Holy Will, but am having trust issues, in a sense, with God due to previous situations with this guy - I feel that whenever I tried to let go and forget, he would come back into my life and when I want something that’s good and holy, I’m not getting it. He is such a good and holy man, someone I’ve been praying for and we get along so well, which makes it all the harder. God is really testing my patience and I’ve been praying out the wazoo.
If anyone has any encouraging words, they are much appreciated.
Thank you so much, everyone. Pax.
If I can ask for your prayers for something that has been very difficult for me (and I’m sure my friend involved as well)…
Long story short, there’s this guy I’ve been friends with for a while. Recently, he expressed his feelings for me and said he’s felt them for a while but didn’t want to get in my way because at one point I was discerning (which is a whole other story - I have since discerned out of religious life). Obviously, I made it known to him that his feelings are reciprocated and I really like him. He is someone I can see myself marrying. However, the night he expressed his feelings for me he also said that, although he wishes he could give me his heart, for some reason he feels God is holding him back and calling him to sacrifice himself in a different way, and his thoughts are that God’s calling him back to religious life to discern with an order (few years earlier, he had been in seminary but discerned out of diocesan priesthood). He asked that, as long as I’m willing, he would like to continue to develop our friendship by hanging out. We have and obviously I want to always hang out with him, but clearly get emotionally invested whenever I do. I’ve told him this and he is very understanding.
This week, he goes to visit an order for a few days. If you could please, please keep him in your prayers. I really want him to have clarity as to what his vocation truly is by the end of this retreat/visit at the latest. This has been something that has been eating at me emotionally because I obviously would like for this to work out in our favor and that we can both willingly be together, but also don’t want to pray for something if it isn’t God’s Will. I know I need to abandon myself to God’s Holy Will, but am having trust issues, in a sense, with God due to previous situations with this guy - I feel that whenever I tried to let go and forget, he would come back into my life and when I want something that’s good and holy, I’m not getting it. He is such a good and holy man, someone I’ve been praying for and we get along so well, which makes it all the harder. God is really testing my patience and I’ve been praying out the wazoo.
If anyone has any encouraging words, they are much appreciated.
Thank you so much, everyone. Pax.
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