Wanting to get pregnant in God's time=toxic Christian

[blujazz25]

blujazz25 said:

“Exactly! And the hard part is, they don’t get it…i just hope eventually they will see that.”

One of the saddest things that can happen to a person who otherwise has a good life is to become that infertile woman who has been trying for years and just can’t forgive other people for having kids. Your relatives are buying you an express train ticket to being that person. That’s not nice at all. Your brother, in particular, seems very much in your business, but you did allow the conversation to happen.

One of my married cousins didn’t have kids. She had everything–but no kids. I wondered about that. You can imagine, though, my delight at not having said anything when years later, I learned that she and her husband had been struggling with infertility.

I tried to keep him out of it by saying that it will happen in time. The thing is we have different view points on marriage. From my understanding, his idea of marriage is quality time with your wife and stuff. Not that i am completely against it but we believe that marriage is tri fold, husband, wife and God. Family history plays its role but foundation speaking, nothing will stand for long without God.

 

[EasterJoy]

Well my mom kinda gets it…because there are time where in she will tell me that she had to butt in what my dad’s opinions by saying"you dont have the right to now, she’s an adult and married, let her decide". but there are times where she gives the guilt trip and ends the sentence with “well its up to you”. Not very helpful. at those times, i feel manipulated.

You’ve got her figured out…she’s trying to have her cake and eat it, too. When she really butts out, you’ll know it. For some reason you’ll always be able to breath the same when she’s talking as when she’s not!

Q: How many guilt-trip moms does it take to change a lightbulb?
A: None. “Oh, it’s OK…I don’t mind being in the dark. You have your own life to live, you go have fun, heaven knows I went without when you were growing up, I can live without a light now…”

 

[ephesians4]

“Our intimate time is, to put it in excessively polite and respectful terms, none of your bloody business. Give it a rest right now.”