Wanting to move, DH doesn't want to

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Toxic, cut-off parents live only a half-block away; it’s been this way for almost five years now. I’ve been wanting to move in the worst way–anywhere, any time.

However, DH doesn’t want to. He has a good job that pays him well and that he’s liking so far (though he did express an interest in pursuing a job change come December). We’re in an area that fosters his desire to hunt and fish. But I think the main thing is that if we move, he’ll feel like it’s a “win” or “they win” with regard to both our toxic extended families. Since my income is part-time, I can pretty much get a job anywhere, and since we homeschool, finding a school is unimportant.

Plus, there’s part of me that doesn’t care if it might not be God’s will for us; isn’t that awful, to not care what God thinks? But continued exposure to my parents is really wearing on me mentally, and it’s like I can’t get away from them because DH doesn’t want to/isn’t ready.

Is it wrong for me to pray for a move anyway? Is it wrong for me to ask God to speak to my husband and change his heart on this issue?
 
By our actions toward our own parents we teach our kids how we expect to be treated when they are adults.

Maybe pray for peace in your family and put how that peace comes about in God’s hands?
 
No–by our inaction towards people who are abusive, even those who share a bloodline, we’re teaching our children how to take abuse and perpetuate it.

Being a “parent” does not give one an excuse to be abusive.
 
Praying for peace within your home & family. Your children should not be exposed to a toxic environment.
 
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What caused you to live so close?

Could you simply stay in the same general area but not be half block away?

What would stop your estranged family from just following you?

God wants good for you; so, yes if it is his will for you to stay then it would be counterproductive to fight that.
 
JetteZ said:
What caused you to live so close?

Could you simply stay in the same general area but not be half block away?
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Yeah. There are choices between 1,000 miles away and a block away.

If your husband’s job changes after December, that might be a good excuse for moving closer to his work.
 
TheLittleLady said:
By our actions toward our own parents we teach our kids how we expect to be treated when they are adults.

Maybe pray for peace in your family and put how that peace comes about in God’s hands?
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Sometimes the reverse is also true - we teach our kids how they can expect to be treated by what we accept.
 
My prayer for your family and you, and that God will answer your prayers according to His love for your family.
 
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