Wanting to stay young - a sin?

[cynic]

Is wanting to stay young, in terms of appearence, a sin? Is it normal to feel a little depressed once you get past 25? To feel a little bad about looking and feeling middle aged in the not-too-distant future. Or is it just selfish and vain?

 

[dulcissima]

Is wanting to stay young, in terms of appearence, a sin? Is it normal to feel a little depressed once you get past 25? To feel a little bad about looking and feeling middle aged in the not-too-distant future. Or is it just selfish and vain?

Hmmm. I don’t know. It probably could be a little bit selfish, but it is definitely normal. I think like anything else as long as it’s not taken to extremes, enjoy your last bits of not being too old. I’m pretty sure I still have a few years yet of being 17

 

[LilyM]

Is wanting to stay young, in terms of appearence, a sin? Is it normal to feel a little depressed once you get past 25? To feel a little bad about looking and feeling middle aged in the not-too-distant future. Or is it just selfish and vain?

25? Middle-aged? Get over yourself!

Just had to say that as someone who is well past her 25th year.

If you feel depressed about getting older chances are there’s something else missing from your life and it’s not actually not about age at all.

 

[puzzleannie]

Is wanting to stay young, in terms of appearence, a sin? Is it normal to feel a little depressed once you get past 25? To feel a little bad about looking and feeling middle aged in the not-too-distant future. Or is it just selfish and vain?

no, but considering 25 to be the threshold of middle age is a bit weird. I would not get this depressed about middle age until you are 35 or 40, and don’t even tell me 55 is getting old I don’t want to hear it.

 

[Katie1723]

I wouldn’t want to be 25. I love my age(53) and I am not ashamed to admit it. I have much more freedom now. What I thought was important at 25 (looking younger for 1) isn’t important anymore. I can come and go as I please. Do what I want, when I want. Don’t have to worry about messing up someones naptime. As for looks, well, I don’t have to impress anyone.I take care of myself, but I don’t need to look in the mirror every 5 minutes.
There is something to be said for being older. And as long as you “think young”, you “look young”
As for being depressed, sure we all feel that way once in awhile. That’s when you put your flannel nightie on, your bunny slippers on make some popcorn and hot chocolate and find a good old movie.

Kathy

 

[rwoehmke]

When I was 15 I thought 30 was old. Then when I was 30 I thought 45 was old. Then when I was 45 I thought 60 must be awful old. Now I am 71 and while I am a lot slower and have crepe skin and liver spots I would say 85 must be what they mean when they say old. I don’t think it is ever a sin to want to look presentable, but to worry constantly about getting older doesn’t change a thing. We are all gonna get old and we are gonna die…so enjoy what you have and what you are because tomorrow may never come for you. God can call us home at the most inconvenient times.

 

[RWMorris]

I just turned 42 (I know, I know…to many people that is young!). But I sympathize with the OP although age 25 seems mighty young to have to worry about getting older.
My thirties were the greatest, maybe my forties will be pretty good, too. I just don’t like the feeling of being forty-something!

 

[RWMorris]

I just turned 42 (I know, I know…to many people that is young!). But I sympathize with the OP although age 25 seems mighty young to have to worry about getting older.
My thirties were the greatest, maybe my forties will be pretty good, too. I just don’t like the feeling of being forty-something!

 

[RWMorris]

I just turned 42 (I know, I know…to many people that is young!). But I sympathize with the OP although age 25 seems mighty young to have to worry about getting older.
My thirties were the greatest, maybe my forties will be pretty good, too. I just don’t like the feeling of being forty-something!

 

[gmarie21]

Is wanting to stay young, in terms of appearence, a sin? Is it normal to feel a little depressed once you get past 25? To feel a little bad about looking and feeling middle aged in the not-too-distant future. Or is it just selfish and vain?

If you obsess about it, then yes, you’re vain and may be committing a sin. To worry about it, then by your worrying you’ll probably be speeding up the aging process (our bodies don’t take too well to too much worrying). As a 29 year old, I still feel 16 at times and realize my looks aren’t as important as who I am spiritually and emotionally. Just look at who society thinks of as being youthful, celebrities. How many have been through relationship after relationship and are obviously still unhappy, trying to go through the latest exercise craze, new age spirituality, plastic surgery just to be happy, yet are still turning up empty handed? That is enough of a reason for me to focus on developing a personality to carry me through life.

 

[cynic]

So I’ll be 28 in a month. It is very much an appearence thing, I’m not going to pretend otherwise. Not that I am (or was) in any way good looking, and it’s very superficial of course, but I just can’t help it. I’m terrified of looking like a middle aged man! I can’t help thinking that people will think less and less of you with the degrading looks, the chance of finding a marriage partner shrinks, and there’s nothing but years and years of sitting in an office ahead…

 

[mommyof4]

Is wanting to stay young, in terms of appearence, a sin? Is it normal to feel a little depressed once you get past 25? To feel a little bad about looking and feeling middle aged in the not-too-distant future. Or is it just selfish and vain?

Past 25? Oh dear, try 40, when you’ve had 4 children via c-section, and everything has been squished into the wrong places. My youngest daugher saw me getting out of the shower one day, and she said to me “mom, you boobs are falling.” That pretty much sums it up.

 

[BlestOne]

Past 25? Oh dear, try 40, when you’ve had 4 children via c-section, and everything has been squished into the wrong places. My youngest daugher saw me getting out of the shower one day, and she said to me “mom, you boobs are falling.” That pretty much sums it up.

That is sooo funny! I am 43 and life is just beginning! I never had breasts to sag because you have to have breasts for them to sag! I guess there are advantages to the ibtc. That is until now that I am pregnant…they have grown quite a bit…what a change!!!

Seriously, if 25 is middle aged… I guess I am ancient, and I love it!

 

[dulcissima]

So I’ll be 28 in a month. It is very much an appearence thing, I’m not going to pretend otherwise. Not that I am (or was) in any way good looking, and it’s very superficial of course, but I just can’t help it. I’m terrified of looking like a middle aged man! I can’t help thinking that people will think less and less of you with the degrading looks, the chance of finding a marriage partner shrinks, and there’s nothing but years and years of sitting in an office ahead…

28? You are way too young to worry. Men can still be totally attractive in their 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, etc. Just watch that if you are balding you keep your hair trimmed short. Besides, if 50 is the new 30, that means you’re only 8!

 

[Jay2]

Can I assume you’re single, and a bit discouraged by the dudes with bling & the hotties hanging on them?

Just keep the waistband of your trousers at least 4" below your bellybutton, the same waistband under 36", and no socks when wearing sandals and you’re cool…

You’re only as old as you allow yourself to be. I’m 42, and pay the price for “thinking” I’m still in my 20’s… (takes a LOT longer to heal ) What I find myself doing is applying my experiences (via time) to circumvent the impulsive “20 something go for its” and the subsequent “Oh sh*t this is gonna hurt tomorrows”…

I’m out busting it with teenagers in the Scouts one weekend every month, and they’re the ones wheezing and calling for a break on hikes! (What they don’t know is I can barely undress and crawl into the sleeping bag at night )… but I can hold my own with the “young bucks”… and I earn their respect and the ultimate compliment “For an old dude you’re OK”.

It’s not a sin to want to be younger… I’d say it’s a sin to take surgical means to alter yourself to appear younger… that would be a selfish act.

At 28 you’re in a transitional stage… not a carefree cruiser, and not yet accomplished man… give it a few years. Look at other men that are in their mid 30’s, that have their “act” together…you’ll understand what I mean.

Physical appearance is only a small element. A man who’s proud, confident, true, and has his life in order will have the same (in female form) clamoring for his attention… regardless if you’re bald and don’t have a six-pack gut.

 

[cynic]

I don’t want to be thought of as an “old dude”, ever.
In a world where half the human population is starving, this sounds pretty pathetic. I guess it’s about being attached to certian things associated with youth (like having real friends, not just the polite aquaintances that older people tend to have).

It’s not a sin to want to be younger… I’d say it’s a sin to take surgical means to alter yourself to appear younger… that would be a selfish act.

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And what about using cosmetics, or near surgical treatments (like for eg botox)?

 

[dulcissima]

Do you think your real friends are going to ditch you just because you get older? I think chances are good that they’re going to get older too. Maybe they’ll get married and you’ll move to the periphery. It happens. We live in time, not a vaccum, and we have not yet reached eternity and perfection. There’s nothing to fear, and I’m pretty sure being an old dude is not so bad provided you have people in your life that appreciate you, advanced years and all.

 

[Holly3278]

Well, I’ve certainly never read anything in the Catechism about this being a sin. Also, I don’t see how a natural human desire such as this could be a sin.

 

[Holly3278]

Well, I’ve certainly never read anything in the Catechism about this being a sin. Also, I don’t see how a natural human desire such as this could be a sin.

 

[Celtic_FC]

Cynic, I totally hear you buddy. I’m 29, and I’ve been lifting weights since I was 15. Now I kind of want to quit working out because I’ll be 30 in six months, so who cares right? I’ll be married next year which has a lot to do with it too. It sucks getting old. I always joke with my friends that I wish I could go back to when I was 5 or 6 and do it all over again, but I can’t go back I know. Oh yeah representing the Eddie Money in the blank 7…