We eloped now what?

[Cathracer104]

Ok this is going to sound bad I am in RCIA and my fiance is a baptized catholic. We have been engaged for a while and probably did a immature act and eloped. What can we do to make it right with the church? Is there anything? This is probably wreckless sounding but we both agreed and wanted to do it. We don’t regret it at all just want to make it right with the church. Can anyone help?

 

[Brenda_V]

Talk to your Priest. He is the only one who can help you make it right.

Brenda V.

 

[Ceil-1]

Welcome to the club, my friend. Hopefully, there are no impediments to your marriage (like a divorce). Just go the the priest ( a good one). Both of you go to confession, and have the Church bless the marriage. Hide the pictures from your kids, because you don’t want to have to explain it.

We had a not-very-good priest marry us. (He has since been de-frocked). He had us skip pre-Cana, and did not tell us to go to confession first. We were told later that the graces of our marriage manifested after we both repented and went to confession. Also, you are obligated to live as brother and sister until you are reconciled. So, the sooner the better. Go to marriage prep, too.

 

[lizaanne]

Ok this is going to sound bad I am in RCIA and my fiance is a baptized catholic. We have been engaged for a while and probably did a immature act and eloped. What can we do to make it right with the church? Is there anything? This is probably wreckless sounding but we both agreed and wanted to do it. We don’t regret it at all just want to make it right with the church. Can anyone help?

You are not making it right with “the Church”, you are making it right with God.

Yep - time to see a priest.

~Liza

 

[agapewolf]

Ok this is going to sound bad I am in RCIA and my fiance is a baptized catholic. We have been engaged for a while and probably did a immature act and eloped. What can we do to make it right with the church? Is there anything? This is probably wreckless sounding but we both agreed and wanted to do it. We don’t regret it at all just want to make it right with the church. Can anyone help?

By eloping, you decided to turn away from the church. This is a serious sin, although perhaps you didn’t realize that.

Now that you know, I WOULD HOPE you would regret it. You are not married validly, and your fiance should go to confession, as well as you at the appropriate time in your process of RCIA (if you are baptized). Your confession can be valid only if you are trully repentant. Also, please stop any sexual relations until you are married validly in the church.

Nothing dealing with the sacraments should be approached “recklessly”.

 

[kage_ar]

Speak with your Priest and apologize to her parents.

You made the decision, now, make it right with God.

 

[pnewton]

One of the basic precepts of the Church is that all Catholics are bound to follow the Church’s teaching on marriage, which your fiance did not. In the eyes of the Church and of God, a civil marriage is not a marriage. Your fiance is separated from the Sacramental life of the Church as long as you two live together as husband and wife. The situation can be rectified, but is was the wrong, and sinful, thing to do. Just remember as I say this I do not condemn for was all sin and fall.

Time for her to talk to her priest.

 

[whatevergirl]

Ok this is going to sound bad I am in RCIA and my fiance is a baptized catholic. We have been engaged for a while and probably did a immature act and eloped. What can we do to make it right with the church? Is there anything? This is probably wreckless sounding but we both agreed and wanted to do it. We don’t regret it at all just want to make it right with the church. Can anyone help?

My dh and I were married by a JOP (eloped sort of) also. This was 18 yrs ago practically…and when we officially joined a parish…back in PA…I had to fill out papers. We were sent a letter telling us that we couldn’t receive communion until our union was blessed by The Church. So, in a matter of weeks, we went through similiar questions that we went through during precana (we were intending on a wedding, long story why it didn’t happen…) and then the priest blessed us. We had a small but beautiful dinner afterwards with friends, and family. It was that simple for us…because we were already part of the Church. Since you are in RCIA, most likely…you will have to wait to finish…once you are ‘officially’ a Catholic…then, it should require you to seek out a parish, and a priest to bless your marriage.

I would talk to a priest…good luck, and congratulations on your marriage. As others here have said (which I was ignorant of back when my dh and I eloped)…you can’t have sex, until you are married in The Church. So, while it might have seemed romantic at the time, it will be difficult to live as brother and sister. You sound like you realize it was reckless and wrong…so all you can do now is move forward and make it right…with God.

 

[kage_ar]

One thing, what happens is more than a blessing, it is called a Convaildation.